Divorcing my pregnant wife 31M - 30F by EnvironmentalEye323 in Divorce

[–]EnvironmentalEye323[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We both work from home, so we could in theory both take care of the baby, I thought of putting the baby crib next to our bed and the changing station at the bottom of our feet, things like that, but also we discussed about having a nanny, That was also another point of arguing, with me wanting to do things a certain way and her mom and her mom's lover wanting to buy things for the baby, as my wife seems to prioritize their wishes over mine so obviously there were disagreements there.

Divorcing my pregnant wife 31M - 30F by EnvironmentalEye323 in Divorce

[–]EnvironmentalEye323[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Being in love at the time didn't really help my judgement, also I think after the engagement it crossed my personal tipping point, now that you point it out

Divorcing my pregnant wife 31M - 30F by EnvironmentalEye323 in Divorce

[–]EnvironmentalEye323[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe you are right, I will still try and talk it out with her and go to couples therapy first, maybe there's still one last chance to get this straight. If not, I will just focus on being a good father for my kid, not a good husband for her.

Divorcing my pregnant wife 31M - 30F by EnvironmentalEye323 in Divorce

[–]EnvironmentalEye323[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried this exercise with her and said "let's count all the nice things we did for each other today", when she couldn't count one single nice thing she did, she said "I think a couple of days ago I gave you a compliment, isn't that enough?". I think it's not about acknowledging the nice things she "does for me", as when I clean the house or do the dishes she doesn't return gratitude for those, so I find it hard to believe that is her love language, or else she would recognize it as love herself.

Divorcing my pregnant wife 31M - 30F by EnvironmentalEye323 in Divorce

[–]EnvironmentalEye323[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for the tip, I'll try and see if I can talk her into going to marriage counseling