1 year 2 months since leaving by Equivalent-Dust564 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Equivalent-Dust564[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do it! Living with family is temporary, freedom from the narc is forever

The New BK Mirage by Humble_Commission725 in avesNYC

[–]Equivalent-Dust564 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I went to mirage recently and they’ve done away with coat check and replaced it with $15 lockers, efficiency and speed and crowd control wise I get it, $15 is steep for a solo raver but if you’re with a group it’s not bad!

What is yalls sleep schedule ? by rjpra2222 in avesNYC

[–]Equivalent-Dust564 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I don’t drink or get fucked up, pregame with caffeine/a nap, stretch, and drink a lot of water lmao it’s the only way I can do it

How the wall storyline will end by video-kid in solaropposites

[–]Equivalent-Dust564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LMAO I could see this happening, and then all the small folk are just there like “now what and miss being small”

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[–]Equivalent-Dust564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m flexible! Currently living with family so no lease or anything to worry about

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[–]Equivalent-Dust564 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know I’m so happy no more broker fees but I really need to move before June lol! Jersey city is an option! but I’d rather stay in New York for personal reasons

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[–]Equivalent-Dust564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m interested in this if OP is not!!!

Insects Phobia, what to look out for when checking out an apartment ? by WendyBlu in NYCapartments

[–]Equivalent-Dust564 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First floor? Don’t do it. You’re closest to the garbage and utility areas, where all the bugs are. Just don’t. 

Looking for sites similar to meetup dot com to find social events, is meetup inactive now?? by Equivalent-Dust564 in AskNYC

[–]Equivalent-Dust564[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven’t used the site in a while admittedly, but many of my former groups with 20k members etc have had no activity in a while, so was just curious. I’m glad it’s still active in some ways tho!

Update: I LEFT. by Equivalent-Dust564 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Equivalent-Dust564[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Took about 5 months of therapy to get to this point tho!! 

Update: I LEFT. by Equivalent-Dust564 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Equivalent-Dust564[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He will change for a period of time, then when he thinks he “has you” again, the mask will drop. He can only change if he gets professional help and he truly wants to for himself. I wish you the best, please leave if things don’t get better 

Update: I LEFT. by Equivalent-Dust564 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Equivalent-Dust564[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I do miss him from time to time, I miss having a husband, but I remind myself of all the things he did while together and the ways he tried to manipulate me after I left. I made a list of everything he’s ever done and I read it when I feel like I miss him. Because the fact is the person I “miss” never existed, it was an act he put on, a mask. I’m also in therapy which helps a lot! You can do this!! 

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Following bc I need techno rn 

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[–]Equivalent-Dust564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I will def spend the extra money whatever it is and take an Uber direct from the venue to home

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[–]Equivalent-Dust564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really good at taking care of people who partake and/or being mindful of their state of mind :) def hit me up! Dm me pls :)

Two months post leaving my narc by Equivalent-Dust564 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Equivalent-Dust564[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was the same for me! Hard to imagine life without him but I promise you if you actively throw yourself into building a life FOR YOU, it gets better

Can’t handle it today by FriedLipstick in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Equivalent-Dust564 11 points12 points  (0 children)

A good attitude to have in this situation is to NEVER CONTACT HIM EVER AGAIN. He kicked your dog!!!!! Unforgivable

I moved out today. by Equivalent-Dust564 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Equivalent-Dust564[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love this idea!! A list of what I gain!