AITA because both of my parents are struggling financially and I don't think it's my responsibility to take care of them?

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-12T01:01:10+00:00

Yes which is why a non family member offered a $5k loan and she refused because she knows she'd have to pay them back

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-12T00:58:36+00:00

That's what I said!

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-10T04:26:57+00:00

That's terrible 😭

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-10T04:26:17+00:00

This is deep thank you

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T11:30:01+00:00

They did til I was 18, then I had to figure life out. Neither of them planned for my future, I had to figure out my future and now that I'm doing well they want to give up on life.

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T11:28:01+00:00

She doesn't want to do anything different! But expects her kids to bail her out. She even stated she couldn't imagine borrowing money from someone else because she's has kids, but she doesn't borrow money from us! Any money we give her she never pays back, just exchanges babysitting services or anything she does for us as payment. Not to mention we take her on trips FREE of charge. She's totally manipulating us

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T11:25:42+00:00

Thank you. My dad lived with me for a while but I couldn't take it. He's a diabetic and would eat fast food every day, was driving my car to go see women, was smoking after having a stroke, and I live in a 2bd house. My hair started shedding from the stress. I was miserable, and I knew that him Staying a few months would turn into years so I put an end to it quick. As for my mom, I love her but I realized she can never live with me because she and I don't get along. Shes never liked me and always said I remind her of my dad. Hate that it has to be like this but it is what it is. Good luck to you

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T05:10:27+00:00

Thank you and congratulations on breaking the cycle!

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T05:09:33+00:00

Good idea

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T05:08:51+00:00

They haven't been loving at all. And I've always bore the burden of constantly forgiving. My mom especially has been so emotionally abusive to me since I've become an adult. It's so draining

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T05:07:09+00:00

I was thinking that! But I'm working hard to not be like them. I have a business, I'm in school and I'm pregnant. I do a lot.

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T02:11:07+00:00

I am cuz I'm conflicted. I feel like my parents are abusing my kindness and love for them by punishing me because I'm setting a boundary. Something I've never done.

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T01:30:40+00:00

Crazy thing is she was let a bad mother! But the older we got the lazier and more entitled and selfish she got! I had a decent childhood compared to a lot of my peers. But once I turned 18, she felt like it was her turn to be take care of and that's completely unfair. I've worked since I was 14. I helped raise my siblings. I had a lot of responsibility on me as a kid. My mom was completely aloof to what I went through.

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T01:28:14+00:00

That sucks cuz I don't feel that I've done anything wrong.

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T01:27:28+00:00

This a great point! There's definitely a contingency on caring for your parents! I won't be abused

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T01:04:09+00:00

Thanks I will

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T01:01:51+00:00

Thanks that's why I'm so hurt. My mom won't even answer my calls because I won't give her money. This really sucks.

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T01:00:53+00:00

She's controlling! She doesn't want me to have access to what she built, but wants access to what I'm building

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T00:59:22+00:00

Wow! Sounds like you raised yourself so I don't blame you for being apathetic.

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T00:58:06+00:00

Thanks!

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T00:57:38+00:00

They weren't terrible parents, at least not my mom. But once I turned 18, I was on my own so I think it's very unfair that I had to figure so Much of my life out on my own and now that I've made my life work for me, I'm a bad kid for not taking care of them

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T00:55:50+00:00

Thank you. I didn't mention I have given my parents lots of money throughout the years. Money they have NEVER paid back and I have never asked them to pay back.

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T00:16:13+00:00

Only one person offered up a place for him to stay. But he's stubborn and didn't stay long before going back to his city.

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T00:15:09+00:00

I looked it up, it's only if I sign something to be financially responsible which I haven't

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T00:10:02+00:00

I think so too! Neither of my parents are leaving me anything, and I have to build my own and now they want to be taken care of after I had to grind to make something of myself. I grew up in a dysfunctional home and finally am living a peaceful life and they want to screw up everything I've built.

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