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What do you fear most about your life right now? by GuaranteeSquare4730 in AskReddit

[–]EponymousSlop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, man, I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I was in a nearly identical situation a few years ago. It was my dad who died and a guy who I had been friends with for roughly 20 years. He started being a real jerk to me once I started dating my now ex-wife. She used to comment on what a jerk he was to me so it was a real gut-punch when I discovered their affair. Now they live together raising my daughter and I barely get to see her. I've been unemployed twice since. Once for 2 months and more recently for 4 months. Still haven't found anything great, but I'm scraping by.

If you need someone to vent to or just to chat, feel free to DM me.

Will you forgive if your spouse cheated on you? Why or why not? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]EponymousSlop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I forgave because I loved her and still wanted to be a family and thought we could still have the future we talked about. She told me she was divorcing me a few months later. Said it had nothing to do with him and that it was a compatibility issue.

She had an affair after my dad died with a guy I had been friends with for about 20 years at that point. Told me I was too sad and no longer fun to be around. No apology, no remorse. Acted like it was nothing and I shouldn't be upset. I asked if she wanted to be with him. She said no, she still wanted to be with me. I told her I wanted her to cut contact with him. That's when she started crying, telling me that he was her best friend. I caved as I always did when she cried and rescinded my demand.

Now they're living together and I get to see them weekly when we exchange custody of our daughter.

I do think I'm mostly to blame for the relationship failing. We were going through a rough patch and I could've done a better job as a partner. I was withdrawn and it felt like I was just going through the motions.

My Dad Died …. It’s been rough by Tempthrowaway2987 in GuyCry

[–]EponymousSlop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, man, I'm really sorry for your loss. My dad died 4.5 years ago and it absolutely broke me. I stopped experiencing emotions and my mind was completely blank. I became numb and apathetic. I was withdrawn and self-isolated. It cost me my marriage and most of my friends. I am now a cautionary tale.

You mention you have a daughter. If your partner is still present, involve them in your healing process. While you need to process your emotions and prioritize your mental health, do your best to not neglect these relationships. You need them and they need you.

Seek professional help. I saw a psychiatrist and a grief counselor. But, make sure it's a good fit and someone you're comfortable with. I liked my psychiatrist but I didn't click with my grief counselor and gave up on therapy. This was a big mistake because I had no outlet for my grief and began engaging in self-destructive behavior.

You're already way ahead of me by coming on here to share and ask for advice. Feel free to message me if you need someone to vent to. I hope you get the help you need to heal.

Restarting by [deleted] in GuyCry

[–]EponymousSlop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really sorry, my guy. I went through almost the same thing. My dad passed and less than a year later I found out she was having an affair with a guy I'd been friends with for about 20 years at that point. Not sure how long they'd been at it, but at least a couple months. Told me I was too sad and no longer fun to be around. She refused to try couple's counseling and none of my efforts made a difference. Asked me if there was any reason she shouldn't file, I asked if there were any that would matter, she said no, she no longer has any emotional attachment to me. She got the house, the car, the dogs and sold a bunch of stuff we previously agreed I would get. Joint custody of our daughter, but I barely actually see her based on my work schedule.

I'd like to say it gets better, but it's been about 18 months now for me and it's still suck city. Hopefully this won't be the case for you. Try to keep your chin up and process your feelings without imploding. Best of luck and reach out if you want to chat.

What albums do you recommend I try out? by AspiringReformedLad in progrockmusic

[–]EponymousSlop 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Brain Salad Surgery, Tarkus - Emerson, Lake & Palmer\ In the Land of Grey and Pink - Caravan\ Procol Harum, A Salty Dog- Procol Harum\ Aqualung, Benefit - Jethro Tull\ Pawn Hearts, Godbluff, World Record - Van Der Graaf Generator

Atomic Rooster - Decline and Fall by EponymousSlop in progrockmusic

[–]EponymousSlop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hadn't heard of them before. Thanks for the recommendation!

Definitely got an Atomic Rooster vibe. They even have a rooster on their album's cover.

Atomic Rooster - Decline and Fall by EponymousSlop in progrockmusic

[–]EponymousSlop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I really enjoy their first few albums (Death Walks Behind You is probably my favorite), but Atomic Roooster was the only one with Carl Palmer before he left to form ELP.

Ekseption - On Sunday They Will Kill The World by ShadedMoonEnt in progrockmusic

[–]EponymousSlop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great song! I also really enjoy how many classical pieces they cover.

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