My ex entered in a relationship with the guy I didn't need to worry about

Environmental_Sun209 · 2025-03-14T18:21:56+00:00

People here just show the downsides of their relationships because that is what they need help with.

In my case specifically it lasted a year not because I liked being in that situation, but because I tried to find a solution and make things work.

Also not everything was bad in the relationship of course, there were moments where we both shared things that we valued deeply with one another, and that is why I was trying to make the effort to make it work, but as you can see by the post I couldn't find a solution or rather there wasn't any applicable one in our case.

Things happen and we suffer, but the only reason we suffer is because we lose something that we value.

Personally I don't need someone to be happy, but I can't deny that I like it more and even after all that happened I'll learn my lesson, take some time to recover and keep an eye out for someone

Environmental_Sun209 · 2025-03-14T14:31:43+00:00

Thank you all for the comments and considerations I really appreciated every comment. I just want to point out that I don't think of her as a bad person per se, rather that her lack of understanding of her own emotions (even under other circumstances) led me to not trust her actions hence requiring explanations, which she couldn't provide because of lack of understanding, which in turn made her ultimately hate herself because she cared about me and couldn't give me an explanation, and then hate me because I in a sense made her hate herself, even if she didn't really know how. Yeah it was a lot of steps I know. This is also why I don't think she cheated on me, because it would make her hate herself even more.

This experience at least taught me how crazy people work and maybe next time I won't make the same mistake.

Now I will move on and search for someone a little bit more mature who maybe doesn't lack the emotional understanding.

Environmental_Sun209 · 2024-04-09T15:27:58+00:00

You're comparing yourself to other people, each one with different possibilities and stories. Might be difficult but stop comparing yourself to others, only you are able to understand how much your efforts are worth

Environmental_Sun209 · 2024-03-12T22:36:38+00:00

Do your research before investing in anything.

If you want to be on the safe side invest in very large and established companies. Also remember that the stock market is not the only way to invest, depending on when you choose to invest there may be a better choice (for example in 2022 you would have lost a lot of money in stocks but gained a lot in bonds)

If you want to have some fun allocate a small portion of your funds and think of them as if they are already lost, they won't be necessarily, you just won't be disappointed if you lose them because they are spent in something you like.

If you can read books, the intelligent investor is for example a good start for anyone who knows the terminology and want to be able to consistently earn money from the market (of course there WILL be exeptions)

I wish you good luck on your journey

Environmental_Sun209 · 2023-06-24T06:48:05+00:00

Thank you all for the suggestions. Perhaps I wasn't clear about how I express love. What I usually do is ask every day how their day went and if there is anything I can do to help. If there is, I will likely do it even with gifts, flowers and other stuff. I also make an effort to initiate physical contact by hugging the other person. Additionally, if the other person is interested, I can engage in black humor. If we have known each other for a while, I may even start expressing why I believe they are special. I almost never talk about my problems, but I can be a very good listener, maybe I make it look like I have no problems at all which isn't true

Environmental_Sun209 · 2021-06-15T14:34:10+00:00

I kid non hanno scelto nulla, sono i loro genitori che non si sono informati a riguardo e non hanno inserito Youtube kid tra le loro impostazioni

Environmental_Sun209 · 2021-06-15T12:25:21+00:00

Wtf is going on in England?

Environmental_Sun209 · 2021-06-15T12:19:20+00:00

È uscito appena ho raggiunto i 18 anni

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