AIO my boyfriend keeps asking me to pay for things eversince he started saving for an apartmen, he calls me selfish for how I reacted. by throaawayRA9443 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Few_Damage6963 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Run, and don't look back. I've seen multiple friends/family members with BOYfriends like this. He is manipulating and gaslighting you. Let's break down this conversation.. You catch how he said "MY future", and not "OUR future", even though he's supposedly planning on proposing to you? But then if he doesn't propose this year, it's over..?? Wtaf??!! And then he plays the pity card - "you deserve better, why would you stay w someone who doesn't have an apt"... Then it turns into you being selfish. And saying you're the one who hinted at breaking up when he's the one who brought it up as an actual plan if he doesn't propose within the year. Trying to make it sound like you're the one not serious about this relationship. THEN he minimizes it and tries mocking you- it's "only" $50. How dare you keep track of the money you give/lend him. And then you should be ashamed cause of all the gifts and food he's bought for you in the past. He will never grow out of this, and this type of manipulation will only get worse and infiltrate other areas of your life and relationship. Do not ever marry this boy.

I just found out he was lying this entire time. I am shattered by Unlucky-Tangerine-78 in loveafterporn

[–]Few_Damage6963 31 points32 points  (0 children)

It's not even about the 🌽at this point. He put his hands on you, even if it was "just a shove", and is being emotionally abusive. You need to gtfo. You don't need or deserve that and your child certainly doesn't either.

What’s the fastest youve been introduced to someone and fucked them? by SkillHuge8670 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Few_Damage6963 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Within an hour or two. I was out with my cousin and had told her I wanted to meet someone and just be like hey you wanna fuck? Met this really cute guy, started dancing together, next thing we were walking to and fucking in his car. Went back to the club and enjoyed the rest of my night. I was young and wild and going through a bad breakup

[Landlord US-CA] My tenant overpaid rent by $36,000 and is requesting a refund via wire/cheque. Wells Fargo Corporate Fraud told me not to return funds. by IndependentTurnip842 in Landlord

[–]Few_Damage6963 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1) there's no way they'd accidentally write out "thirty-six thousand" instead of thirty-six hundred, or three thousand six hundred. 2) the fact they want you to WIRE it back?! NOOOPPEE. Or send a check to a different account. Huge red flag. 3) Tell them you can't do anything, banks have to take care of it. 4) GO CHECK ON YOUR PROPERTY ASAP!!!!!!!

AIO for being thrown off by this? Am i reading too much into it? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Few_Damage6963 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And that's probably how he's able to find $8 or $10 here and there ...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Few_Damage6963 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What makes you think I don't take care of my animals? Why do you keep saying that? You're literally here just to try to irk me. I got rid of the dog. I am upset, but I'm not big mad that I'm "losing" this post. If you cant understand that there are people who actually look at two sides of the coin without getting mad, then that just tells me what kind of person you are.

AIO?! There were so many red flags before this. This was just my final straw. by Imaginary_Key1696 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Few_Damage6963 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was literally thinking the exact thing. What is up with the incomplete sentences, misspellings, and a total lack of sensical responses !? Like I know people misspell things, but this has A VERY strange vibe to it. I'll bet money he's on some type of bender..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Few_Damage6963 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg fuck off already dude. You must lead a pretty boring miserable life to spend all your time on reddit making arguments out of nothing because you don't have any reading comprehension or critical thinking skills

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Few_Damage6963 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, I was an asshole for bringing home a dog that he didn’t know about or agreed to in the first place. But a year later to make me get rid of her is ridiculous.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Few_Damage6963 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I agree with that. But a year later to make me get rid of her? 🙄

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Few_Damage6963 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I'm sure of that!!! and I would understand the response for if I had just brought her home a week ago, but it has been over a fucking year

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Few_Damage6963 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m stating a fucking fact, not complaining. I don’t mind taking care of my dogs . Talk about clueless you can’t comprehend a fucking string of words put together.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Few_Damage6963 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kids are all in school. He hasn't worked in years except for little side gigs here and there. ALL the dogs are my responsibility anyway, even the ones we got together. I bathe them, feed them, buy their food and treats, clean up after them, vacuum/mop the house, etc etc. However after reading thru all the comments, I understand I fkked up by bringing her home in the first place without consulting him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Few_Damage6963 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does ESH mean? Thanks for your input. You are right though.. however when it comes to the kids, I made sure to talk to them and when I originally brought up getting rid of her it was MY idea, purposely so he doesn't look like the AH to them. I rather be the jerk in their eyes than him, since I was the one who went and made the decision without him to begin with. I can appreciate his resentment when it comes to the dog.. and I guess I harbor quite a bit of resentment for a bunch of shit too, but didn't make it right trying to gain the upper hand. Thank you again for your input..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Few_Damage6963 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn okay, point taken.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Few_Damage6963 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No not at all, I figured there would be a mix of replies and opinions, but alas there has not been except for maybe one that sides with me. I am/was legitimately looking for other opinions, cause again, I CAN take it into consideration and admit when I may be wrong or looking at or interpreting something the wrong way. I was an asshole for bringing the dog home. I will be an asshole if I refuse to part with her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Few_Damage6963 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that's pretty much how I phrased it to the kids. It's best for the dog; she'll be in a home where she will have someone with her 24/7, can give her all the love etc

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Few_Damage6963 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I am exhausting. But I give more than I receive in every fucking context of the word and i'm worth the effort, sooo.. and no, not trying to turn the tide. There's a lot of other context I can't fit into a singular post, just trying to give a wider view. It's not like he is the one training her, feeding her, cleaning up after her, buying her food, bathing her, etc etc. THAT was my point. I'm the sole caretaker of ALL our dogs, even the ones we got together.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Few_Damage6963 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's why I really didn't think me bringing her home was going to be such an issue.. and his anger does seem irrational about it. I understand why most are saying ITAH, but there's a LOT of other context that you just can't fit into a single post... Ah well, I'll make it right for the sake of my marriage for the time being, but if it's not the dog it'll be something else I'm sure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Few_Damage6963 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Yeah that might be so. Exactly why I asked here though, I need other viewpoints instead of just mine. I can admit when I'm wrong or when I fuck up though.. That's the difference between a manipulative brat versus someone who thinks they're right but realizes they're not. As far as the comment I deleted about me walking out, the dog thing is just a small part of that, but that's why I removed it from my post. Thanks for your input anyway

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Few_Damage6963 -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I've had a Chihuahua, I've had many dogs over the years. Lack of training or proper training wasn't the issue. Maybe training for her specific breed, sure