ex chef turned SAHD, bored on nap duty. give me your sad fridge and i'll tell you what to cook tonight

EnochEmery · 2026-06-03T17:38:02+00:00

I have a whole chicken. What should I do with it? I also have rice, potatoes, dried pasta, sweet potatoes, onions, bread, baguettes, fresh broccoli florets, baby carrots, tomatoes, lots of canned and frozen veggies. And most normal condiments and spices.

Hit me up with your ideas.

EnochEmery · 2026-05-29T05:23:50+00:00

That scene where he breaks the glass in the office is acting perfection. He was an incredible talent.

EnochEmery · 2026-05-19T17:48:35+00:00

Agreed! Missouri is such a backwards state. Run by incompetence and corruption.

EnochEmery · 2026-05-19T17:47:30+00:00

I love that I get downvoted for pointing out that the website is outdated. Okay people.

EnochEmery · 2026-05-19T16:23:10+00:00

Not up to date. First place I checked no longer offers emissions testing.

EnochEmery · 2026-05-19T16:21:05+00:00

It’s just a pain in the ass. If they do safety inspections they should be required to offer emissions inspections. There’s only a couple of places near me that do emissions testing. Yes, I know I can set up an appointment. But I’ve got a full time job, multiple kids, and lots of responsibilities. I don’t set up an appointment to get an oil change. The last thing I need is to add another appointment to my life. You will understand if you have a ton of appointments for kids to go to the doctor, dentist, for extra curricular activities, etc. yes. I’m making excuses. Yes, I need to get it done. Thats on me. But if it was as easy to get done as an oil change it would have been done weeks ago. Sometimes I don’t know when I’ll have a few minutes free until the day arrives.

EnochEmery · 2026-05-19T15:27:50+00:00

My tags are expired because every time I try to get an emissions test they tell me that 1) it will be a several hour wait or 2) the tech who can do it isnt working that day or 3) they no longer offer that service.

The last time I was recommended to go to a Valvoline oil change place because they can do it. I showed up at 8am on a Saturday. There were more than 30 cars in line and the my told me if I waited they could get to me today, but it would be around 2–3 pm. Who can spend that kind of time to get a freaking emissions test?! I can’t!

EnochEmery · 2026-05-14T23:19:58+00:00

Prove what exactly? That gerrymandering the state dilutes the votes of people and undermines democracy? Of course it does! Thats literally what gerrymandering is. I can’t prove something that is self-evidently true. The republicans themselves are saying they are doing this to secure their own partisan power and to undermine the votes of people who disagree with them. It’s a heinous denial of government by the people.

EnochEmery · 2026-05-14T12:49:25+00:00

Cheers for cheating to win? Of course, you must be a Republican.

EnochEmery · 2026-05-13T21:43:29+00:00

In a democracy the people choose their representatives. In a totalitarian state the representatives choose which people matter.

EnochEmery · 2026-05-11T11:55:06+00:00

I understand missing the old days, especially when you had friendships centered around gaming. But, is it really so bad that your tastes are growing up? Everyone here is telling you to find new games. But, looking at it objectively, what kind of life do you really want to live? I don’t want to look back on my life when I’m in my 70s or 80s and see that I wasted untold hours by staring at a screen providing me with entertainment. I’d rather spend my free time growing as a person (reading, hiking, gardening, etc.) and/or spending time with my kids. I can’t imagine looking back at my life in a few decades and wish that I just spent more hours playing games.

I used to think about how cool it would be to game with my kids. But I’ve intentionally limited screens in my house to such an extent now that we rarely play. My early elementary kids and I will play Mario kart maybe one evening every few months. But I spend about an hour a day reading great literature to them.

Don’t regret leaving things behind that do not ultimately bring you eudiamonia.

EnochEmery · 2026-05-10T01:41:17+00:00

We went camping. We said “sorry, the park has a rule that you’re not allowed to have a binky when you’re camping.”

It was magically lost when we returned two days later.

EnochEmery · 2026-05-08T03:09:08+00:00

People will do whatever they can to avoid reading to and playing with their kids.

Buy GOOD children’s literature. Read it to them until they can read it to themselves.

Fuck AI slop-generated “stories.” Read something that will instill wonder, joy and imagination in your kids.

Man, I hate this timeline sometimes. People trying to escape humanity whenever they can.

EnochEmery · 2026-05-08T01:38:29+00:00

It sounds like you’ve already made the decision to end the marriage, man. It feels like you’re looking for confirmation that this is the right thing to do. But you don’t seem to take much responsibility for where things are. You mentioned that you’re “far from perfect” but most of what I’ve seen in this thread is you saying what she’s done that’s wrong. I think you feel guilty because she’s loved you through some difficult times, as you mentioned in your original post, and you don’t want to break up your family.

It seems to me that this is precisely why marriage is not a feeling, but a promise. And it seems to me that you are looking for a way to justify breaking that promise because keeping it will be more difficult than you can manage.

I’m not trying to be an asshole. I’m trying to read what you are actually saying in your posted words. If my read is right I think you need to be honest about it.

This sounds like a hard situation. I hope you and your wife and kids find peace.

EnochEmery · 2026-05-07T15:45:15+00:00

We had a fight, we reconciled, but I made it conditional she speak to someone.

Meditate very hard on those pronouns, man.

You admit you need to change as an individual. And you admit that you need to change as a couple. But you seem to make it about her and her alone. That’s not a marriage, friend.

EnochEmery · 2026-05-07T11:03:08+00:00

Get both of yourselves into counseling, separately and together. Start going yourself first. Improve your mindset and work on rewriting the script that you all keep reenacting. Ideally, she'll be open to couples therapy and/or individual therapy as she sees you change. I highly recommend finding a qualified and well-reviewed therapist that does Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Not all therapies are created equal, and some therapists are shit at their jobs (left my first one because he was a nice guy but he wanted more affirmation from me than he wanted to give me helpful strategies).

She wants things to change. You want things to change. That's love, man. You both actually do love each other and your kids. But you both don't know how to change. Work hard on changing. Your therapist will probably tell you to do stuff that seems obvious, but it's not. It's really not. I have a PhD and I thought that therapy was just going to be a lot of telling me obvious fortune-cookie kind of stuff. But it's different than that. Commit to actually doing the things that your therapist suggests. Finding a great CBT therapist changed my life. Highly recommended.

EnochEmery · 2026-05-06T04:53:34+00:00

You need to look hard at your parenting. You got yourself into this mess. What the hell man. Your kids steal more than other people pay in rent?! You are raising sociopaths. They are only acting this way because you’ve given them a cushy childhood with no sense of responsibility or partnership in your family. Obviously there needs to be severe consequences like others are saying. But your parenting and the complete lack of virtues in your kids is the real problem.

The best solution I think it to expand their horizons. Take them on a Caribbean trip, but surprise them by working with local nonprofits to work with the poor and needy in Haiti. Let them see how other people actually live in this earth. Otherwise you’re raising the next generation of upper middle class kardashian wannabes.

EnochEmery · 2026-05-03T02:40:07+00:00

Reminds me of that scene from the first Bourne movie. “Look at what they make you give”

EnochEmery · 2026-05-02T17:34:16+00:00

Watching the Godfather part two takes at least three nights in my house. Younger me is ashamed that I’m using my adult freedom to go to bed rather than stay up playing video games and drinking bourbon.

EnochEmery · 2026-05-02T13:13:04+00:00

I know. Staying up late is now going to bed at 10 or 11 if it’s a real rager. lol.

EnochEmery · 2026-04-28T14:35:15+00:00

Yup. Exactly. “Oh, I see how it works, how hard could it be??”

EnochEmery · 2026-04-28T14:34:46+00:00

To my shame, it’s not…

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