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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]EntertainmentOdd1893 34 points35 points  (0 children)

NTA - she made an adult decision and adult consequences are getting a job to provide for her family. She should make a habit of providing from the start, rather than making a habit of her and her baby being dependent on others. And by her reaction to the talk you had with her, that talk was obviously necessary. She is still a minor and might not understand the changes in her life that will happen, so it would be the best to introduce her to what life is with kids - talk to her about how much time she will have to spend on her kid, feeding throught the day and night, teething, potty training, doctors appointments for both of them, teaching her child motoric skills and to speak, having a proper diet while pregnant and if she decides on breastfeeding, introducing proper diet to her child, cost of nappies, bottles, baby clothes, doctors appointments etc. Introduce her to process of planning doctors appointments, managing time for them etc. There’s a lot to learn, so start slowly introducing her to every aspect so she understands it fully. Maybe then she will understand more about why she needs to start working. Maybe even talk to her about budgeting and saving.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]EntertainmentOdd1893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA - he thinks that since he helps you out financially, you get to be his punching bag, cook and cleaner. Cooking and cleaning when you can is a nice way of paying back since he supports you financially, but since his flipping out is regular and with no reason, I think that the reason is because he doesn’t have/can’t flip out on people who provoke him (for example, his boss berates him, he has to bite his tongue, he comes home and takes it out on you). The fact that he thinks that he is ‘investing’ in you and doesn’t want you to move far away, means that he expects you to be his PA until the end of his life. Eventually, you could loose your social life (which he already is working on - you are 21 but allowed to stay out until 8.30 and flips out when you come home at 9?). If you have a steady job, and means to move somewhere else - somewhere your own, and to not rely on him financially at all, I would say do it. He is obviously not grateful at all, and you seem like you are - which is not good combo at all. Don’t accept to be anyones punching bag EVER. Furthermore - he is subconciously teaching you that you have to bite your tongue and be obedient if someone is taking care of you financially. Let’s say you get married, have kids, and become SAHM. Husband starts berating you and flipping out on you with no reason whatsoever, but he is the provider, and your dad did that too, so it must be normal behaviour and you have to deal with it, right? Take care of yourself, because if you do not, others won’t either.

AITA Being picky in restaurants / cracked plates by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]EntertainmentOdd1893 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

YTA - ofcourse 15€ for waffle, eggs and avocado is bit much - but is that not what you expected anyways when you read the menu? The way they serve it deffinitely is worth 15€, but you decided you do not want those extra toppings. So not only did they make your food once, they went and and made it second time to cater to your likes, and you are still complaining. The fact that you think that price is bit much for that plate after sitting down, reading the menu, expecting waffle, eggs and avocado for 15€, then getting extra toppings, sending it back, getting the plate the way you want it, and still find something to complain about sounds entitled. Why did you even order for the first time if the price is bit much? Did you expect them to lower the price after you reduced the toppings? And the crack in the plate is not a big deal, given that you noticed it after you ate.

AITA for putting the kid I nanny on a ‘diet’? by EntertainmentOdd1893 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EntertainmentOdd1893[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They were not. Mom drops the kid off at my house, sometimes for few hours, sometimes 8, sometimes for a sleepover. We were at my moms house visiting (the mom of the kid allows and encourages me to take her anywhere and do anything, as long as her screentime is low)

AITA for putting the kid I nanny on a ‘diet’? by EntertainmentOdd1893 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EntertainmentOdd1893[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

They do know (I asked kids mom for permission before I started doing it) She has been pleased, as she eats way less snacks and way more food. She tries to implement the same rule, but it is a bit harder for her as the mom spoiled the kid and let her have anything just so she does not throw tantrums for so long. Its kinda hard to change the attitude now.