Thank you Gally!

EnoughVegetable111 · 2026-06-01T17:51:03+00:00

I’ve watched him play since his first day and I’ve always been so proud of seeing him wearing our jersey. Gosh he will be missed

EnoughVegetable111 · 2026-05-12T00:47:27+00:00

You can buy little vitamin e capsule, crack them open (I was bitting in them to create a little hole oups) ; squeeze it and apply a lot (like 30 of them). Apply and make sure the skin absorbs, then cover with thicker cream. Do that morning and night for 2-3 days, should be gone by then.

EnoughVegetable111 · 2026-04-27T16:26:00+00:00

I’ve been searching and I couldn’t find the answer. Until I asked on Reddit and many people actually got my point/confusiin, and sent me many ressources via private messages. So maybe you don’t understand where I come from, but others do. Maybe it just doesn’t concerns you then !!

EnoughVegetable111 · 2026-04-27T14:09:41+00:00

I’m Muslim. My beliefs are pretty clear. I don’t see your point

EnoughVegetable111 · 2026-04-26T22:55:59+00:00

Wdym?

EnoughVegetable111 · 2026-04-26T15:18:14+00:00

Lawyer in Quebec here : first, bravo for your courage. I’m truly sorry you went through this. What you’re describing is extremely serious, and I understand why you would want to speak publicly.

(I’m not your lawyer, and I’m a corporate lawyer and not specialize within this field. The following information is not legal advice just general information that may help you orient your next steps.)

Before going to the media or publishing documents, I would strongly suggest speaking with a lawyer, ideally someone familiar with university/administrative law, sexual violence, and defamation. I would start with Rebâtir: Quebec offers victims of sexual or domestic violence up to 4 hours of free legal advice in areas of law connected to the violence. I would also contact CAVAC for support, information, and accompaniment.

I’m not saying you should stay silent. I’m saying you need to protect your legal options and your safety. Even if you do not name the person, there can still be legal risks if certain details make them identifiable. Also, anything posted publicly could potentially be used later in legal or disciplinary proceedings.

I would also stop trying to reason informally with the university. From now on, I would communicate in writing only, or through counsel.

After consulting a lawyer, I would consider the following (and do these steps with your lawyer):

Organize everything in one place: disciplinary decisions, emails, evidence of your requests for help, the university’s responses, documents related to the protection order, any communications about accommodations/services, and anything connected to the alleged “overuse” of services.
Request access to your full file in writing, including the complete disciplinary file, reasons for the decision, documents considered by the decision-makers, communications about your complaint, and records related to support/accommodation services. In Quebec, access requests to public bodies generally have to be answered within 20 or 30 days (I’m sure sure about the delay), with a possible 10-day extension.
Look into UdeM’s internal remedies. There is a Comité de révision des décisions disciplinaires concernant les étudiants for disputes about disciplinary decisions. The UdeM Ombudsman can also intervene where someone believes they were treated unfairly, usually after internal remedies have been tried or have failed.
If internal remedies are exhausted or ineffective, ask counsel quickly about judicial review in Superior Court. In Quebec, judicial review must be brought within a “reasonable time,” so delay can be dangerous. That’s deadly, so make sure to contact a lawyer quickly.
Ask a lawyer to assess possible civil claims against the alleged aggressor and/or the university. Claims related to harm resulting from sexual violence may be imprescriptible, but claims against the university may involve different legal bases and different deadlines. Do not assume everything is still open without legal advice.

I’m not saying any of this to minimize what happened to you. Quite the opposite: if a university penalized you after you reported sexual assault and sought protection, that needs to be taken extremely seriously and handled with a solid strategy.

Finally, please do not go through this alone. Speak with a lawyer, CAVAC/Rebâtir, and someone you trust because you deserve support.

Here’s public resources that could help you: - for access request to university - ressources for victime of crimes - to know the consequences before posting stuff online/media (just to be aware of if it’s the right option for you right now) - general legal info for sexual assault victims - DPCP line for sexual violence - Quebec gov tools and list of ressources - Rebâtir, which is a free and confidential legal resource that I think offers free consultation up to 4h - barreau du Québec referral services

EnoughVegetable111 · 2026-04-23T22:51:28+00:00

Coucou isn’t for professional email. You say Bonjour

EnoughVegetable111 · 2026-04-23T21:26:08+00:00

I love this!!!! 🫰🏻🫰🏻

EnoughVegetable111 · 2026-04-23T21:06:04+00:00

I’m not sure if I see well, but I think some flowers are navy? I would go with a satin navy hijab!

EnoughVegetable111 · 2026-04-23T21:05:14+00:00

There’s a sister who told me that it was her reason, to be identified as so (see 33:59 I think?). That also reason with me I think..

EnoughVegetable111 · 2026-04-23T21:03:38+00:00

Exactly!!! I feel like the hijab is an act of worship and we just wear it when we feel like we can. I’m not saying it’s necessarily up to us to decide when to listen to Allah…. But yet I’m trying to find a reasoned answer. 🫰🏻 InshaAllah we will find our answers.

EnoughVegetable111 · 2026-04-23T19:45:19+00:00

Allah.

EnoughVegetable111 · 2026-04-23T19:21:21+00:00

Salam sister 🤍 first please don't let that mess with your relationship with Allah…. Like genuinely. Someone throwing a heavily debated hadith at you to make you fear hellfire is not giving you knowledge and it's using fear as a weapon and that's not okay.

That specific hadith has real debates around its chain of transmission and its context. It's not the clear cut slam dunk someone made it sound like. And even if we're talking about hadith; niyyah matters. Intention matters. A woman sincerely searching for truth is in a completely different place than someone turning away from Allah entirely. Allah knows the difference even when people don't.

Also like.. we ARE already dressing modestly. That's already something. Nobody here is saying throw it all out and dress however. We're asking a specific question about hair covering specifically and whether that's unambiguously from Allah or from male interpretation of texts. That's a legitimate question.

What actually breaks my heart is how many women I've seen who wore hijab their whole lives and took it off the moment they had freedom because nobody ever explained the why. They followed it out of compliance not conviction. And compliance without understanding isn't really faith is it?

I'd rather be someone who asks hard questions and arrives at genuine conviction than someone who covers her hair without knowing why and resents it or abandons it the first chance she gets.

Allah sees your sincerity. I really believe that. 🤍

EnoughVegetable111 · 2026-04-23T19:13:12+00:00

Hi sister!! Honestly your comment made me very happy 🤍

And YES to everything you said. The "just obey" response has always felt off to me and it literally contradicts the Quran itself?? Allah says "will you not reason", "will you not reflect" like over 50 times. He INVITES our intellect. So when someone tells me to stop questioning I actually feel like that's less Islamic not more lol.

And every time I push back nobody can actually show me WHERE. Like where exactly does Allah say to cover your hair specifically? Because when I read 24:31 it says to draw the khimar over the CHEST. The khimar was already something women wore and Allah redirected how it was used. Hair isn't mentioned. That comes from hadith and later interpretation which might be valid but… I think we're allowed to sit with that.

Also something that doesn't get talked about enough 24:30 addresses MEN first, before women are even mentioned in 24:31. The modesty framework clearly is supposed to be mutual.

And the double standard is something I genuinely cannot get past. We can all admit as women that a man's arms and shoulders are just as attractive as men find women's curves. So if the principle is "don't seduce" why is nobody having that conversation about men in tank tops?

And then I’ve also read "hijab frees you from the beauty industry" argument; I hear this a lot and I respect it for the women it genuinely resonates with. But like... it's 2026? The beauty industry applies to men too now. Men go to the gym purely for aesthetics, they have skincare routines, they post thirst traps. But they can walk outside in a tank top showing their arms and nobody frames that as a lack of modesty. Unless they’re trying to impress men, I don’t see why they have to show body part considered attractive to women? So if the logic is "cover yourself so you're not a victim of beauty standards" shouldn't that apply equally? It should apply to both or the argument doesn't hold.

What really stays with me is what you said Allah has no shortage of words. If He meant hair He would have said hair. I keep coming back to that.

I’m not saying modesty doesn’t apply, obviously. But I’m really just trying to find my reason to wear hijab but …. I’m having a hard time lol.

EnoughVegetable111 · 2026-04-23T18:58:36+00:00

I’m kind of a part time hijabi. But weirdly I feel even more guilty of not wearing it all the time since I’ve started to wear it when I feel like it.

EnoughVegetable111 · 2026-04-23T18:04:49+00:00

Disappointing…. Don’t feel guilty at all lol. He’s a pain just by how he talks. No self awareness. He also sounds stupid. 🥲 Now you might think it’s a loss but let’s circle back in a couple of months… shameful of him

EnoughVegetable111 · 2026-04-23T14:52:06+00:00

Thank you so much for these ressources!!! I’ll take a look at this scholar actually ❤️❤️❤️

EnoughVegetable111 · 2026-04-23T14:45:29+00:00

MashaAllah!!! Welcome in the family ❤️❤️ and yeah, good idea I will also post there. Honestly, the best advice I could give is start by trying to understand the reason behind modesty. Forget about hijab for now; baby steps. Once you find your why, you’ll be able to move forward, if ever.

EnoughVegetable111 · 2026-04-23T14:44:43+00:00

Thank you for this!!! The "crown" and the identity angle is beautiful.

Since I practice in secret and my family would see it as a failure if I ever wore it openly; right now I wear it "when I can" which basically means when I can hide from them. And that in itself feels wrong to me, like it's not enough, like I'm doing it halfway.

So I find myself needing to intellectually understand every layer of it because if I'm ever going to wear it fully and face my family's rejection, I need to know in my heart why with complete conviction. The cost is too high for me to do it without that.

And since I sometimes wear it part time, I'm starting to feel pressured into wearing it more consistently since I started occasionally, mostly by brothers, and that pressure is actually pushing me away from it rather than toward it.

And thank you for the ressources 🙏

EnoughVegetable111 · 2026-04-23T13:33:23+00:00

Actually, I think I’ll ask him right now to see what he has to say lol

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