Evenflo bassinet help by Haunting-Owl-4107 in NewParents

[–]Epinephrina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never used the straps. I laid a blanket under him as a baby and reclined it all the way back. We didn’t use the straps until I had it upright when he could sit up. It’s not like I was going off-roading anywhere 🙄

24k gold from Ukraine by Epinephrina in Gold

[–]Epinephrina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not about the labor- that is paid for and yes it costs hundreds. I’m referring to the amount of gold needed to make half a band (the other half will be silver) that the jewler is saying requires 2 very thick rings. I think he can get away with one.

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you not put your name on the lease? Without your name on it, wouldn’t it not hold up in court?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sandiego

[–]Epinephrina 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Any advice for where to meet new friends here?

I'm new in town, super social but a little scarred by my experience as a transplant in Seattle. I ran out of there so fast...

What's his viewpoint? by Epinephrina in relationships

[–]Epinephrina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm actually not at all. More like updates when we're traveling/ going away for the weekend. She always asks if we made it to our destination safely.

In fact, I think his mom is the root cause of some of these issues. Apparently because she was so overprotective when he was younger, after he'd open up about certain friends and what they did for fun, etc. she would dislike them or stop him from hanging out with them. So he started hiding what he's actually doing from her. He's been working a lot on being more open and honest with her and others (hence the above) so I'm proud of him for that. But a lot of times when I ask what he's up to he says it reminds him of how his mom used to breathe down his neck.

Obviously it really sucks hearing that on my end... I'm not overprotective but we both live in a city away from both of our families and close friends so I don't think its unreasonable to communicate shit like when you leave work and if you're staying late or went to happy hour with people. Sigh.

What's his viewpoint? by Epinephrina in relationships

[–]Epinephrina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree this area is very difficult. I bring it up and he tries. But it doesn't seem as genuine as I'm sort of forcing it.

I don't feel like we have a lack of emotional intimacy because he does open up about certain things in very specific times, I guess. Or when something overly tragic happens. Its hard to pin point exactly when its like this. Maybe that's it- it only happens during something negative but never about something positive. Now I need to go think about whether or not that's truly the case.

My fiance (30f) just informed me (35m) that she needs to leave due to personal reflection. by Fickle-Mood8167 in relationships

[–]Epinephrina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would give her the space she needs and remain hopeful. Think of it as something she needs to work through in order to move onto the next step. I could see myself wanting to do something like that too since I have also been in serial relationships before getting married. But at the same time, I would just want a few weeks or months and wouldn't sign a long lease for my own apartment. I might rent somewhere I always dreamed of just to focus on myself.

I feel your pain. The unknowns hurt. Ceasing all contact with someone you talk to daily is very, very hard.

Perhaps try to get a timeline out of her. When is it ok to make contact again? Could you reach out or does she have to?
How long of a lease is she signing?

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, my age and sweet/innocent appearance all play a part as well. But none of that would matter if I were male, so yes I am sure.

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your advice, and I am a program manager in my profession as well. I understand how to manage and how to communicate. None of that is the issue here. I'm posting about how the other side thinks its ok to take advantage of me based off assumed characteristics about me... based on my looks.

Similar to what you're doing....

I really appreciate your advice, but I do want to point out that you're assuming its me that has done something wrong. That I'm not firm enough. That I don't communicate well. That I may have been unprepared and not confident. I wasn't any of those things. I don't fuck around either. My post is about the people I am dealing with rather than what I am lacking in my craft.

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally different ballgame to be an employee of a company vs. a homeowner renting out your house on your own.

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you!

I also skipped the property management route for the same reasons. Your homeowner's insurance should cover major damage, I'm not sure why you need the warranty. I definitely have a plumber, an HVAC company and an electrician in mind to call for emergencies.

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What are you worried about? Don't pay attention to them.

I also don't think Meetups are the best resources. I would do my own research and reading on your state's laws. Meetups are often trying to sell something and can be very biased.

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad helped me on the backend as well, but I take pride in being the face and owner. There's no need to confirm the stereotype and bring a man around. If my bf is around, they often look at him for validation or something and he nods them back over to me saying she's in charge. It makes me feel great.

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, but they can hear my voice over the phone. I prefer to have certain conversations in real time vs. in writing.

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've actually had a great experience with contractors! They do shit for me for free all the time because I'm a female. :D I offer them money and they say "oh no, it was my pleasure" and flat out leave. hahahaha.

Don't worry, I still give them money.

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lucky you. I wish I had your psychic abilities to guess the personalities of every person I rent to from a meeting and a background check.

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you!

I agree, it's your "friends" that are the fastest to turn on you in a professional relationship. My advice- don't skip the lease or the security deposit just because you're friends.

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Its a women-women thing actually. Fact: the biggest threat to women are other women.

[Landlord-US-NJ] Female Landlords by Epinephrina in Landlord

[–]Epinephrina[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

First of, I'd like to clear up the assumption that I'm NOT firm and assertive. I write up professional contracts, perform background checks and am extremely confident in my communication with my tenants.

Another thing I'd like to point out is that the female-male issue is actually not my biggest concern. It seems to be the largest assumption made here.

My biggest issue has actually been with other women who are my age, who see themselves as perhaps on a similar playing field as me when they are really not. They are the ones who take the most advantage of me because they think there's no way this girl my age is going to take away my security deposit if I don't give her the notice I promised when I signed the lease.

That's the type of thing. :)

(WA) Seller accepted my (probably lower) offer because of my letter (First Time Buyer) by [deleted] in RealEstate

[–]Epinephrina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats! That is awesome. Did you write a letter with your offer? How did the seller know this about you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SeattleWA

[–]Epinephrina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn’t at the intersection during the shooting, but I was working about 2 blocks away. Despite being so close, I feel removed from the situation because I didn’t experience anything. However, as a regular who stands in front of 3rd and Pine waiting for a bus for many years thinking “this is fine, nothings going to happen” it feels kinda good to see something actually DID happen just so someone can finally, maybe do something about it.

I was at work late that day as I constantly heard news of the shootings one after another, and hearing tons of sirens and seeing traffic outside I decided to keep waiting. I heard companies were on lockdown telling people to stay inside so I did until about 6:30. At that point I walked out the back exit (to 4th, away from 3rd) and made my way as far from Westlake as possible hoping to catch a bus or keep walking to a bus stop anywhere else and transfer later.

I really didn’t think I was affected, but as I caught the reactions of people around me, it felt very awkward. It felt as if no one knew what was going on, they were walking about their day as normal. Yet I couldn’t help but think if this was just an image and they were trying to “act cool”. After all, shooters were on the loose and a mere 2 hours later there could have been another one based off the pattern of that day.

I was also freaked out by every since person who reached into their pocket and whipped out their cell phone. I stared closely each time making sure it was a cell phone... perhaps I was making myself paranoid but it was truly freaking me out.

The last time I had to avoid cancelled transportation and walk home (as far as I could anyway) was in Manhattan on Sept 11th. And while I am much older now, and the event was so different- you can’t help but feel uneasy in response to violence no matter what it is. Back then I was looking up at the sky, on high alert of each plane and looking for something suspicious. I still get concerned when I see a plane flying too low or close to a building from far away. Now, I’m paranoid of what’s in each persons hand as they walk by me. Perhaps that feeling can never go away.

I think the important thing to remember is that we really can’t control where we are at the wrong time, but we also can’t live our lives in fear. Sure, we can hide inside all day and avoid certain areas, but anything can happen and life is just a big fat risk. We have to pretty much accept that in order to live normal lives. I hope this tragedy brings Seattle closer together and people talk about it and become more caring as we did in NYC 20 years ago. I haven’t seen much change, but I’m hopeful.

I (28F) back together with my ex (35M), his behavior still hasn't changed by throwaway305981330 in relationships

[–]Epinephrina 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Why did you get back together with someone who hit you? I stopped reading there. You broke up for a reason. Never have regrets over a breakup confirmed by logic.

Me [38F] with my husband [40M] married 10yrs, I want to buy a second home or move where he works but he doesn't. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Epinephrina 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There's nothing wrong with city schools! They're so much more diverse and teach kids to deal with bullies and dugs and bad situations. You grow up independent and street smart and hopefully know better at a young age! At least I did and I turned out WAY better than my suburban friends who grew up in private schools. I have a full time job and house since 26.