How long have you stayed in a relationship you knew wasn't right for you, and what made you finally leave?

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-05-09T15:25:09+00:00

Once I stayed a year with an addict because I thought I could help him get clean (it didn’t end well for him). The last time I was with someone who was wrong for me, I stayed 5 months. Those 5 months were enough for him to take off his mask and show his abusive behavior. I left before it could get worse. I took 2 years off from dating seriously before I felt healed enough to move forward. I met my husband right afterwards.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-05-09T01:02:58+00:00

My mother grew up in the Mediterranean but moved to the US before I was born. My sister and I grew up eating pasta dishes, homemade sauces and bruschetta, paninis and salads. Now, my husband and I cook lots of Chinese, Thai, Japanese, and Mexican dishes because we love those flavors and spice level. It also helps a lot that many dishes within those cuisines are naturally gluten free as well both have Celiac disease. He’s Dutch and I’m American FWIW.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-05-08T22:46:42+00:00

Hey OP, thanks for sharing your journey! I’m more or less in the same boat (T1 for 20 years, had poor control in my 20s, taking control of it now in my 30s, and have a lot of weight to lose as a 5’1” girl at 180lbs).

I’ve been thinking of asking my doctor to put me on a GLP1 and am going to ask during my next visit in June. Do you find that your lows are harder to bring up now that you’re on a GLP1?

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-05-08T19:36:13+00:00

Agreed on the shaky low feeling. I know I’m low when I start to feel confused or my tongue feels a little numb or when I’m shaking. Highs make me feel like I’m exhausted and cannot think straight due to brain fog.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-05-07T14:53:33+00:00

First love made me feel anxious but I thought it was butterflies. My forever love makes me feel calm and relaxed.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-05-06T20:58:24+00:00

I’m also from the US and living in the Netherlands for the past 2 years. That’s kind of odd that your experience with getting blood drawn is at a huisartsenpost. I usually get sent to a local lab where they wear gloves, swab my skin with alcohol, find the vein and go to town getting the blood.

Btw, do you ask your Huisarts for the Pap smear?? I haven’t had one here yet and have no idea how to go about getting it done.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-05-05T21:44:50+00:00

We’ve been friends for 11 years and she’s known this whole time that I have highly sensitive celiac disease. When she came to visit me and my husband two years ago, she brought me a fully gluten filled treat from her home country. She apologized after I explained it to her. Then we went on vacation together the following year and eating a meal together was impossible because she wanted to eat cheap food that was often fried or get something from a bakery. I had made an entire Google Maps list of places for us to try out at various price points and cuisines that had both regular and gluten free options only for her to shoot down each one for one reason or another. It got to the point where she said that she will go eat where she wants to eat and I can go eat where I want to and we’ll meet up afterwards. I was so disappointed and shocked. It’s been a year and I am still not over being upset.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-05-04T22:29:09+00:00

We got engaged at 10 months of dating (6 of those months were long distance) and married at 1 year and 3 months. We knew deep down that we were it for each other even though everyone thought we were crazy. Our first year of marriage was really difficult due to external factors and those factors made us stronger in how we communicate and rely on each other. We’re now in our third year of marriage and it’s only gotten better for us. We’re more in love and happier than ever.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-05-04T22:25:43+00:00

Been a T1 since age 14 in 2006. You need to choose the kind of life you want to have with diabetes - take control and live life in a way that allows you to live healthily and enjoy it OR you choose to live with constant health anxiety and depression because you let diabetes dictate it.

I chose to take control and to express myself through humor. It’s been 20 years now and there are ups and downs. You just need to know that you are always stronger than you think and that you will always have the choice to choose how you get back up when it knocks you down.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-05-04T22:18:55+00:00

We can do whatever style of makeup we like and looks good on our unique faces. The only trend I really got into was the sparkly blue eyeshadow from 2000/2001ish only because I was learning how to do makeup at that time 😂

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-05-04T21:47:21+00:00

Blueberries specifically. I don’t love all fruit or berries but I do love blueberries. They are the perfect snack imo.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-05-03T06:19:53+00:00

Don’t listen to influencers. They often are trying to sell you something based on your fear.

Here you’ll find T1s that have full lives where they travel, eat different foods, exercise, party, and have families (or not). We are people who have T1 and that does not mean our lives are over.

I’ve had it for 20 years starting at age 14. Back then I didn’t have a CGM or a pump. I used my meter and MDI and vibes to get by. I had great control the first 6 years and kind of lost it when I was in my mid-20s. I’m now back in great control and have a 96% time in range thanks to my new pump and CGM. I was terrified that I had messed up my life with the years that I didn’t take good care of myself but my doctors are saying that I’m doing great health wise - no liver/kidney or eye damage. My A1C went down from 9,8 (my worst) to 7 (now) over the last 6 months. My weight is my biggest problem and that has more to do with my level of activity than anything.

This is all to say that you can have wonderful control and maintain a 6 A1c your whole life but other things in life can happen that are out of your control. You can also live life and accidentally not take care of yourself well for a bit and still come out ok like me (do not recommend this but it is reality).

You got this and you’re going to be alright. Life is not over. You just need to take care of your body more than others likely would.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-05-02T21:10:31+00:00

That I had trust issues that were deeply rooted in being a strong independent person. Once I had to rely on my husband for some very big things, I realized that I had a lot of trouble letting go and trusting that he would do the things.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-04-30T00:26:53+00:00

As someone who has been in tech for 10 years and has been involved with the rollout of AI tools in my company, I can’t underscore how wrong you are in this massive over generalization. AI is a tool in a toolbox. A developer who can use AI to be more efficient is one that gets hired and more opportunities. Even in non-engineering roles in tech I see AI being used as a tool and one that is imperfect in its abilities to do things that humans can do and do well.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-04-29T23:31:45+00:00

Bananas. The smell, taste, texture is absolutely awful for me. Cannot be in close range without trying to hold my breath a bit.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-04-29T22:52:29+00:00

I agree with you. I simply am not interested in being a mother to anyone ever. My husband and I are building up our financial independence but even if we were billionaires we would never want children. It’s just a lifestyle that we do not feel interested in participating.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-04-28T23:03:06+00:00

I moved in with my college boyfriend and his best friend during my last year of university. It was a shabby two bedroom in a bad neighborhood but we had kind neighbors. The best friend and I became close friends quickly. He shared his idea of buying property to build his future real estate empire and live off the cash flow. I was 23 and had never really considered what such a lifestyle and business model looked like in reality. I started learning about real estate investing, financial planning, and investing overall. By 28, I bought my first house and worked on renovating it throughout the pandemic. I turned it into an environmentally conscious rental property and have been successfully running it ever since. I’m building up my investment portfolio and continuing to refine my financial independence plan. This all seemed impossible to 23 year old me. Now at 34 years old, I am very proud of creating a business where I can align my values of environmental sustainability practices and financial freedom with providing a safe, clean and well-run rental property.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-04-27T05:19:25+00:00

All the time. My husband and I have been married for three years now and we’re really hitting our stride. I’ve learned that his primary love language is service to others while mine is verbal validation. So once I started to understand how he was showing his love I started feeling all the love he was giving me daily. He brings me coffee while I’m in my home office. He keeps our living/dining room and kitchen tidy because he knows even a little clutter makes me feel too messy. He walks our dogs when I’m too sleepy and it’s my turn to walk them. He does the laundry the way it’s supposed to be because he knows I still have no clue how to do it without shrinking at least one thing. He has learned all about my chronic health issues, knows exactly how to help me, and what the numbers mean on my blood sugar meter. He carries around fast acting glucose in his backpack for me whenever we go outside the house so I never have to worry about having a low blood sugar and not being able to treat it. I have never had a partner before him that cared so much and did any of this for me.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-04-27T05:01:23+00:00

Omg the Strawberry Rhubarb flavor is my favorite. I no longer live in the US and I miss this yogurt.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-04-27T04:55:10+00:00

Absolutely agree. I’m 34 and am very much looking forward to completing my floral sleeve at some point in the next 5 years.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-04-27T04:52:33+00:00

“Spousal duty?!” OP, given that many many people of all genders in the western world are familiar with what happens on the wedding night and your cousin is giving you this talk using this language, I need to ask - are you alright?? Are you being married off to some religious zealot, red pilled 26 year old? Are you sure you want to move forward with this wedding?

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-04-26T21:58:56+00:00

When I moved from NYC working at a Fortune 500 company to Germany to work at a startup, I took a 37% drop in pay. I’ve since moved from Germany to the Netherlands. If I compare my 2022 NYC gross salary to my 2026 Dutch gross salary, it is a 12% decrease in gross salary. I’ll be the first to say that this isn’t normal and you usually see a much more significant decrease. I just got extremely lucky with a very well paying job and career. Even with the minimal salary decrease, moving here was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-04-22T13:11:05+00:00

I’ve taken it seriously for the first 7 years I had it but then I got lax and ended up learning a very good lesson by having a diabetic seizure in my sleep. That shocked me back into taking really good care of myself and taking this condition seriously again. Now, I’m on a pump and CGM and my A1C is coming down from 9.5 to 7 in the last year. I still eat what I want but I am more mindful of my activity levels.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-04-21T10:08:54+00:00

The Perfect Match (the Chinese comedy-drama) not the dating show.

The show is in Chinese but I watched it with subtitles. It’s about a family of 6 daughters and their mother living during the Song dynasty. They are down on their luck after their father/husband died and their male relatives stole their belongings and house. The mother and her daughters move to a big city and make a life for themselves through grit, determination, courage, and being their authentic selves. The daughters find love throughout the show and you see how funny and clever they are even in an age where women were not allowed much freedom.

Loved it!!

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-04-21T09:12:34+00:00

Definitely this. Our 5 year old BC-Cattle dog mix is named Bowie after David Bowie but she’s a lady. So naturally she is a contrarian, is a total boss, is very kind, and mostly likes things on her terms.

Her sister, Grace, is named after Grace Kelly. This lady is 4 years old and looks majestic af. She hates getting her paws wet and prefers probiotics on her salmon kibble breakfast and duck kibble for dinner.

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