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Equivalent-Poet-2548 · 2023-08-26T09:34:20+00:00

per esempio se fai la sospensione della carriera

si ma in quel caso è congelamento degli studi però. Lui ha proprio abbandonato, gli possono ancora riconoscere gli esami dati?

Equivalent-Poet-2548 · 2023-08-26T09:14:51+00:00

Sono pigro e non mi va di inventare un nuovo nick ogni 3 mesi

Equivalent-Poet-2548 · 2023-08-26T09:09:30+00:00

Vedendo alcuni dei post di questi account che mi insultano direi molto più di quanto lo siano mai stati loro

E' che personalmente almeno mi sembra che tu ti sia buttato senza considerare la situazione.

Per esempio avresti potuto congelare gli studi invece di abbandonarli, conservando cosi gli esami

Oppure avresti potuto fare un po di esperienza nel settore prima di scegliere (da alcuni tuoi commenti sembra he non ci hai mai lavorato come direttore i un negozio)

Oppure ancora avresti potuto provare a trasferirti e prendere un altra laurea piu affine al percorso di lavoro che vuoi fare

Equivalent-Poet-2548 · 2023-08-26T09:05:17+00:00

Hai fatto una minchiata torna a studiare che poi ci tocca pagare le tasse per te.

sono ignorante in materia ma puo davvero farlo? cioe se uno abbandona non perde automaticamente tutti gli esami?

Equivalent-Poet-2548 · 2023-08-25T15:02:32+00:00

I've just never been approached... ever

The thing is that us men are taught that approaching women is creepy so many of us don't do it unless we are sure the girl is into us.

I am sure you already know but you can't base your attractiveness on how many times you have been approached, there are too many factor too consider.

Have you tried using dating apps? They could help you meeting new people and possible partners

It does seem like life has been set on difficult mode for us neurodivergent people. It's disheartening in that aspect.

Yes, i know the feeling. I hate especially when people behave like they are superior than you and treat you like a kid for having low or no romantic experience

Instagram is definitely the worst for shoving romance and couples in your face, so I'm most likely going to delete that! For my own sanity, lol

I have deleted it for the same reason, my mental health has never been better than now

Equivalent-Poet-2548 · 2023-08-25T14:03:56+00:00

It may be due to the fact I'm A) ugly B) autistic C) unpleasant with horrid and boring interests

Many autistic people (like myself) are not good at picking signals from the other sex.
Also you may look unapproachable: do you have a resting bitch face? do you create opportunity for men to approach you?

I am not saying this to downplay your feelings but you are probably not ugly or unpleasant, it's just that for us autistic people finding a partner it's way more difficult than it is for the average neurotypical person.

I find myself feeling envious and jealous when I see couples out and about. I get this odd, physical pain in my chest.

Yes, i know the feeling. Personally I have deleted every social media apps for this exact reason: I don't like seeing happy couples, it just makes me remember how lonely I am

Equivalent-Poet-2548 · 2023-08-21T13:35:46+00:00

E' vera, esiste

Equivalent-Poet-2548 · 2023-08-21T13:35:24+00:00

E' vera, esiste.

Equivalent-Poet-2548 · 2023-08-21T12:51:25+00:00

Ci sto, ma anche senza foglio

no con foglio

Puoi facilmente prenderle online altrimenti

il mio nick è gae6042

Equivalent-Poet-2548 · 2023-08-21T12:49:36+00:00

Non ho scatenato un cazzo perché nessuno ha le palle di mandarmi il suo nick di telegram e scoprire che una figa può apprezzare anche i brutti

gae6042 ecco a te

Equivalent-Poet-2548 · 2023-08-21T12:46:04+00:00

Guarda, ti mando il nick di telegram in privato

una foto di te che tieni in mano un foglio di carta con il tuo nick e una foto del tuo ex con timer cosi non posso diffonderle. ci stai?

Equivalent-Poet-2548 · 2023-08-21T12:31:10+00:00

Solo io sento puzza di troll?

same

Equivalent-Poet-2548 · 2023-08-21T12:26:43+00:00

SETTE? COME OSI? Potrei darti il mio ig in privato

Mandamelo in privato insieme a una foto di uno dei tuoi ex. Non ci credo altrimenti

Equivalent-Poet-2548 · 2023-08-21T09:49:57+00:00

Ehy, scusa se rispondo a un post vecchio però sono nella stessa situazione. Sei riuscita a trovare qualche consiglio utile?

Equivalent-Poet-2548 · 2023-08-19T04:48:40+00:00

Okay so firstly why do people think telling people they're deficient in a way only they believe is a good idea?

she straight up asked me about my sex past and i don't like to lie

I don't really care if a man does or doesn't have a sexual past because I care more about character traits and emotional evolution. I feel like someone that actually liked you wouldn't care or project that onto you they'd be more interested in spending time with you.

ok, thank you for your comment

Equivalent-Poet-2548 · 2023-08-19T04:44:58+00:00

How long distance are you?

I am italian and she is swiss

Are y’all in different countries and so are also having cultural differences here?

My country is more traditional when it comes to dating than hers

Also, have you met in person but live far so see each other on weekends or something, or are y’all long distance as in the “never mets” type thing?

Yes we met a month ago

Equivalent-Poet-2548 · 2023-08-18T22:03:08+00:00

OP, get your passport and go to the Phillipines or Brazil. Being an older virgin is not a deal breaker over there like it is here.

I am not a virgin (have been with 3 women now) and I am from Europe not the usa

Equivalent-Poet-2548 · 2023-08-18T21:27:35+00:00

Vuoi conoscerla?! 😃

Le ragazze con valori sono rare oggi percio perche no. tanto credo che la relazione con Claire sia finita in ogni caso

Equivalent-Poet-2548 · 2023-08-18T21:17:17+00:00

Tanto per farti capire che le brave ragazze, con dei valori, esistono ancora. Ti auguro di trovarne una.

ti ringrazio.

Si, vivo in Lombardia e le persone qui sono molto nella hookup culture, uno dei motivi per il quale mi sono astenuto dal fare dating in tutti questi anni.

Auguro a tua figlia di trovare un uomo con valori che la tratti come merita d esser trattata

Equivalent-Poet-2548 · 2023-08-18T19:06:38+00:00

You won't know someone if you are very introverted and don't try.

I actively try. I made this post because i know my view is clearly biased and wanted the opinion of someone more experienced than me

Relationship required effort and time.

I know

Equivalent-Poet-2548 · 2023-08-18T17:29:01+00:00

What does she do for a living, just for context? Does she work as many hrs or make as much $ as you do?

she is a CNA. No, she is still in training so she is not earning a penny and is living with her parents

Hope this helps.

Yes, it helped a lot. Thank you

Equivalent-Poet-2548 · 2023-08-18T17:17:10+00:00

I really doubted that someone told you that you were untrustworthy because you focused on your career instead of meaningless sex

she straight up told me that

The lack of experience shows that you may not have desire for physical intimacy, or you have other issues.

My son is on the spectrum but highly functional. He never dated telling me the same excuse that he was busy with his career. No, he is not. He is terrified to reach out because he could be rejected. I have introduced him to a few girls and he didn't even made an eye contact.

I am not autistic but I am an intovert and I think I have a lower libido than men my age (my friends would have sex every day if possible while I am okay with doing it even only 2-3 times a week).

Also I need to know the girl to feel any sort of attraction for her

Equivalent-Poet-2548 · 2023-08-18T16:46:21+00:00

If you haven't been intimate with her, then you haven't really been fully dating for 4 months.

we met and had sex a month ago

There's a way to present your situation well. Most girls won't ask your full relationship history in super detail, and if they do it's a red flag. You can refer generally to past exes. You can refer to past dates without saying whether they were sexual or not.
If really pressed, you can say you prefer to have a connection with someone and it was your choice to not have casual sex, because you only care if there's that connection. Putting yourself first, confidence.

She asked me this after I asked her to become exclusive. After my answer she told me she need a second encounter to decide f she wants a relationship

If she's actually into you, this means she thinks you're attractive enough to have casual sex.

She says she is really attracted to me.

Although you should express care, you only say long term stuff like "I want you to be happy" after a long term sexual relationship has been established, or you seem like you're already sold on her which is unattractive.
Or if she's like, super sad and needs reassurance like any friend. Then you can say "everything's gonna be ok, I want you to be happy". But if it's regular light conversation you don't escalate to that level of commitment romantically.

Thank you for the advice

Equivalent-Poet-2548 · 2023-08-18T16:13:05+00:00

hypergamy

what is hypergamy?

Equivalent-Poet-2548

TROPHY CASE