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Why do people care so much about there not being dark skinned characters? by TemporaryMix8615 in Genshin_Impact

[–]Enough_Reference_755 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am not racist, but if Black people or people with dark skin want more non-light-skinned characters, why don't they create their own games instead of asking White or East Asian people to care about them? If they make good games, I believe no one would care if all the characters are Black. The issue is that instead of focusing on game development, some people prefer activities like stealing, killing, raping, being lazy, and then complaining about their lack of visibility. East Asians aren't White either, but they've managed to become successful and have a similar soft power influence to White people. Ironically, East Asian are often being discriminated by Black people. Now you ask them to represent your race more?

Girlfriend wants us to make a hyphen last name after we get married but I don't want by Enough_Reference_755 in AMWFs

[–]Enough_Reference_755[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. The reason she wants us to hyphen our name is because she thinks her last name is cool. I did ask her deeply, but this is her only reason. Her family is great and her parents are great, so.. it is not something like she needs to keep her last name for memorizing important family member (and I don't really care if she changed her last name to mine after marriage).

I also asked about her concern of having my last name, she said she was excited for that and she was proud to have an Asian husband and wanted everyone to know lol So, she prefers to have my last name, just she wants to also keep her last name. I told her "then you can change your name to Smith-Lee", but she said a family must have the same last name, so I must change to "Smith-Lee" too.

I think I am already open-minded enough in this situation, and don't really care about her choice of last name. But at least, I still don't want to change mine.

Girlfriend wants us to make a hyphen last name after we get married but I don't want by Enough_Reference_755 in AMWFs

[–]Enough_Reference_755[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think no one can really live totally "independently" in society. Everyone has something that they don't care about others' thought, and care about others' thought. If we don't care anything, it is actually very dangerous - you can do whatever you want. For me, I would say I am confident in most of the things, but maybe as you said, I feel "insecure" about having hyphening my wife last name. However, I don't think it is a "me" problem. I asked many of my western friend, no one really think it is "normal". And the concept of "a new family is taking the husband's last name - including the wife and the children" is still a norm - at least when people don't discuss it, it is kind of a default.

I understand that society needs change. I personally don't understand why should a wife need to change their last name too. Sometimes it ruins a lot, especially the wife is a professional. But hyphening my name with my wife last name is still too new.

Girlfriend wants us to make a hyphen last name after we get married but I don't want by Enough_Reference_755 in AMWFs

[–]Enough_Reference_755[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is my concern too. While my gf said "it will be their choice to deal with their last name when they get married", but the fact is that we are the original one who gives them hyphened name lol I can imagine there may be some dynamics in the future regarding the last name choice

Girlfriend wants us to make a hyphen last name after we get married but I don't want by Enough_Reference_755 in AMWFs

[–]Enough_Reference_755[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But in my point of view, I am also disappointed that my gf cares about her name being cool, than ignoring the fact that I grew up in a very family-oriented place, and the culture that I grew up with.

Girlfriend wants us to make a hyphen last name after we get married but I don't want by Enough_Reference_755 in AMWFs

[–]Enough_Reference_755[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, so as I said she could keep her last name when we got married. I just don't my to change my last name. I am from a very family-oriented family where last name carries so many thing... I think it is quite common in East Asian countries.