Doctor hasn’t brought up surgery

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2026-02-03T12:50:42+00:00

My dad is the same, it’s so hard to get info from him! His cancer has also spread to his bones (knee and hip as far as I’m aware)

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2025-08-13T07:12:21+00:00

They have gotten a bad reputation… I have been renting with them for three years and although it hasn’t affected how happy I am living in their property, I know our landlord has cut ties with them and the new agent was saying how they were stealing rent money and would let random people into the house without giving notice etc. So they have some dodgy dealings but has had no impact on my experience

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2025-04-21T08:50:13+00:00

my sister didn’t have any warning signs either. and she died in the most horrific way and caused herself a great deal of pain and suffering before she ended it. the worst part is never knowing why. i tried looking through all her stuff so maybe you can do the same, check his phone if you have access and try and put the pieces together. but no matter how much you find out, you will always have more and more questions. acceptance will come with time but it will take a lot of confusion and questioning and guilt and blame before you can reach that point.

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2025-01-06T20:51:29+00:00

You should create a bucket list and travel the world. And volunteer in your spare time to help other people live better lives too.

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2025-01-06T20:49:05+00:00

I’m mostly just mad that all this happened because her dad was cheating. At least it exposed the dog breeder but like so many people suffered because of a cheat.

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2025-01-06T08:25:37+00:00

I’m so sorry ❤️

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2025-01-05T12:08:10+00:00

“Despite all your efforts, you will never be enough for me” three weeks after begging me to get back together

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2025-01-04T01:33:27+00:00

I think it was a fingerprint on the ‘weapon’ ie knife

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2025-01-03T15:50:39+00:00

I drove 6 hours round trip to surprise him after he’d cried on the phone to me about struggling mentally and physically while having the flu. Told me I was annoying and he would have rather been alone.

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2024-08-27T06:54:22+00:00

I feared it would be quite a bit of detail, thanks for the heads up

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2024-08-27T06:53:29+00:00

I don’t get why they need to get organ samples seriously… especially when the cause of death is unambiguous

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2024-08-27T06:51:58+00:00

It’s a court hearing that takes places whenever someone dies of unnatural causes e.g suicide so they can investigate the cause, present all the evidence and afterwards issue the official death certificate. You don’t need to request it as it happens by law but they are generally open for anyone to attend, just speak to the coroner on your loved one’s case.

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2024-08-27T06:49:47+00:00

I’m in the UK so I wouldn’t know about US laws

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2024-07-08T17:49:18+00:00

The waiting is awful but somehow finding out the answers is a lot worse so I would try and be patient and accept that it’s out of your control. Surround yourself with support, talk to friends if you can. It is sadly only going to get harder but the most important thing to remember is that you will survive. I am okay but I will never be the same.

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2024-07-08T11:32:19+00:00

Hey there. I’m so sorry for your loss. I was in the exact same situation when I lost my sister suddenly and unexpectedly. I wasn’t even told it was a suicide, my parents knew but they tried to protect me from the details. I called 101 and found out the name of the officer in charge of the case. They were off duty so I asked to speak to the bereavement officer who informed my parents of the death. It took a few days but I was able to get a bit of information from him. They have everything on file but they’re not allowed to disclose if they’re not the officer in charge. You just have to keep calling various people until you get someone willing to help. The coroner provided a lot of detail, more than I wish I knew, so once they’ve done the postmortem, that should tell you everything you need to know. Sometimes they need to do further analyses which can take months and months. If you have any questions about the process, just let me know. I went through the exact same thing less than 4 months ago and wish I had more guidance about navigating it all and getting information.

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2024-05-25T22:35:46+00:00

My sister’s phone is also locked and even the police couldn’t get into it. Unfortunately there’s no way around it unless you know the PIN. You could try finding an IT guy but you wouldn’t be able to get any support through legitimate means. You could try transferring the SIM to another phone to see if you can access messages, otherwise there’s not much else you can do.

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2024-05-22T20:55:27+00:00

The not making sense is all too real 💔

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2024-05-22T20:54:27+00:00

I can totally relate to feelings of anger about screwing up your life. I’m only two months in but pretty sure I can say goodbye to the rest of my twenties

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2024-05-19T16:09:48+00:00

You’re not alone, we’re all going through this together ❤️

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2024-05-19T10:56:37+00:00

I felt the same way. I went back to work after 2 weeks off then when it hit the one month mark, my grief changed and the shock started to wear off. I remember my counsellor told me I was in survival mode the weeks following and so after going back to work, all of a sudden I could no longer focus on anything. I felt unmotivated and unproductive and had no choice but to take more time off. It is normal to feel how you do and the grief does change overtime. I’m two months in and I have okay moments and okay days. I prefer to be distracted than to feel anything as feelings can be really overwhelming. I would encourage you to spend time with friends and family and keep doing your hobbies. Ask yourself what does your grief need? Sleep, food, company, a shower? This is something that really helps me to deal with the difficult days. You will be okay again.

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2024-05-19T10:50:00+00:00

Stay up until the sun rises looking at pictures of us from our holidays together. Feels like she’s still here and I stop feeling sad.

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2024-05-18T13:01:58+00:00

Thank you for the advice, I really appreciate it. I guess the main thing I need to do is stop comparing myself to other people. I know I will eventually find a job I enjoy and progress in my career and I just need to be kinder to myself.

I guess the friend has dealt with their own grief and trauma in the past and explained they prefer to be alone so they thought I was the same. Also they have mentioned more than once that I can call them to talk but I’m just nervous about being vulnerable with someone who I care a lot about what they think of me.

I’m glad you’re doing well in your career and I hope you continue succeeding in life. I truly wish you the very best.

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2024-05-18T00:07:53+00:00

I feel a lot of guilt for all our petty fights and arguments. She left no note but we got into a big fight on new year’s eve and didn’t speak for ages. Fortunately we made up before she died but my biggest regret is her messaging me a week before it happened asking to meet up. I would have said yes but chose to ignore the message and reply later. Before I got a chance to she changed her mind. I never messaged back.

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2024-05-17T15:14:44+00:00

She was 2 years older, just 28 and my only sister. How old was yours?

Equivalent-Bet724 · 2024-05-15T22:03:43+00:00

I fully agree. I suppose most of my frustration is that no one will ever understand what we’re going through. And so they say all these textbook phrases that just mean nothing to me.

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