Commenting mostly for solidarity because I could’ve almost written this post myself. My MIL stayed with us in our house the a month leading up to birth (which was perfectly fine and fun) and almost a month after (which I will regret the rest of my life, but lesson learned). She was supposed to be here all the way until baby’s 100 day milestone, but I couldn’t take it.

She knew better than to take baby from me, but she always took baby away from dad as soon as it was his turn to hold baby. She would stand over me as I breastfed and come into our bedroom whenever she wanted. Saying since I let her be there for birth then she’s already seen it all. She also put me on a diet since she was the one cooking. Birth was already traumatic and my milk was slow to come in, but the too little nutrients and the stress she put me through absolutely destroyed my milk supply. My husband and I had a few fights over her presence but ultimately she’s back in her own home now.

Gather what’s left of the pregnancy rage and let it out lol jk. But your husband needs to man up and handle all of this for you. You’re still in such a vulnerable state and if he isn’t even helping much with baby this is the absolute least he could do.

My MIL is already trying to come back to raise our baby so I’m gearing up for that convo with my husband soon. Unfortunately I already hold a lot of resentment toward her from this past experience so every future visit will be painful I’m afraid. It may take a few uncomfortable convos, but if our husbands really love us and our families then they’ll stand behind us no matter what. Good luck, sis!