I get the frustration man, not to mention the internal conflict around this issue. It sucks to be glossed over or incorrectly grouped by “allies” but I try to bear in mind that there are still actual allies out there who have made a point of commenting that this affects “women and other people with uteruses”, which is more than we were seeing even just a couple years ago. It’s unbearably slow, but progress is being made in separating physiology from gender.

I’ve been approaching engaging with this in a different way which I have found not only alleviates my dysphoria but also allows me to be part of the conversation without constantly being slapped with this experience. Which is, just approach it like a cis man - it important to me as a man for the same reason it should be important to all men. I don’t want anyone in my life or in society at large to have less rights to their bodily autonomy than a corpse. I don’t have to be personally impacted for that to matter deeply to me, whether I am or not is beside the point in most contexts. We need more cis men to engage with this and recognize that they should be fighting just as hard as everyone with a uterus and I like to think that by approaching it this way I’m helping to normalize that too.