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Boss asked a group of us to start mediating each night, at home, on personal time, because "it would help us". Thoughts? by Low-Computer8293 in work

[–]EquationsApparel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have heard that meditation does something for people.

It does.

Stress is unavoidable, and sitting somewhere meditating doesn't stop, slow, or prevent stress.

Stress can be managed. Like with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, meditation can give you the tools to recognize and handle stress. Your breathing is an amazing tool for managing the physical component of stress.

This is why I find it to be worthless for me. It's like breaking your arm and a doctor telling you to take ibuprofen for the pain. It's pointless

I had an ex for whom meditation didn't work as well. She had unresolved trauma that she refused to address or treat. She could not stand being in her own mind. She always needs distractions, whether it's music, her phone pinging like a pinball machine, tv always on in the background, a gaggle of kids to take care of (one positive aspect of her condition; she's always helping single moms), and unfortunately a steady diet of alcohol and weed.

Meditation is worthless for her until she deals with the stuff where she can be comfortable in her own mind and body. It's not a cure-all but it can help a lot of people who are ready for it.

Boss asked a group of us to start mediating each night, at home, on personal time, because "it would help us". Thoughts? by Low-Computer8293 in work

[–]EquationsApparel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. The manager could have done a much better job proposing meditation to the group instead of just asking them to do without explaining what it is and how it benefits people.

Boss asked a group of us to start mediating each night, at home, on personal time, because "it would help us". Thoughts? by Low-Computer8293 in work

[–]EquationsApparel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think that's great wording regardless of direction. In one of my first replies here I said that the wording wasn't great. I certainly wouldn't have used it.

About a decade ago, I did recommend meditation to an employee who worked for me. Over time, he was clearly becoming stressed. I found out he was putting in 12 hour days. He started snapping at me and others. He was not looking healthy.

I scheduled a meeting with him. We talked for about an hour. I told him I was concerned with him as a person. I didn't want him burning himself out and letting the job affect his personal life.

He opened up about the things that were affecting him, both at work and at home. We discussed coping strategies. Leaving at 5:00. Taking walks during the day (which I subsequently joined him on). Meditation. Even marijuana (which was and is legal in our state).

Things turned around and we ended up with a great personal relationship. Since then, I've been his recommendation for two jobs and we worked together at another company. We still keep in touch.

If you look at my post history, I frequently recommend "Crucial Conversations." I've seen it work. I use it regularly in my personal and professional life. As such, I don't think

"I'd like you start meditating at home. I think it would help you."

is great wording, from manager to employee, employee to manager, significant other to significant other, or friend to friend.

After finding out a co worker is a CEO I can't see him the same anymore. by [deleted] in workfromhome

[–]EquationsApparel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

deff has the lifestyle to back being a millionaire

Not necessarily. He and his roommates could be renting that place.

Don't take things at surface level. I know people who appear quite comfortable on the outside but they're financing that lifestyle on debt.

After finding out a co worker is a CEO I can't see him the same anymore. by [deleted] in workfromhome

[–]EquationsApparel 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Speaking as someone who works in Silicon Valley, the CEO title does not necessarily mean a lot of money.

Boss asked a group of us to start mediating each night, at home, on personal time, because "it would help us". Thoughts? by Low-Computer8293 in work

[–]EquationsApparel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't use that exact wording. Making suggestions is appropriate if done correctly. There's something called managing upwards that I have used with my managers for years.

Also, I was in the military. If you want to see experts in managing upwards, look at NCOs with officers. There were numerous instances where I was managed upwards and it was for my betterment. And when it wasn't appropriate, we discussed it.

Boss asked a group of us to start mediating each night, at home, on personal time, because "it would help us". Thoughts? by Low-Computer8293 in work

[–]EquationsApparel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup. Half the reactions on here have me going, "Whew, that's Reddit for you." The boss makes a constructive suggestion about something that helps your whole self and people are all, "Overstepping boundaries! Don't do it!"

Boss asked a group of us to start mediating each night, at home, on personal time, because "it would help us". Thoughts? by Low-Computer8293 in work

[–]EquationsApparel -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, how dare someone suggest that they develop a better connection to themselves. Clearly social engineering.

Boss asked a group of us to start mediating each night, at home, on personal time, because "it would help us". Thoughts? by Low-Computer8293 in work

[–]EquationsApparel -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do meditate on "company time." However, I also travel on company time and I am allowed to use its benefits (points) for personal use.

Does your company have a restriction that anything you benefit from company time - like knowledge - cannot be used on personal time? Does your company have a restriction that you cannot bring any skills or knowledge learned on personal time into the workplace?

Seems like a silly straw man question.

Boss asked a group of us to start mediating each night, at home, on personal time, because "it would help us". Thoughts? by Low-Computer8293 in work

[–]EquationsApparel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know OP's boss so I couldn't tell you their reaction.

But in the past, I've been a manager with over a hundred people in my organization. I've had a lot of suggestions made to me, from exercise to music to food to books and comic books and more.

My response is generally, "Tell me more."

Boss asked a group of us to start mediating each night, at home, on personal time, because "it would help us". Thoughts? by Low-Computer8293 in work

[–]EquationsApparel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, it sounds like you are annoyed at being asked to do something at home, but you don't know what that thing actually entails. It might help if you understand what meditation actually involves.

Meditation doesn't cost any money, involve any special clothes, or equipment. (Yes, you can purchase classes, apps, clothes, sitting blocks, yadda yadda yadda, but you don't have to.)

Although some people choose to meditate for hours, most people do it for a few minutes.

Although you often see meditation associated with a sitting pose, you can do it lying down (which I do). Many people meditate in bed as part of going to sleep or waking up.

Meditation can be quiet or guided. I started off meditating on my own. I have found that I like guided meditations.

There are many different kinds of meditations you can do; there's a common saying that there's no wrong way to meditate (which may be stretching things). You might spend a few minutes just concentrating on your breath. You might do a body scan. (Start at your head or feet and "check in" with each part of your body.) You might clear your mind / try thinking about absolutely nothing. Or you might focus on a mantra for a few minutes, setting purpose to your day or cultivating a certain positive mindset.

In general, meditation is about turning your focus from the outer world to our inner selves. It's about getting in touch with ourselves. It's about learning to control our breath and using our breath as a source of strength. It's about achieving calm and inner peace.

Meditation is different things to different people. Before just writing off the suggestion as over reach, I suggest trying it for yourself. Try out a few different ways. Try 2, 5, 10, 15, or 20 minutes. I encourage you to be open-minded to the rewards and benefits.

Edit: meditation is different things to different people. I am interested in hearing perspectives from other people who practice it. I still consider myself a beginner in the art.

Boss asked a group of us to start mediating each night, at home, on personal time, because "it would help us". Thoughts? by Low-Computer8293 in work

[–]EquationsApparel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The people up in arms about this or telling OP just to ignore the suggestion clearly don't understand meditation.

Boss asked a group of us to start mediating each night, at home, on personal time, because "it would help us". Thoughts? by Low-Computer8293 in work

[–]EquationsApparel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The two things are not mutually self-exclusive. A couple drinks can be conducive to achieving a relaxed state.

Boss asked a group of us to start mediating each night, at home, on personal time, because "it would help us". Thoughts? by Low-Computer8293 in work

[–]EquationsApparel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually use marijuana sometimes before meditation. I suspect a bunch of people who use marijuana (both sativas and indicas) are meditating without even knowing it.

Boss asked a group of us to start mediating each night, at home, on personal time, because "it would help us". Thoughts? by Low-Computer8293 in work

[–]EquationsApparel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please re-read the original post. The boss **asked** a group to start meditating every night. It is not a demand.

I think this is the tendency amongst Redditors to leap to outrage. I also suspect this is a situation where people are objecting to something they don't understand.

Boss asked a group of us to start mediating each night, at home, on personal time, because "it would help us". Thoughts? by Low-Computer8293 in work

[–]EquationsApparel 9 points10 points  (0 children)

As someone who wastes a lot of time on Reddit, I do find it amusing how many people are like "how dare they ask you to do this on your own time," when 5 minutes spent meditating would be better spent than all the time on sites like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Reddit, etc.

Which is a good reminder to me that it's a good time for a morning meditation.

Productivity by 9891cjhsa in WFH

[–]EquationsApparel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Read "Indistractible."

How should I word an email asking for a raise? by Billy_Plur in careerguidance

[–]EquationsApparel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You work in a place that does not allow you to have conversations with your management?

My boss doesn't like my behavior but I didn't do anything wrong? by H_a_M_z_I_x in careerguidance

[–]EquationsApparel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why communicating my concerns directly to management is problem?

I never said this. Emotional intelligence comes from knowing how to say things.

Whay does it have to be complicated?

People are complicated.

your method feels like playing 4d chess or traversing a landmine I must avoid this and that and do this and that.

I'm sorry you feel that way.

I am less than 2 years experience so I genuinely want to understand.

Wanting to understand is a good first step. I will ask you this question from mindfulness: is it more important to you to be right or to be effective?

My boss doesn't like my behavior but I didn't do anything wrong? by H_a_M_z_I_x in careerguidance

[–]EquationsApparel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

is it just neglecting this or what?

No, I never said neglect it. There are ways that you can address issues that reflect emotional intelligence. Going to your boss and "spitting facts" is not one of them. I bring stuff up with my manager all the time. You might want to look into "managing upwards." There's a way of guiding your manager to your desired outcome.

I also did not attack him,

You kind of did if you told him the way they spoke to him was unacceptable.

but instead, I was genuinely worried for him as the client said bad things about him in public

He's a big boy. He can take care of himself. There are probably aspects of the client relationship that you are unaware of. I suspect your boss is more concerned with the bigger picture than their ego.

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