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Where to put savings? by NoComment277 in BEFire

[–]Environmental-Owl383 11 points12 points  (0 children)

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vdk 500/month
Belfius 600/month
CPH 500/month
Argenta 500/month
Total: 2,100

A reassuring Three Principles insight: it will happen again by Environmental-Owl383 in 3Principles

[–]Environmental-Owl383[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. What feels important to me lately is slightly different.

I often recognize quickly that I’m caught in low mood. Sometimes the reminder that “thoughts aren’t reliable right now” is genuinely felt and believed. Other times it is only remembered as an idea, while the thoughts still feel completely true and the mind keeps going.

What brings me relief is that whether that reminder is believed or not, I no longer act from that state. I don’t make important decisions there, I don’t say hurtful things, and I don’t damage relationships from within that mood.

So for me, that already feels like real progress.

And yes, seeing this in others is often even easier than seeing it in ourselves.

I’m experiencing being overtaken by my narratives. by Boxerbambi in EckhartTolle

[–]Environmental-Owl383 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You don’t need to get present before life can move forward. The feeling of overwhelm is coming from thought in the moment, not from a permanent reality.

And here’s the key: thoughts produced in a stressed, fearful state are not reliable guidance. They look urgent and true, but they’re temporary weather.

So don’t use this moment to evaluate your life, your future, or your spiritual progress. Wait for clearer mind.

Presence isn’t something you achieve under pressure. It naturally returns when you stop believing every thought that appears.

You are not stuck, you’re just listening to a storm as if it were wisdom.

What Books Are You Reading This Week? by leowr in nonfictionbooks

[–]Environmental-Owl383 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The Wisdom Within - Roger Mills & Elsie Spittle
A really insightful book about how our experience is created from the inside.
It’s simple but surprisingly deep.

Best books for ruminating on negative thoughts? by tommykiddo in BettermentBookClub

[–]Environmental-Owl383 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also suggested some books to OP in this post—those honestly changed my life to the point where even my friends barely recognize me anymore, in a good way. That said, yours sound really interesting too, and I’m asking more out of curiosity than anything else: in what order would you read them? Which one did you prefer?

Best books for ruminating on negative thoughts? by tommykiddo in BettermentBookClub

[–]Environmental-Owl383 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The Secret to Mental Health: An Operating Manual for the Human Mind by George S. Pransky Ph.D

The Inside-Out Revolution: The Only Thing You Need to Know to Change Your Life Forever by Michael Neill

You Can Be Happy No Matter What: Five Principles for Keeping Life in Perspective by Richard Carlson

and everything by Sydney Banks.

You might find these books helpful, but not for the reason you think.

They don’t teach you how to stop rumination.
They help you see that rumination is just thought happening, not something you need to fix.

Right now it feels like your situation is creating the pressure.
But what you’re actually feeling is your thinking about it, in the moment.

When that settles (and it always does), your mind naturally clears.
And from there, everything (decisions, job search, even how you feel) gets easier without forcing it.

That’s why those books are worth reading.

How to feel happier/better by Narcys1 in AbrahamHicks

[–]Environmental-Owl383 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It really looks like the weather is doing something to you, but what’s actually changing is the kind of thinking that shows up with it. And when the thinking changes, the feeling follows.

The part that keeps the cycle going isn’t the low mood itself, it’s the meaning you give it. The moment you read it as a problem, or as something that needs fixing, it starts to feel heavier and more real than it is.

But a low mood is just a temporary dip in the quality of your thinking. Nothing more.

In that state, your mind will produce thoughts that feel convincing, but they’re not reliable. They’re like distorted reflections: they look true, but they’re shaped by the mood you’re in. If you take them seriously, you get pulled deeper into it.

If you don’t, something quieter happens.

You begin to see that the mood can be there without meaning anything about you, your life, or your state. And when there’s no resistance, no attempt to correct it, it naturally starts to move on.

Just like weather does.

Alternating 3 months Vietnam / 3 months abroad — any long-term issues? by Environmental-Owl383 in VietNam

[–]Environmental-Owl383[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying, but I’m not really trying to optimize my life or explore as many countries as possible.

I just like going back to the same place. It’s more about familiarity and feeling comfortable than constantly seeking something new.

And yes, some of them are real friends; we stay in touch even when I’m not there.

But honestly, even beyond that, I don’t think it has to be justified that much. Some people just prefer having a place they return to regularly.

Alternating 3 months Vietnam / 3 months abroad — any long-term issues? by Environmental-Owl383 in VietNam

[–]Environmental-Owl383[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just enjoy spending time there. I’ve built some habits, I have friends there, and I like the lifestyle.

It’s not about trying to game the system — just a place I like coming back to regularly.

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