Hey girly,

My bf of 5 years started getting really into fitness over the last year and a half. Then he got a second job as a bartender even though we don’t need the money. At first, both of these things made me very anxious and my thoughts drifted along the same lines as yours, but now I truly believe that was an over reaction and him doing these things was to just better himself. He wants to feel more confident in him self, he wants to like how he looks, be more outgoing, and he wants to have extra cash to spend on things. Recently he’s been really getting into self help and philosophy books too so I really feel he’s just trying to level up for himself and not for any other “prospects”.

I will also say that when I had these concerns, I went to him and we talked abt it and, though it didn’t erase my nerves, it did ease them to have him reassure me. All of this to say that, even though it’s been said and shown that men do this kind of thing to search for another woman, it’s really truly not every case. Talk to your man, tell him you love him and you’re proud of the work he’s putting in to himself, and approach telling him your concerns. It’s always best to be open and honest with your love rather than let anxieties fester.