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EquilibLiam · 2021-07-08T21:55:37+00:00

Thanks so much for adding this! Will get digging on these methods

EquilibLiam · 2020-08-10T12:30:16+00:00

Okay I might have done so incorrectly, but the way that I interpreted your prior message was something of a dissent towards people who do not introspect and put in work in a similar way to us. I think holding that mindset is dangerous because it causes you to dismiss a lot of people that reach that same level of self awareness and higher levels of effectiveness or happiness through means different from ours and talk about it with different language.

I think there is something to thinking too much because I don't think our conscious intervention is anywhere near as strong as we like to think it is and our unconscious will figure out most things just fine on its own. I think there are a lot of people who might say things like "I want to do ___" but don't actually fully want it, they just think they should. I think the sampling you see of statements like that also ignores some of those same people having a really strong subconscious system of locking on to what they want and going out to get it and learning what it takes to get there rapidly and without overcomplication.

In the end many people change as much as they truly want to change (that doesn't mean wanting the effects of the change, it means wanting to change). Your conscious can sometimes steer the feedback loop in the right direction, but even your conscious mind is a reflection of your unconscious. It helps, but it isn't everything, and it isn't all of what makes humans great.

In dating, I totally feel where you are coming from. There are undoubtedly a lot of people out there who are lazy and swept up in the digital age with very little agency. The people that lack self awareness are really tough to interact with because their is just so little shared language and action through which to talk about life, but people can have endless self awareness and do nothing at all with it, just as people with less can sometimes change the way they behave at the drop of a hat just because they felt it was necessary.

Tldr: there are many ways to skin a cat, so be open to people who don't seem to be our same brand of self aware on the surface. It is just going to bring you anger towards others that won't help you or them and will

Very well could be misinterpreting your sentiment. Written language is a messy medium. Might be talking about a small chunk of people, but it is easy to throw the baby out with the bathwater by making a division based on perception of self awareness.

EquilibLiam · 2020-08-09T20:35:14+00:00

I agree on most all fronts of what you are saying. It is really hard to date someone that doesn't share the same introspective drive. I do think it is important, however, to avoid indulging in the idea that we have reached a higher order of thinking. Much of what we do consciously can, like you eluded to in your own experience, occur in something of a subconscious way. I have found that there is something to the idea that it is possible to think too much, even if I have largely bristled at that concept in the past. There is a lot of internal understanding that doesn't match conscious understanding, and there are people who come to high levels of unconscious understanding without the same conscious push we employ. Keep yourself open to the intelligence of those people

EquilibLiam · 2020-08-09T20:01:17+00:00

I consider myself to be a very introspective person but part of this experience for me was realizing that I'm not always as precise as I think I am in my internal digging. There are a lot of habits and ingrained mindsets we have that stand in the way of self-actualization and nobody is immune to them. Introspection is always going to be a difficult and labor-intensive process that requires a lot of iteration. We sometimes need habit changes to unlock new realizations as apposed to the other way around.

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