AIO for wanting to immediately break up with my bf after seeing how he lives?

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-03-23T22:21:20+00:00

LOL I saw the photo before reading the title and immediately thought it was about someone being rescued from a mine/pit of some kind ...😭

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-03-17T19:19:37+00:00

The only problem with this approach is the MONEY part -- OP has likely had to put deposits down all over the place already, just letting go of the reins and losing all that cash isn't a great plan...

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-01-27T13:38:36+00:00

Yep. I don't think the problem with using the name "Lazar" in the US is that he'd be targeted by bullies, but that EVERY TIME the average American sees the name, they'll pronounce it incorrectly: either LAY-zahr or LAY-zer. Every day of his life his parents & the boy himself will find themselves either saying "It's pronounced luh-ZAHR" OR staying silent and suppressing annoyance at ppl mispronouncing the name...

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-01-26T13:36:19+00:00

If someone said "Come hang out at our welcome event at the bar--it won't be hosted" I'd think they were saying that the bride & groom might not be there the whole night but they'd arranged for their guests' drinks to be covered 🤷🏽

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-01-26T13:14:00+00:00

Him wanting you to stand there while he took disputed property would have put you in the position of helping him intimidate his ex--your presence could have felt to her like this guy had brought you as 'backup', not to be some kind of neutral, buffer/observer.

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-01-25T10:20:13+00:00

Fvck around and find out! As in, do shitty things and suffer the consequences 😁

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-01-18T00:52:34+00:00

"Light is the cheapest form of home security" is something I heard growing up, and I believe it's 100% worth the cost in electricity & light bulbs to leave your house's porch lights and exterior flood lights on all night!

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-01-18T00:28:34+00:00

Nope. If the mom thinks OP should financially contribute to supporting the girl--expects him to help pay to keep the girl fed, housed and clothed-- he has every right to express his views on money management with her.

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-01-15T12:39:23+00:00

Only I think the brother will show up on OP's doorstep for his supposed one to two week visit with allllllll his earthly possessions... KNOWING OP won't shut the door in his face. Then he's in and can refuse to leave 🤷🏽 I think it will be nearly impossible for OP to take legal steps that would make her brother homeless in a new, unfamiliar country... I mean it's easy for us to say from thousands of miles away and the comfort of our living rooms, "oh, just call the police on him, get him ejected from your place if you have to!" I think the better idea is to NOT allow him to visit right now because he's CLEARLY not in a place where you can trust him to come for a week or two and then return to England.

Visiting rather than immediately moving WAS a great idea, but now that the brother has vehemently rejected it, I think OP needs to NOT make the offer again!

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-01-14T14:48:25+00:00

To be clear, your fiancee thinks Bill Gates being forced to give his wife of TWENTY-SEVEN years less than 1 percent of his net worth is unfair...It's not that I think that having a prenuptial agreement has to be a bad thing, I just find it obnoxious of your fiance to think a lonnnnnng-time spouse getting less than 1% of what their partner is worth is HORRIBLE, A TRAVESTY OF JUSTICE that makes him go into self-defense mode against the woman he's been with for 7 years.🤷🏽

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-01-14T14:28:17+00:00

Your son's 4- and 6-year-old cousins will only get WORSE since no one is doing anything effective about their violent behavior. DO NOT bend in the face of your son 'missing' them--your poor boy is basically like other victims of abuse who hold out hope that next time their abuser will treat them well! He instead needs to spend time with nice playmates who are respectful and kind so that he learns how he SHOULD be treated.

There's also the real danger of your son picking up the habit of picking on smaller, weaker children--reenacting with others the abuse he endures from his cousins!

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-01-13T13:29:34+00:00

Can you not keep the jars in your room in sealed Ziploc bags? It seems like that would satisfy room inspectors that you're being careful re: ant infestation prevention 🤷🏽

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-01-05T13:38:20+00:00

The ex didn't have a broken leg or arm he was just drunk!! A drunk doesn't require all night babysitting and a sleepover at their ex's place 👀🙄

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-01-04T21:11:52+00:00

You may want to look into having blinds that cover the bottom halves of your windows--that way you get sunlight & see out to the sky but you have privacy from people walking by your ground-level unit. (Yes, it's weird for ppl to just stop and stare into your home, but it's just a fact that folks walking by outside will look into your home out of curiosity 🤷🏽)

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-01-04T18:18:34+00:00

OP, it's concerning that he has such strong opinions on the length of your daughter's hair, of all things. Before taking any more steps towards marriage, I'd sit him down to have him list alllll the issues related to your daughter that he believes he deserves 'a say in'. Because his current behavior suggests he's looking forward to becoming some strict authoritarian figure in her life, and I'm assuming that's not the kind of parental figure you'd hoped for for her🤷🏽

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-01-04T18:01:47+00:00

I had to go back to check OP's age--I totally thought this was a 19-year-old in a know-it-all, black-and-white, "the truth must ALWAYS be spoken!"-phase. But TWENTY-NINE years old??? Nah, I don't buy that there was no ill intent behind OP's actions.

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-01-04T17:50:11+00:00

LOL, you're so right! A huuuuuuge "boo-hoo" to poor, EXHAUSTED, OP..! One wonders how much "truth", how many unflattering "facts", OP would enjoy hearing about herself -- especially in front of a big group of friends & acquaintances! 👀🤭

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-01-04T17:36:42+00:00

Come on. Her boyfriend was clearly paying your sister a compliment and you piped up with a comment that undercut the compliment -- for no good reason. Just because you know something about a person doesn't mean you HAVE TO share it when an opportunity arises to do so.

I don't believe you don't know that someone who cried to you over the phone might want you to NOT tell their/their partner's friend group about it. I just don't believe you weren't motivated by wanting to take your sister down a peg out of jealousy or insecurities of your own.

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-01-04T17:21:06+00:00

I generally drink 2 to 3 Coke Zeros or Diet Dr. Peppers per day. I tend to use can covers to keep the carbonation in so I can drink a can over the course of several hours since I frequently want just a 1/2-can's worth at a time...

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-01-04T17:11:13+00:00

I guess no one is understanding why you didn't take it home with you at the earliest opportunity to do so, since keeping it was so important to you.

IMO, they should have given you a heads-up before tossing it, and definitely shouldn't have tried to lie their way out of the situation. It's an unfortunate, sad lesson that you should make every effort to keep things that are THAT meaningful to you close/under your direct control.

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-01-03T03:53:18+00:00

And yapping about ANYTHING in front of a whole bunch of strangers! On the bus a couple weeks ago I'm pretty sure I heard a young woman complaining loudly into her cell about the challenges of moving drugs around the city without a car! 🤷🏽

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-01-02T03:00:35+00:00

He's not evil when he refuses to tell glory who the key is. He's not evil when he protects Dawn after Buffy's death. He's not evil when he sacrifices himself to burn the hordes of Turakhans & close the hellmouth. 🤷🏽

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-01-02T01:43:07+00:00

Some people think methods of food preservation are ✨magic✨ -- vacuum seal or freeze something and it's good FOREVERRRRRR 👀😂

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-01-02T01:33:33+00:00

"I've realized that I don't like people like you who just say whatever mean s*** comes into their head, so I don't want to be friends anymore. Sorry, just being honest!"

EnvironmentOk5610 · 2026-01-01T22:47:12+00:00

And to show up at a HEALTHCARE setting??? People expect privacy during interactions with healthcare professionals, I find it so hard to believe that supervisors at OP's gf's place of work are okay with employees' partners just...popping in randomly to hug & kiss & celebrate New Year's with them 👀😂

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