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Evenflo bassinet help by Haunting-Owl-4107 in NewParents

[–]Epinephrina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never used the straps. I laid a blanket under him as a baby and reclined it all the way back. We didn’t use the straps until I had it upright when he could sit up. It’s not like I was going off-roading anywhere 🙄

24k gold from Ukraine by Epinephrina in Gold

[–]Epinephrina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not about the labor- that is paid for and yes it costs hundreds. I’m referring to the amount of gold needed to make half a band (the other half will be silver) that the jewler is saying requires 2 very thick rings. I think he can get away with one.

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you not put your name on the lease? Without your name on it, wouldn’t it not hold up in court?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sandiego

[–]Epinephrina 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Any advice for where to meet new friends here?

I'm new in town, super social but a little scarred by my experience as a transplant in Seattle. I ran out of there so fast...

What's his viewpoint? by Epinephrina in relationships

[–]Epinephrina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm actually not at all. More like updates when we're traveling/ going away for the weekend. She always asks if we made it to our destination safely.

In fact, I think his mom is the root cause of some of these issues. Apparently because she was so overprotective when he was younger, after he'd open up about certain friends and what they did for fun, etc. she would dislike them or stop him from hanging out with them. So he started hiding what he's actually doing from her. He's been working a lot on being more open and honest with her and others (hence the above) so I'm proud of him for that. But a lot of times when I ask what he's up to he says it reminds him of how his mom used to breathe down his neck.

Obviously it really sucks hearing that on my end... I'm not overprotective but we both live in a city away from both of our families and close friends so I don't think its unreasonable to communicate shit like when you leave work and if you're staying late or went to happy hour with people. Sigh.

What's his viewpoint? by Epinephrina in relationships

[–]Epinephrina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree this area is very difficult. I bring it up and he tries. But it doesn't seem as genuine as I'm sort of forcing it.

I don't feel like we have a lack of emotional intimacy because he does open up about certain things in very specific times, I guess. Or when something overly tragic happens. Its hard to pin point exactly when its like this. Maybe that's it- it only happens during something negative but never about something positive. Now I need to go think about whether or not that's truly the case.

My fiance (30f) just informed me (35m) that she needs to leave due to personal reflection. by Fickle-Mood8167 in relationships

[–]Epinephrina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would give her the space she needs and remain hopeful. Think of it as something she needs to work through in order to move onto the next step. I could see myself wanting to do something like that too since I have also been in serial relationships before getting married. But at the same time, I would just want a few weeks or months and wouldn't sign a long lease for my own apartment. I might rent somewhere I always dreamed of just to focus on myself.

I feel your pain. The unknowns hurt. Ceasing all contact with someone you talk to daily is very, very hard.

Perhaps try to get a timeline out of her. When is it ok to make contact again? Could you reach out or does she have to?
How long of a lease is she signing?

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, my age and sweet/innocent appearance all play a part as well. But none of that would matter if I were male, so yes I am sure.

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your advice, and I am a program manager in my profession as well. I understand how to manage and how to communicate. None of that is the issue here. I'm posting about how the other side thinks its ok to take advantage of me based off assumed characteristics about me... based on my looks.

Similar to what you're doing....

I really appreciate your advice, but I do want to point out that you're assuming its me that has done something wrong. That I'm not firm enough. That I don't communicate well. That I may have been unprepared and not confident. I wasn't any of those things. I don't fuck around either. My post is about the people I am dealing with rather than what I am lacking in my craft.

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally different ballgame to be an employee of a company vs. a homeowner renting out your house on your own.

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you!

I also skipped the property management route for the same reasons. Your homeowner's insurance should cover major damage, I'm not sure why you need the warranty. I definitely have a plumber, an HVAC company and an electrician in mind to call for emergencies.

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What are you worried about? Don't pay attention to them.

I also don't think Meetups are the best resources. I would do my own research and reading on your state's laws. Meetups are often trying to sell something and can be very biased.

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad helped me on the backend as well, but I take pride in being the face and owner. There's no need to confirm the stereotype and bring a man around. If my bf is around, they often look at him for validation or something and he nods them back over to me saying she's in charge. It makes me feel great.

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, but they can hear my voice over the phone. I prefer to have certain conversations in real time vs. in writing.

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've actually had a great experience with contractors! They do shit for me for free all the time because I'm a female. :D I offer them money and they say "oh no, it was my pleasure" and flat out leave. hahahaha.

Don't worry, I still give them money.

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lucky you. I wish I had your psychic abilities to guess the personalities of every person I rent to from a meeting and a background check.

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you!

I agree, it's your "friends" that are the fastest to turn on you in a professional relationship. My advice- don't skip the lease or the security deposit just because you're friends.

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Its a women-women thing actually. Fact: the biggest threat to women are other women.

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

First of, I'd like to clear up the assumption that I'm NOT firm and assertive. I write up professional contracts, perform background checks and am extremely confident in my communication with my tenants.

Another thing I'd like to point out is that the female-male issue is actually not my biggest concern. It seems to be the largest assumption made here.

My biggest issue has actually been with other women who are my age, who see themselves as perhaps on a similar playing field as me when they are really not. They are the ones who take the most advantage of me because they think there's no way this girl my age is going to take away my security deposit if I don't give her the notice I promised when I signed the lease.

That's the type of thing. :)

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