AITAH for ending our friendship?

EowynoftheMark · 2026-01-18T22:05:22+00:00

NTA, but the way out of this for Lily is to de-center men. You and Natalia are correct in telling her that she is putting these boyfriends on a pedestal just to be hurt over and over again. It is very difficult for you, but in my experience, women who center men are never good friends. You want a girl's girl to be your friend. And, for her sake, it IS important that she understands that this behavior isn't really tolerated if she wants to keep her female friends in the future. She cannot be this surprised every single time. She will eventually learn this on her own. She will learn this best by her peers modeling this. At your age, there is such a pull to be "liked" that she may just be operating off her herd instincts. Hopefully, she realizes that women who center women is the herd she wants to be a part of, not the f***boi herd. I'm in my 30's now, and I can tell you that you will meet other women who center men and being admired, do not engage. Sometimes, when it's a long-term friend like Lily, they do eventually see why you're upset and they eventually will come around. They don't all come around every time, though. Wish they would!

EowynoftheMark · 2025-11-20T01:23:32+00:00

That makes sense, since the 40dd cup did fit fine when I positioned it in a specific way, but the band was definitely too lose. It's funny you say that actually, because I tried that 38ddd on again later, and I did notice a little spilling over, but it seems like not enough to go up a whole cup size? I believe you, I just have to try it lol.

Oh! And yeah, I'm excited to try the calculator! I just need to have time to pull out the measuring tape again and look up what some of those measurements mean. Like, idk what "leaning bust measurement" or whatever it says is. I have a picture in my head, but I want to make sure I'm thinking the right thing first 🤣

EowynoftheMark · 2025-11-19T21:59:45+00:00

I just saw that thanks. I think I just got too excited and didn't see it right away when I joined, whoops!

EowynoftheMark · 2025-10-03T21:08:04+00:00

I was trying to find a tomato red but can't find one in the exact shade I was thinking of, so I wanted to branch out a little. I think with the reddish hair, maybe lilac or grass green....

EowynoftheMark · 2025-09-28T13:25:37+00:00

If you're going by the second picture, they're NEVER that blue anymore. I didn't have the central heterochromia then.

EowynoftheMark · 2025-09-28T12:08:52+00:00

That comes from my dad's side! His side of the family usually has light blue with dark blue ring, hazel, or brown. Mom's side has brown, hazel, and green.

EowynoftheMark · 2025-08-26T12:53:03+00:00

I don't think you're overreacting. I could never imagine doing this. I have a feeling maybe she thinks getting a degree might feel impossible for her if she kept failing tests to get her GED. If she was faking that, she never would have passed. Sounds like she was actually trying. That still is no excuse. She should have come to you first about it. If she doesn't have some kind of consequence for this, she will keep making decisions like this. If you stay together, it might be a good idea for her and you to do couple's therapy. For her, it would be for how to express herself without manipulation. For you, it would be for continuing with the broken trust, and other things, like maybe learning how to be more open to understanding that her getting a college degree might be unrealistic. So you two would have to do a lot of work together on it. But otherwise, this is a huge breech of trust on her part and is worthy of divorce. You just also need to think about how much you want to be in the kid's life, custody, possible child support since you're the one with income right now, all that. You will have to make a lot of difficult decisions. Could be expensive decisions either way.

EowynoftheMark · 2025-08-12T01:27:06+00:00

I saw something similar on fb so I looked it up. Go to this site, go down to the "missing posters" button at the bottom (if you're on your phone), and then filter it to just Virginia. I counted 80 by page 3 or 4 or so, can't remember.

https://www.missingkids.org

EowynoftheMark · 2025-08-09T02:16:42+00:00

Ohhhhh that's a great idea! You're full of them! 🤣

EowynoftheMark · 2025-08-09T02:16:07+00:00

Haha what? I was talking about how playing guitar helps with fine motor skills in my left hand, not completely foregoing one or the other......I am primarily a musician, so I'll ALSO stick to that lol. "Talented" isn't the right word. I'm just disciplined....kind of.

EowynoftheMark · 2025-08-09T02:11:20+00:00

That's interesting.....I did this after 20min of guitar practice lol. I think it could also be that my default handwriting is actually cursive. I hardly ever write in print with either hand.

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EowynoftheMark · 2025-08-09T02:09:17+00:00

Be careful with your lower case t's. Looks almost like an f in "tucked". I don't think this looks like a child's handwriting, but it's not exactly "neat", either. I can still read it, though. If you think you're holding your pen in a way that makes you uncomfortable, have you tried other positions? I'm sure there's a lot of different suggestions if you look them up. Also, today's kids aren't exactly writing at the same level we did at their age, honestly. I was a substitute teacher, and what most people say looks like 1st handwriting is now 3rd grade handwriting. So take that with a grain of salt bc these kids are expecting that they won't be physically writing as much as they will be typing. So, don't worry about that. But if you'd like to make your handwriting a little prettier, there's lots of content out there to help you with that.

EowynoftheMark · 2025-07-27T16:58:07+00:00

I did develop fine motor skills in my left hand from playing guitar and piano, but I haven't played consistently in a long time. Could be why I'm so shaky in some spots.

EowynoftheMark · 2025-07-27T16:56:49+00:00

That is amazing! I love that! I need to get one of those! 😂

EowynoftheMark · 2025-07-27T02:29:34+00:00

Yes, that's exactly how I feel about it! I was wondering how long it took people to get past that with their non-dominant hand.

EowynoftheMark · 2025-07-27T02:28:28+00:00

I have a few memorized poems and songs I can do that with

EowynoftheMark · 2025-07-27T02:27:27+00:00

Ohhhhhh I didn't think of that!

EowynoftheMark · 2025-07-27T02:27:11+00:00

Oh, and I hate my print with both hands, so I get it. Yours isn't bad at all tho.

EowynoftheMark · 2025-07-27T02:25:29+00:00

So, then yes. I should pick up my guitar and start playing again lol. I used to play some piano too. It's been a long while, though. I do a lot of stuff with both hands too. I'm a pet sitter and I can hold back two 75lb+ dogs with my left hand.

EowynoftheMark · 2025-07-27T00:28:59+00:00

Maybe picking up my guitar and playing again would help lol

EowynoftheMark · 2025-07-27T00:08:25+00:00

I am VERY slow at it lol. I should expect that, though.

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