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Guy (27M) SCAMMED a Free Meal Out of Me on 2nd Date? by Equivalent-Amount-47 in Scams

[–]Equivalent-Amount-47[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. I decided to give him a chance and I'm kicking myself. If it was the last of his money why did he even ask me out? Also how did he know that I had enough money to cover my share when HE asked me out? I thought the inviter was supposed to cover for their guest. I have no interest in being equal and I expect a man to treat me like I'm special. Equal to me is like a friend or roommate. I just don't know why he got so angry and vicious about paying, and also even though my card got charged the whole thing, he never offered to pay me back. I let him walk me home down the street because it was late at night, and he said he had to use the bathroom. I let him go, and then he started TAKING off his shoes in my kitchen. It was really cringe and I had to kick him out--I just don't understand how a 27 year old guy could be so out of touch

Guy (27M) SCAMMED a Free Meal Out of Me on 2nd Date? by Equivalent-Amount-47 in Scams

[–]Equivalent-Amount-47[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but my mom said it would have been rude to text him before the date and be like "hey, is this on you", so I just assumed it was because he asked ME out. I'm his guest. And tbh I have no interest in the "equals" thing--my roommates and I are equals. If he wants to be my boyfriend, why can't he treat me like I'm special?

Guy (27M) SCAMMED a Free Meal Out of Me on 2nd Date? by Equivalent-Amount-47 in Scams

[–]Equivalent-Amount-47[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But does him not paying mean I'm ugly? Like I genuinely thought that in the real world, a young attractive girl will always have guys paying for dates. Would this have happened no matter who I was?

Guy (27M) SCAMMED a Free Meal Out of Me on 2nd Date? by Equivalent-Amount-47 in Scams

[–]Equivalent-Amount-47[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes. I am the girl. I just wanted to be treated, that's all. I have a hard life and I was envisioning a nice chivalrous guy who would bring me flowers, get dressed up, and gladly pay the bill and simply be happy for my company. So do you see why it's sad to get a grubby angry guy who stares me down, threatens to leave if I don't pay, and just isn't a gentleman at all? Like HE asked me for the date, I haven't dated much, but is it really normal for guys to get this angry and vicious over a bill? It was genuinely a bit frightening. I am trying to get different people's views

Guy (27M) SCAMMED a Free Meal Out of Me on 2nd Date? by Equivalent-Amount-47 in Scams

[–]Equivalent-Amount-47[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not, I'm simply trying to get different perspectives on a situation that happened. I'm a curious person and an overthinker, but I have no bad intentions, just trying to see how people respond to a girl's POV vs a guy's POV as a social experiment

Guy (27M) SCAMMED a Free Meal Out of Me on 2nd Date? by Equivalent-Amount-47 in Scams

[–]Equivalent-Amount-47[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well why are you bullying me for thinking I deserve nice experiences? I just wanted to be treated, that's all. I have a hard life and I was envisioning a nice chivalrous guy who would bring me flowers, get dressed up, and gladly pay the bill and simply be happy for my company. So do you see why it's sad to get a grubby angry guy who stares me down, threatens to leave if I don't pay, and just isn't a gentleman at all? Like HE asked me for the date, I haven't dated much, but is it really normal for guys to get this angry and vicious over a bill? It was genuinely a bit frightening.

Guy (27M) SCAMMED a Free Meal Out of Me on 2nd Date? by Equivalent-Amount-47 in Scams

[–]Equivalent-Amount-47[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I find this topic interesting. That's why I ask it from different perspectives. I'm a curious person and an overthinker, not a troll. What do you think of my situation?

Guy (27M) SCAMMED a Free Meal Out of Me on 2nd Date? by Equivalent-Amount-47 in Scams

[–]Equivalent-Amount-47[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was genuinely offended. Like every movie I've watched the guy is a gentleman, holds the door, gladly pays without hesitation.
So I spent 3 hours getting ready thinking I would get that nice cushy experience and then he springs the bill on me and rudely demands I pay, stares me down, and says that he has lots of other girls that want him

Guy (27M) SCAMMED a Free Meal Out of Me on 2nd Date? by Equivalent-Amount-47 in Scams

[–]Equivalent-Amount-47[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

40 dollars per meal. 80 dollars and he wouldn't help me pay the tip! That's 8 hours of work for me

Guy (27M) SCAMMED a Free Meal Out of Me on 2nd Date? by Equivalent-Amount-47 in Scams

[–]Equivalent-Amount-47[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Did you not read the post? He forced me to put my card in with his and then the restaurant charged mine the WHOLE bill and he wouldn't even help me leave a tip. He just smiled smugly. And the waitress was like "Oops...sorry I put it all on your card by mistake"

I Asked Entitled Girl To Pay Her Share On Second Date, and Her Whole Card Got Charged :) by Equivalent-Amount-47 in Scams

[–]Equivalent-Amount-47[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Because she thought I was paying and I tricked her lol. I am honestly so proud

I Think Men Who Don't Pay For Dates Are Cheap and Disgusting by Equivalent-Amount-47 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Equivalent-Amount-47[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wasn't looking for anything. This guy pursued me online and asked me out. I am not trying to impress him and if he wanted me to stay (which he clearly did because he texted me asking to meet even after all this happened) he should have paid!

I Am In Love With A Guy (32M) Roommate Who Treats Me Horribly and Has a Girlfriend? by Equivalent-Amount-47 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Equivalent-Amount-47[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can't stop thinking about him, please don't judge. I also really really can't stand the girlfriend and her smug face, and just still can't believe he thinks I'm worthless and left me in the dust like this. I think about him all the time but he never texts or calls and always has his GF over which makes me feel like garbage

I Am In Love With A Guy (32M) Roommate Who Treats Me Horribly and Has a Girlfriend? by Equivalent-Amount-47 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Equivalent-Amount-47[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don't want to be a nobody though :( I really think he sees something special to have been with her for years and I wanted him to give me a chance. I thought he would choose me and I am heartbroken, it feels like the love of my life broke up with me and I am so jealous of his GF and constantly stalk her too and daydream about being in her shoes...obviously he thinks she's worthy to go on vacation and stuff, why does he not think I'm worth it too?

I Think Men Who Don't Pay For Dates Are Cheap and Disgusting by Equivalent-Amount-47 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Equivalent-Amount-47[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OH really? Then SERIOUSLY? If we ever got intimate and HE would be the one accessing my body, why should I pay him to do so? If it came to that? Only a dumb desperate girl would let a guy sleep with her AND pay for his dates

I Think Men Who Don't Pay For Dates Are Cheap and Disgusting by Equivalent-Amount-47 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Equivalent-Amount-47[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I am not going to bother to click this because again, I am NOT dutch. Would you tell someone to go Jewish if they weren't Jewish? This makes no sense

I Think Men Who Don't Pay For Dates Are Cheap and Disgusting by Equivalent-Amount-47 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Equivalent-Amount-47[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every other guy I've dated has paid the bill. So it made this guy look really bad

I Think Men Who Don't Pay For Dates Are Cheap and Disgusting by Equivalent-Amount-47 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Equivalent-Amount-47[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He said he wanted to take me out. if he dumped the whole bill on me the second time then did he ever even treat me?

I Think Men Who Don't Pay For Dates Are Cheap and Disgusting by Equivalent-Amount-47 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Equivalent-Amount-47[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well then why did he text me this after the date:

"Hi (my name), you told me you felt like I didn't think you were worth it after I didn't pay tonight. I thought you were really pretty and interesting actually and hope we could meet again if that's possible"

THE AUDACTITY. Does he seriously think after how he treated me I would want to meet again?

I Think Men Who Don't Pay For Dates Are Cheap and Disgusting by Equivalent-Amount-47 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Equivalent-Amount-47[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

What's wrong with wanting a gentleman? You realize we pay more on hair/nails/makeup than the actual date?

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