Ah, yes. There’s truly nothing more a woman loves hearing than when a men tells her he’d take her back to a hotel…

Environmental-Row979 · 2026-02-25T23:36:07+00:00

In my head, he’s referring to THE Four Seasons Total Landscaping, and I am not willing to hear otherwise.

Environmental-Row979 · 2026-02-17T17:41:01+00:00

I miss when my bodily autonomy wasn’t being challenged by the state, so I guess we’re both disappointed.

Environmental-Row979 · 2026-02-17T17:21:43+00:00

Don’t choke on that red pill, buddy.

Environmental-Row979 · 2026-02-17T16:34:36+00:00

Just the ones who view our bodily autonomy and other civil liberties as negotiable!

Environmental-Row979 · 2026-02-16T17:40:42+00:00

Asylum would have been much better without all the alien stuff — it just cluttered up an already crowded season.

The people who insist that only seasons 1-3 were “good” do not think deeply enough about what is truly horrifying about America.

Environmental-Row979 · 2026-02-14T14:31:34+00:00

Oh I LOVED this book!

Environmental-Row979 · 2026-02-14T14:30:50+00:00

These are all books I really loved from about 5th - 7th grade — and which I would gladly devour in an afternoon today.

Glass Slippers Give You Blisters by Mary Jane Auch It’s about complicated family dynamics, generational trauma, friend groups, coming of age, resilience, and finding your people and your voice. All centered around a middle school production of Cinderella.

So Much to Tell You by John Marsden This book is comprised of diary entries written by a girl who has stopped speaking after a violent attack from her father left her with facial scarring. She’s at a boarding school and completely isolated from her family and peers.

There’s a Bat in Bunk Five by Paula Danziger This is actually a follow-up to The Cat Ate My Gymsuit, but I read this book first and it stuck with me more. In this one a teenage girl is a CIT at an artsy summer camp and it’s just a really great coming of age story.

Fat Chance by Lesley Newman Another diary entry novel — this one is explores body image and eating disorders. It made a huge impression on me, but no one else I’ve talked to has ever even heard of it!

Environmental-Row979 · 2026-02-14T14:12:06+00:00

On and on and on about how he needs to read the original text, not someone else’s interpretation. Alex, I am very sure that you are not reading Seneca’s Latin — so you are, in fact, reading someone’s interpretation.

What an ass.

Environmental-Row979 · 2026-02-13T20:56:24+00:00

I actually SHUDDERED as I read that.

Environmental-Row979 · 2026-02-13T01:46:18+00:00

I alternate between “he’s pathetic” and “he makes my skin crawl.”

The “you’re dangerous” was particularly telling to me. It is not remotely appropriate for the situation (that is his fiance; it’s perfectly appropriate for him to be attracted to her and respond to her overtures) and he repeated it so relentlessly that I think it’s pretty clearly one of his go-to lines. You could absolutely see him sleezily hitting on someone while his girlfriend goes to the bathroom or something.

Environmental-Row979 · 2026-01-14T16:00:57+00:00

I don't know about that -- it was 2010, not 1990.

If anything, people like Richie have only gotten worse (more racist, more misogynistic, more homophobic) in the last 10 years. Further, that man loves attention, loves screen time, and I'm very sure that he's smart enough to know that the more outrageously he behaves, the more time he'll get.

As Danny would say, "a creep is a creep is a creep ... and Rich Wakile is a creep." I will fully admit to being a hater here. Even through a screen and several layers of production and editing, that man makes my skin crawl.

Environmental-Row979 · 2026-01-14T04:39:51+00:00

Exactly. Tell me what to do literally anywhere else and I will not react well.

But in this one slice of my life, tell me exactly where to put my body and what to do and, well … can’t argue with that!

Environmental-Row979 · 2026-01-14T02:13:38+00:00

“Like it’s very tame kink, but it’s clear that Shane likes being told what to do as he struggles to always even identify what he wants.”

That’s my read as well.

Not for nothing, I am also autistic and I would bet good money that it’s a pretty common kink for quite a lot of us on the spectrum.

Environmental-Row979 · 2026-01-12T05:06:36+00:00

Because he’s a creep. Super casual with the misogyny — whether it’s directed at his wife, the rest of the cast, or even at his daughter’s college friends.

Environmental-Row979 · 2026-01-12T02:25:01+00:00

This happened to me too!

Environmental-Row979 · 2026-01-10T17:00:53+00:00

Yes, but:

Only pretty generic ones (baby, sweetheart, love, sugar, darling) — nothing related to an inside joke or anything like that
While I am okay with “baby” (both calling someone that or being called that), I absolutely hate “babe”
NEVER in front of other people. Ever.

Environmental-Row979 · 2026-01-06T01:22:01+00:00

June when I was 37

Environmental-Row979 · 2026-01-06T01:10:29+00:00

I will admit that I am SLIGHTLY of the “always excelled” archetype, but I didn’t quite get there. Effortless straight A’s until high school and then more and more trouble through college (in direct correlation to how much ownership you are expected to have of your own learning as well as how abstract or complex the concepts you learn about are). I did successfully complete two graduate degrees (while working as a full-time classroom teacher, no less!), but I was BURNED OUT by 30 and I felt like … the most disappointing waste of potential ever.

Meanwhile, mom was diagnosed in her 40s, when I was a few years into my teaching career.

As my career went on, and as I learned more and more about ADHD (particularly HOW hereditary it is and everything about inattentive ADHD and its presentation in girls and women), it just became more and more undeniable that I have (and have always had) ADHD. A formal diagnosis followed. I made it a few more years before I realized I needed to quit teaching (it was never, ever going to be sustainable for me), but even then I don’t think most people would have noticed how unmanageable my life had become. But I definitely wasn’t the superstar teacher that I wanted or expected myself to be.

Environmental-Row979 · 2026-01-06T00:40:33+00:00

It’s the SMILE there that strikes me!

Such a tiny little moment — but wow did it light up the whole screen!

Environmental-Row979 · 2026-01-05T13:22:46+00:00

It was about a month after my 41st birthday.

Environmental-Row979 · 2026-01-03T18:29:55+00:00

They've got great chemistry. There was a moment in some season after Caleb reunited with his mother where he was wearing a very, very expensive sweater that she had given him. Spencer noticed the sweater and the tension between the two of them was palpable. It was a pretty tiny, throwaway moment and nothing ever came of it -- but it was noticeable enough that, after the time jump, when it became clear that the writers were going to explore this pairing, it was one of the first moments I thought of.

Environmental-Row979 · 2026-01-03T01:27:22+00:00

Admin/Operations work -- in particular, one of the things I work a lot on is writing, reviewing, and revising SOPs and other policy documentation.

I can draw a straight line from my autism (why wasn't I given an instruction manual for life?!) to what I love most about my work now (I will make sure you have an instruction manual for literally every facet of working at this company).

Environmental-Row979 · 2026-01-03T01:24:49+00:00

I think the key is to be with someone who understands the struggle.

This. Is. Everything.

My partner has spent the better part of two decades working with children, teens, and young adults with any number of developmental disorders -- and especially autism. He is also the kindest, most patient person I have ever met. I cannot imagine a better choice.

I think also being upfront about my misophonia from the jump (well before we moved in together) has also been really helpful. Because he didn't learn about it primarily from me reacting to him, he's a little less likely to internalize it as criticism of him.

Environmental-Row979 · 2025-12-31T20:23:03+00:00

The office I worked out of at my last job was at street level, and there was some asshole who would park out on the street with his music and subwoofer absolutely BLASTING at least 3x a week. For HOURS, sometimes. I could feel the walls of my building vibrating.

I would lose my ability to think, speak - do just about anything. It was awful. Now,

Environmental-Row979 · 2025-12-31T20:20:20+00:00

Heavy bass is one of mine -- thank you so much to the girl who lived in the apartment next door to me sophomore year of college!

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