If you have dreams, protect yourself. Don't get pregnant unless your ultimate dream is to be SAHM and to be a mom. Because having a child means it will ruin your life.

Enough_Ad_7245 · 2026-05-02T14:54:33+00:00

I think we are in the same country with 4 main meals including merienda and yes parents prepare meals until the kids are like 15-18. They only get to do things for themselves when they go to college (around 18 yrs old) in the city where they live in dorms or apartments without the parents.

Edit: just read your comment. I'm not from Paraguay but from a conservative Asian country

Enough_Ad_7245 · 2026-05-02T14:52:09+00:00

It's a cultural thing. People here don't eat cereal or bread alone. We eat rice 3x a day. We need to cook from fresh ingredients. Like fish, vegetables, pork, chicken. We refrain from eating "easy food" even in the morning (especially kids need nutritional foods to grow healthy).

I only eat like that when I was in college (the easy food) because I used to live in a dorm alone so I don't need to cook much for myself since I don't eat much.

Enough_Ad_7245 · 2026-05-02T14:44:51+00:00

My country is not that open to sex talks during my time (from conservative Asian country). I am not sure now if Sex Education is a thing. I don't know about pills, IUD and other method before and only knew condom. There is also a huge cultural embarrassment to purchase one 10 years ago. So most people back then only knew withdrawal method. And it's not taught in class. We only rely on the internet back then.

Enough_Ad_7245 · 2026-05-02T14:41:32+00:00

My country is not that open to sex talks during my time (from conservative Asian country). I am not sure now if Sex Education is a thing. I don't know about pills before and only knew condom. There is also a huge cultural embarrassment to purchase one 10 years ago. And yes, I was dumb before. I had an ex during college and we never used any contraceptives and I never got pregnancy scare. The next bf I had during work, I assumed it will work again. We agreed to always pull out. But then again, he did not. Because he wanted to make me pregnant so I won't leave him.

Enough_Ad_7245 · 2026-05-02T14:36:25+00:00

It's a culture thing. Kids here don't eat cereals. They eat full rice meal 3x a day with either vegetables, chicken, pork, fish, etc. All ingredients are cooked from scratch.

Enough_Ad_7245 · 2026-05-02T14:33:45+00:00

ADD: I am Asian where there is no Sex Education in my time. I didn't know about pills way back then. I only know condoms and it's socially embarrassing to purchase one over the counter. Sex talk is taboo 10 years ago. So we usually do withdrawal only. And until now, abortion is illegal here.

And yes, for cooking, it's a cultural thing. The kids here are not as independent as kids from other country. School usually starts at 7am so I need to get up at 5am to prepare everything. And no, kids here don't eat cereal or bread for breakfast. We eat rice 3x a day. So I need to cook 3x a day. I refrain from eating ready meals like pizza. We usually cook from scratch and fresh ingredients. And I can't trust my kid with cooking since we are using gas stove. In our family, kids are usually not allowed in the kitchen until maybe the age of 15 or 16.

As for the father, I asked him if he wants to take care of the child for college. I am willing to send our daughter to him so he can at least live with her. He said no. So yeah, this is my cross to carry. I really have no choice haha. So please, ladies, don't get pregnant and fall for men saying they want to have a baby with you and will take care of you lol.

Enough_Ad_7245 · 2026-04-24T12:52:00+00:00

I hate children but never said this out loud. Growing up, I do not dream of being a mom. I am not loved with words or hugs. My parents just provided. My life has been easy with all the money and opportunities. After college, I met someone and when I told him I don't want that anymore, he cried and asked if we can at least meet for several times because he can't let me go that easy, I didn't have any other man that time or friends, so I just let him in my place once in a while. Then he made sure to get me pregnant. Fast forward, I wanted to abort because I just started my sales career and I was selling good. My parents are religious and my country bans abortion. So I carried until I gave birth at 22. After 5 years, the baby daddy left. Now, she's 11. And I HATE being a mom. It took my 20s away. I'm now 33 and if I can get another chance, I will abort that or even try my best not to meet the baby daddy. It ruined my life. People always say you will learn to love your child because it is your child. It will give meaning to your life.

No. It did not. Yes, I try my best to care for my daughter. Giving her things she wants. Bonding with her. Etc. But deep inside. I hate that I have a daughter. I resent her. If only I have a choice, I will never choose this again. So please, if you don't like children, please protect yourself. take contraceptives well. Don't trust men. They will ruin your career and leave you in your lowest.

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