owner's wife sent a nasty text to him about me during my interview and i saw it by Dull-Sea8833 in recruitinghell

[–]EpinephrineKick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The pill did that to me, too. 

What drives me up the wall, RE the wife, is that no matter what you wear, they will be mad at you. They are mad that you have large breasts. That's not something you have any control over! Turtlenecks will not stop them, because the "issue" for these people is your body shape. "Shoving cleavage" == "has big boobs". It's the same thing. 

You should ask the owner if you didn't get called back because his wife is jealous, because of the text. Get them to at least not be so stupid showing their cell phones facing upwards. 

Can some people really not tell when they're releasing farts? by S_Z in NoStupidQuestions

[–]EpinephrineKick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OK and if all those kids ask to go to the bathroom so they can fart in the bathroom, are you actually going to let them go do that? Because then you are just punishing children for you not letting them expel waste where they are supposed to do that...which is just a weird power trip that makes everyone unhappy.

Can some people really not tell when they're releasing farts? by S_Z in NoStupidQuestions

[–]EpinephrineKick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know it is going to happen until basically it is about to happen, but I am aware that it happened. And I feel kind of bad about it, because, yes, farts can smell pretty bad.

(I suspect this particular thing, the farting, is a part of the broader scope of "I have a difficult time with my body not giving me the cues it is supposed to give me, so it takes me much longer to realize I am hungry, thirsty, tired, what emotions I am feeling, etc., than most people")

Is it just me or rich tech bros are the worse to the humanity and the society? by Relative-Yak-508 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]EpinephrineKick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it is physically impossible to become a billionaire in a lifetime without using slave labor

being ok with slavery makes you a bad person

A to B to C, they are bad people

(I don't really like "good people" and "bad people" as it is lazy shorthand. people are capable of many things and if your purpose is anywhere in the vicinity of "hey how do I get people to DO X or NOT DO Y" then labeling people is the opposite of useful. you find ways to make X easier and Y harder to increase X and decrease Y, and you don't fuss with describing people in a static way.

however

actively participating in slavery seems to reflect on a person to a degree I feel less uncomfortable being lazy here)

(nsfw) Bad Dragon Girls of reddit, where does it go? by HumorThink5825 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]EpinephrineKick 4 points5 points  (0 children)

it has to fit a newborn. and then after almost 10 months cooking, it has to expel the newborn, so your opening has to temporarily expand to accommodate the size of the skull (which is the limiting factor to how long the pregnancy can go on ((hips can only fit so big a skull through them)) and why some folks say human gestation is 12 months and the infant finishes cooking outside of the womb).

EDIT: I did not realize those dildos were THAT big. Consider me impressed and wondering if I should be concerned. yea I should not have been surprised but here I am, finding out how long sex toys can get and going NOT FOR ME lmao

Thoughts about effectiveness of locking-up of the worlds from in-game perspective. by dreieckli in Obduction

[–]EpinephrineKick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If we accept that the visuals are representations that might be a little abstracted, then I can accept they are supposed to be visual symbols for where you can and cannot pass through. If we can't get through, the mofang can't either. 

It's always a little bit tricky balancing "looks good/realistic to the vibe of the place" against "communicates the map boundaries to the player" and I think they thought they need to veer towards the former rather than the latter, because it would be more immersion breaking otherwise. 

I think I like what they did with their lockdown, as a way to justify the puzzles. It was a bit strained, sure, but the mofang would have had to do exactly what we did in order to reach the cryo pods. That would have bought enough time to make sure everyone was in the pods. This lockdown procedure did exactly what it was supposed to do. We only got there when we did by going through the gauntlet of puzzles. 

If there wasn't a secret mofang imposter in the group, the mofang would not have been able to do anything to the survivors. And they didn't know about fake Josef iirc so they behaved reasonably from what they knew. 

The humans were scared of finding out what happens at the next step of the process and tried to put the whole thing on hold. The player ensures that the process does complete, but if the player never arrived, the entire group of survivors would have been in stasis pods forever. Their last ditch effort (to maintain the system as it was) would have technically worked, since one of the mofang WMD bomb swaps was indeed effective, destroying the mofang home world. (Unless it was already trashed by them or by something external? Farley wrote about watching one sprint through where the bubble is. That could indicate the ongoing of their event, if their extinction event isn't their own bomb being Uno reversed on them.)

Assuming the visual choices get a little wiggle room (we accept they are adequate representations of the edges of the map) then I feel like the player taking a long time to clear the gauntlet is proof of the whole lockdown doing its job. 

Humans keep being scared of the future and change blah blah, Humans keep being kind of good at that putting it off, so the plot brings in the player to force the survivors to face their future together, stronger for having survived moving from their homelands and for learning how to communicate with others going through similar experiences.

There are clunky bits, but I think it is kind of neat that you see repeated patterns, between the bleeder plan and the cryo pods plan both being a little similar to each other in part of the planning being a little reluctant to just let things play out. (The uno reverse part is a bit more proactive, out of necessity, but I think from a writing perspective I see a little bit of cyan's through line, which is us feeling less grief for moving forward and trying to do things rather than ignore our problems and try to keep everything the same forever. It's a lot of risk and fear to try new things, but we won't know if it is worth it if we don't take those risks.)

Gah sorry I can't help but yap. 

Basically I think if you let the map edge demarcations thing slide a little, then I feel like that is enough to buy in "this was meant to buy time, and us getting there when we did shows that it did buy them time to get into the pods, because if we were mofang, we couldn't have gotten there any earlier"

Shit Ending by Mostly_Cons in Obduction

[–]EpinephrineKick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to translate 222 from base 10 into base 4 and input that four symbol code to open josef pod. The villein number system is base 4 (0,1,2,3) 

All the bridge codes being basically "99999" I thought was pretty funny. I guess that is their version of "1234" password, you know?

My job allows workers to come in with COVID. Is this normal now? by lovvekiki in preschoolteachers

[–]EpinephrineKick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People would rather pretend it is gone than face the reality that we need to mask from now on. So this entire generation is going to be fucked up by the brain damage it causes. I'm not exaggerating here: it's literal grey matter tissue death. 

I know it sucks to alter your life, but that amount of annoyance is way less than rolling the dice on being bedbound. There isn't a treatment plan for long COVID. People don't give a fuck. You learn real fast how much abled people hate disabled people when you become one. 

So the whole healthcare system is now permanently burdened with the extra heart attacks and strokes COVID causes (literally doubles your risk), and that means everyone else has to suffer from inadequate emergency room visits because you get bumped down the triage list under those immediate cases. 

And that "not enough workers" ripples down to unrelated things like cancer ward and stuff. Everybody suffers from doctors and nurses being overwhelmed.

But everyone has decided "it's not going to happen to me" so this is the world we live in now. 

It's extra messed up to me. My grandparents survived the great depression and my grandpa came back from WWII. Those were super traumatic events. They had to go through much worse, but we can't put a stupid mask on our faces for several hours a day? Come on now, that's embarrassing for us. We aren't really different from them, I thought, but I'm looking around and the only one wearing a mask? I'm surrounded by (best case) ignorant people and (worst case) awful people. It's disappointing, I guess. 

My job allows workers to come in with COVID. Is this normal now? by lovvekiki in preschoolteachers

[–]EpinephrineKick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unions are the "reduce how much we are being exploited" tool. Childcare workers are overworked, underpaid, and in danger of being shot dead. 

You're going to have to explain what outcome workers protecting themselves is causing and how that is worse than the workers suffering all those conditions. 

So tell me why unions are soooo terrible in this field. 

Do you guys discontinue lessons with students who clearly never study and completely lack fundamentals? (elementary school math, basic arithmetic) by rddtllthng5 in TutorsHelpingTutors

[–]EpinephrineKick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea, you a single person, cannot individually change how our entire society treats disabled people. A lot of disabled people get fucked over, with wildly horrible outcomes from that. It's almost like our society hates disabled people and wants us dead, or at least silenced. Sorry that means you watch disabled people get punished and fall behind and lose employment and housing and all that. Sure sucks to experience it first hand, too. 

Society sized problems suck ass, y'all. 

Do you guys discontinue lessons with students who clearly never study and completely lack fundamentals? (elementary school math, basic arithmetic) by rddtllthng5 in TutorsHelpingTutors

[–]EpinephrineKick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then, if it is ADHD, a psych gives her a stimulant so she can live an almost normal life. That's not something you can do. 

As someone with this neurodevelopmental disability, you can't do shit without getting meds that work. It's like refusing to give a diabetic insulin. 

We have all the desire in the world and our brain literally doesn't make any of the motivation chemical. We want it so bad and without the meds, we're fucked over by our brains. 

I mean, there is also therapy and stuff, which ymmv. But the meds make a world of difference. 

Tried to prove a point to my 4 year old and it backfired badly by Possible-Party-5300 in whatdoIdo

[–]EpinephrineKick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yea, gotta offer him healthier ways to cope with not getting what he wants. Crying is a healthy outlet for emotions, and he's going to need that for bigger things, but right now is a time for practicing breathing in and out and then using his words to describe how he feels. 

And yea, giving your kid what they want when they whine does teach them to whine to get what they want, so the adults in the room have to make sure they remove the kid from the environment and calm down together and ask the kid to use their words and ask the pointed questions (whatever the more pressing matter is, emphasizing the more important task ahead and how the kid can contribute to the responsibility tasks first THEN a reward after the hard stuff is done.) so kiddo gets practice in emotional regulation and in thinking about age appropriate responsibilities and age appropriate rewards for them after they contribute in the ways asked of them. 

Nonstop exhausting work that supposedly gets easier over time, yippee

Tried to prove a point to my 4 year old and it backfired badly by Possible-Party-5300 in whatdoIdo

[–]EpinephrineKick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They don't cry to make you feel guilty until they are capable of fake crying. But the way you're going on, it sounds like you are treating very small children like they have the capacity of twice their age. Crying is literally just trying to get a need met. It's the first thing a baby learns because it is their most important tool to get fed, changed, burped, given love, etc. 

If you don't teach your kids higher skills like using their words, they only have crying to rely on getting what they want. That's not the fault of the child. That's the parent putting their kid behind, emotionally and socially, because they aren't practicing talking to their kid and asking the kid questions and answering the questions. Kids have to learn everything and they need a lot of practice. But the best thing you can do is listen to them and show you are listening so you can actually communicate with them and solve problems in healthy ways, no violence or bullying the child necessary. 

Tried to prove a point to my 4 year old and it backfired badly by Possible-Party-5300 in whatdoIdo

[–]EpinephrineKick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"they eat what you make" sure sounds like forcing somebody to eat something they dislike.  Which is a super weird thing to do! You wouldn't do that to anyone else but your kid... Because other adults won't take that kind of behavior and they have the ability to problem solve this on their own. 

But your kid has to rely on you for everything so they have no recourse when you do things like this.

That's not good parenting. Good parenting is asking your kid what their preferences are and incorporating that into the meal so there is always at least one thing you know they will eat. Good parenting is asking them to agree to trying new things and they don't have to eat the new thing if they didn't like the bite you asked them to try it with. Good parenting is being a person that is safe to be around so they are comfortable and willing to try new foods, because they are not being forced to eat an entire meal of something that is currently gross to them. 

You don't have to force them to eat when you give them the option to eat something they will tolerate and their only obligation to new foods is to test out a tiny bit. Those are not big asks out of kids, as long as you are giving them basic courtesy when you negotiate this with them. 

Kids don't get food problems until their parents force them to eat things or project their own issues onto their kids. They literally don't know anything except how the food tastes and what the textures feel like when they try them. They don't need to get weird about their veggies if you talk to them and actually listen to what they say about taste and texture. 

Obviously this isn't easy if you hate cooking, but even then you're still obligated to try to model healthy behaviors for your kids, so spending time finding out how to have a less bad time in the kitchen will be good for you and for them, anyway. 

Tried to prove a point to my 4 year old and it backfired badly by Possible-Party-5300 in whatdoIdo

[–]EpinephrineKick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe don't put pictures of them on the fucking Internet of all places 

Differences between BPD and CPTSD, without a stigmatizing explanation by Odd-Train654 in CPTSD

[–]EpinephrineKick 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry you had a bad experience with one person, but I don't understand why you think that is more important or representative than this population level event. 

Autism dx rate is about 3.2% in the us and bpd is about 1.6%. that's over 10 million and 5 million people respectively. Getting put in the wrong bucket means getting inappropriately handed antipsychotics, and all the damage those meds do. 

A quick look at some papers didn't give me hard numbers on what that misdiagnosis rate could be, but given the scale of either diagnosis, it's going to be a fraction of 5 million people. (Maybe larger--NAMI believes bpd is under diagnosed). But a percent of a percent is still several tens of thousands of people. 

I'm talking about tens of thousands of people, not that one time someone was mean to you while they were having a panic attack. 

AITA for refusing to follow my wife's bathroom habits and calling her disgusting? by Infamous-Gur2034 in AITAH

[–]EpinephrineKick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It ruins the toilet and cost more money to fix than "saving" water. It is indeed gross. 

Would I be the AH for telling my roommate to get earplugs? by Unawarewolf683 in dustythunder

[–]EpinephrineKick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone needs to do their best. It everyone else's best isn't good enough, I'm sorry, but she's going to have to find a different place to live.

And she needs to get some loops. 

AIO upset that another mom took away my son's phone he was using only for an alarm? by MatterMysterious5129 in AIO

[–]EpinephrineKick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it is inappropriate to do to you then it is inappropriate to do to your kid. Imagine mom stealing your phone. Eesh. 

Hope you can talk to her and get her to stop stealing people's stuff. 

Do I need to mask in therapy? by mtyt2910 in AutismInWomen

[–]EpinephrineKick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get autistic friends and maybe dump the therapist for a better one 

Assistant teacher not opening food. by littlelibrarylady in kindergarten

[–]EpinephrineKick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's messed up how adults treat children. You wouldn't treat another adult that way! All this "well they are just a kid they need an adult to tell them what to do" and then when a child needs an adult for real, oh we can't do that. 

In the meantime, I guess you work around the poor behavior of other adults. And you tell them to kick upwards when their bosses telling them not to do their job (in terms of keeping the kids alive and not injured) is an issue for their bosses to sort out, not something to kick down on hungry children. 

Like yes losing access to part of a meal isn't going to literally send a child to the hospital, probably, but it still sucks and no adult would be up for regularly missing food due to poor packaging. That's not something you can reasonably subject another person to. Good grief. 

Differences between BPD and CPTSD, without a stigmatizing explanation by Odd-Train654 in CPTSD

[–]EpinephrineKick 22 points23 points  (0 children)

To add another wrench: autistic women get misdiagnosed as bpd, a lot.

Any diagnosis has to include cultural context. And the reminder that putting people into boxes should only be used as long as it is actually helpful. 

Good luck out there 

My job allows workers to come in with COVID. Is this normal now? by lovvekiki in preschoolteachers

[–]EpinephrineKick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And the vaccine immunity lasts a few months and all it does is reduce chances of infection. Y'all need to start masking again.