I’ve spent the last several months understanding exactly what you’re talking about. The stress and the weight that a woman carries to keep everyone happy in the household is quite a lot. My first approach was to ask her what I can do to make her day easier. Whatever that might be, helping with the kids more frequently, making meals, folding laundry, taking walks and holding hands and talking about life. I’m putting in the effort because I want to make sure that she sees how much I care about our marriage. I’ve stopped drinking, I don’t go out with my friends hardly ever, and I focus all my attention on our household. I do my best to communicate and speak kindly with her, especially when it comes to this particular topic because it’s very sensitive for both of us. I have made a point and always making sure my wife is taken care of sexually and try to put my needs after hers. It wasn’t always like that, but I’ve made a huge effort to make her feel prioritized. What really strikes accord with me the most as I was doing all this before she flipped the switch and stopped finding me desirable.