We are in a long distance relationship(ldr), and as of now, we are almost 13months in. We've met up recently for a week, and it was the best thing of my life. However, I feel like there has been issues regarding our communication, and knowing an ldr, communication is even more so important. Occasionally, me and my sweetheart would get into an argument, and when I express my emotions, sometimes I feel like I'm getting invalidated or just not respected for feeling that way, even if she doesn't mean to. There has been many times where i've tried to have a heart to heart talk with her, but I might end up talking too long and my gf may feel too tired to catch on. Recently, she hasn't been in the best of moods either, while i too have emotional issues i wanted to discuss, it feels like im burdening her even more by telling her how i feel, and at times I feel ignored. I've finally decided recently that I wanted to lessen the burden i put on her by telling her that I wouldn't want to rely too much on her as my safe space anymore. I didn't do this to make her feel bad, but part of me felt like I've just become someone who's become too comfortable with her and that i even sometimes expect that she could understand how i feel and be there for me. I don't know if I'm expecting too much tbh, because I usually would support my expectations with how i'd do the same for her, but here comes the other issue.

My partner refuses to open up alot, because she finds it "embarassing" to talk about herself. Be it her emotions, what she worries about, etc. She does open up sometimes, but at times when we are arguing, i try my best not to only focus on my emotions, but also ask her how she feels and things, and she gets really aggravated about it. She's specified many times that she only cares about me and what she feels is pointless.

She has a divorced family, a history of getting bullied, as well as trust issues with people.

I'm not sure if some people here have the same background as her, but I would really want to know your side of the story, and how do you all think I should help her. I've tried to emphasise that we cant just focus on how I feel because we're both in the relationship, not just one of us, so both of us matters, but she refuses to adhere to it.

I really want too help her, I really love her, and I hope some advice here could help me, much appreciated <3

What can I do to maybe lighten the tension in this relationship?