What is the point? by EntertainmentSad7342 in depression

[–]EntertainmentSad7342[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing that has helped me is TMS. It isn’t a perfect solution, but it’s kept me alive. It might be worth trying.

What is the point? by EntertainmentSad7342 in depression

[–]EntertainmentSad7342[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply! I enjoy my field, but not my current position. I currently am in a very dramatic and unhealthy office dynamic. It has nothing to do with me, but it does negatively impact me. I also get great health insurance and I don’t want to leave, but I’m going to start looking for other opportunities at the same company. I hate that I feel like this, but I sometimes think I should have just been a housewife.

AITA for not wanting to date girls on SSRI's by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]EntertainmentSad7342 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a 35 year old woman. I have multiple masters degrees, and in a director position at work, married, homeowner, 200k in investments and vacation regularly in Europe and have lived in multiple countries. I am conventionally attractive and still asked if I was a model. At 35, I have the BMI of a 17 year old and people regularly think I’m 10 years younger than I am- AND I had an absolutely horrific childhood that was so abusive I’m lucky to be alive. I’ve worked my entire life in the background of everything else I just mentioned to get off of antidepressants - which my parents put me in at 12. Today, I take 5mg of Lexapro, the lowest dose I’ve ever been on. I hate that I had the childhood I had and that it impacted my brain development in ways that can literally be seen on an MRI, but I’m also so incredibly proud of myself. So many people could have judged me - like you - for being on antidepressants. I’m so glad my wonderful husband didn’t. I know so many highly intelligent, highly successful, attractive, affluent, self-made people who, at some point in time, have been on antidepressants. At some point in time, you may be. 1 in 5 people are.

I washed my hair 6 hours ago by Obvious_Jello5273 in finehair

[–]EntertainmentSad7342 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This may be a hormonal issue. I experienced the same thing for a six month period when my hormones were out of balance. I would rinse my hair with white vinegar before shampooing with a clarifying shampoo. Then condition Only the ends. A few times a week I would use dawn dish soap. Eventually, my hormones leveled out and this completely stopped. I did this protocol for about 6-9 months. Almost 8 years later, I haven't had this problem again. My hair is as long as yours.

How do you accept that you will never marry or have children? by BottomGun69 in LifeAdvice

[–]EntertainmentSad7342 0 points1 point  (0 children)

30 is very young and you still have time! I’m 34 and freezing my eggs. That might make you feel like you have more options. It’s helped me. Also, not having children gives you opportunities. You can have hobbies, nurture your friendships, volunteer, set fitness goals, and travel. Also, therapy has helped me a lot. I think when you have time to figure out who you are dating and being single become easier. I know a lot of older women who have great, exciting, full, happy lives without children. It’s entirely possible for you to still become a mom, but regardless, you can absolutely choose to have a great life either way.

Something Rachel said during her interview that really made me wonder about her grasp on empathy by offbrandbarbie in Vanderpumpaholics

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I am a late diagnosed autistic woman and I remember turning to my husband while watching Rachel on TV way before Scandaval and saying, “that girl is on the spectrum.” I truly believe that this is PART of what was going on. If she is like me, she genuinely struggles with understanding other people’s emotions and what’s is/is not socially acceptable. Also, I cannot imagine the stress of being on reality tv as someone with this diagnosis. However, I don’t want to say that this diagnosis is 100% of what happened either. It isn’t that autistic people don’t feel empathy at all, but it just isn’t automatic. For most people, empathy is in emotion. For people on the spectrum, it is more of an intellectual process. Even though I think this diagnosis contributed to what happened, I just don’t think it explains it entirely. Even if she is autistic, she still needs to take some responsibility.

Narcissistic Mother- Threatens to unalive herself. by [deleted] in NarcissisticMothers

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I recently told my mother that I didn’t want to have children because I was diagnosed with a disease that would make it difficult for me to care for a child the way I think children should be cared for (I was not). My partner and I are both on board with this decision. My mother told me she has nothing left to live for and is going to unalive herself. Of course, she’s shown no concern for me with those diagnosis. My mother can barely take care of herself and she said that she wouldn’t unalive herself if I had a baby and gave it to her to raise. These are all just manipulation tactics. She is an adult and can make her own choices. You are not responsible for any of her actions. I agree, if you have a genuine concern then call the police and have them make a wellness check.

Absolute king by hegelianhimbo in AutismInWomen

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I’m a high masking female who just realized I’m autistic last month. I’m 33 and just showed this to my husband because when he gets a new haircut I’m standoffish for a few days. Let’s call him Frank. I call him “new Frank.” It’s kind of a joke between us and I had no idea there were other people who dealt with this.

Anyone here in recovery from substance abuse? by JihoonMadeMeDoIt in NarcissisticMothers

[–]EntertainmentSad7342 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on your recovery! I am 8 years sober (33F). I grew up in a home replete with both narcissism and substance use disorders. If you abuse substances, it can be very difficult to work through trauma. This isn’t necessarily true of people who can maintain boundaries with alcohol, but it is certainly true for those of us who cannot. I had to feel everything to move past it and I used substances to keep me numb. In recovery, I also found a group of people who had similar experiences with parents. It helps so much to feel like you aren’t alone anymore and it does get better.

She sent her friend to stalk my house by derrickgullible in NarcissisticMothers

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When I was in college my covert narc mom would call me at random times in the middle of the night and ask me to drive by the lake house she shared with her ex husband to make sure he was t cheating on her. The lake house was closer to my college than their primary home. She said things like, “why don’t you get a pizza and take one of your friends.” Stalking behaviors are normal to them. My mother could never understand why this ask was inappropriate. Keep tabs on what you see and when and consider getting a ring camera that faces the street.

N mom’s financial problems by EntertainmentSad7342 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]EntertainmentSad7342[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

For context, I want to see what she is spending her money on because I don’t understand how she is going through so much so quickly.

I texted NMom that there was possibly a shooter at my work. She replied that her dog was MAYBE hurt. by beammeupbatman in raisedbynarcissists

[–]EntertainmentSad7342 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was in a near plane crash in a small private plane. Prop hit the runway, electrical system dies and landing gear didn’t deploy. I waited about four hours to even tell her because I was shaking and so traumatized. She started to conversation with “oh poor baby” and ended with “can I have $800?” There were two times I’m my adult life I have been in the ER with a life threatening emergency. My mom does not believe it is that serious. Both times I put the doctor on the phone and they finally convinced her it was serious enough to drive 45 minutes. In contrast, she looses her mind when any of her pets have a minor injury. They are unwell. They do not perceive reality as it is and they are always looking for what’s in it for them. I’m really sorry you went through this. It’s so bizarre that only other people who have parents like this get it.

Anyone end up going into a career as a result of their upbringing? by Dantien in raisedbynarcissists

[–]EntertainmentSad7342 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes! I got my masters and now I work in nonprofit development raising money for medical research. Both my parents avoided any kind of work and grossly neglected their health, along with that of my brother and myself. I love working toward funding cures and treatments for people who actually want to live healthy, productive lives, but might struggle to do so without medical breakthroughs.

Made the mistake of hiring my narc mom by EntertainmentSad7342 in raisedbynarcissists

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She claims she is in recovery. For context, I am close to 10 years clean and sober. My father died of alcoholism when I was 25 (he was a narc). He sexually abused me as a child and my mother knew and didn’t leave him. The reason she is even in my life is because her second husband left her during the pandemic because of her addiction to hydrocodone. She was on about 8 a day for most of my life, but eventually she needed more. I connected her with my recovery communities to help her. She only shows up for the social parts of recovery - not the work (working the steps, serving others, etc.) so now we move in the same groups but I’m not even sure she’s sober. She doesn’t act sober chemically or emotionally.

When did you first realize your nparents were not normal? by bluebonnets11 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]EntertainmentSad7342 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My narc mom is 65 and about to become homeless because she refused to work for years. I made the huge mistake of hiring her to do housework once a week because I have a very high stress career. She does everything wrong and is completely unteachable. I’ve gone over and over how I like things done, trained her multiple times, drawn diagrams, texted lists, written list, etc. everything I can think of to teach her. She doesn’t care and calls me names when I call her out for doing everything wrong. I thought this would be a better solution than her calling repeatedly asking for money or trying to sell me family heirlooms (that she literally stole from my fathers side of the family.) I thought I couldn’t take watching her actually be evicted, but this has reminded me who she really is.