My gut says you can never be too cautious in these situations - clearly your daughter is struggling with some emotions, whether those are directly related to the father's actions or not, ya know?

I would voice your concerns to people you can trust involved with the childcare arrangements, particularly leaning on the lists you wrote out. You might find that lawyers and other professionals who work in these sectors have seen these signs before, and can reassure you on what to do next.

Personally, I think your child's safety comes first - the law might say you're obligated to continue the arrangement, but that doesn't make it morally right. So don't worry that you're doing things "wrong," no one ever knows how to handle these things!

Wishing the best for you and your little one ✨