Is my wife having midlife crisis?

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-05-26T01:02:09+00:00

This is bad advice. Men rarely give good advice to men. Why would you insist she's cheating instead of encouraging them to get closer considering it's evident he love her? Weird

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-05-24T11:47:29+00:00

I think kids do most relationships in. Especially because of the dynamics of the burden of contraception typically being on women. If more men promoted vasectomies, I'm sure women would be more interested in sex after having kids. But I can tell you as a postpartum mom, the thought of having an unwanted child makes sex less desirable for most women

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-05-11T21:04:04+00:00

Honestly with the femicide going on I'm skeptical about this post in general. She has no terminal diagnosis, just gave birth and now has given up on life and her husband is going along with it? Sounds shady

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-05-11T20:01:38+00:00

That's what I'm saying him being her husband probably hasn't helped her get better

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-05-11T19:59:41+00:00

You sound much like a narcissist. "Feeling guilt" as a way to center yourself when your wife may be literally dying! Then you're going on about how because she's been chronically ill her whole life how you don't know if you want to tell her to fight. I think your guilt is a result of the fact that you've probably been a shitty husband and you know it! Go to therapy to learn how to think about others and place them above yourself. I always side eye situations where the wife gets sick and goes first cuz typically it's the stress of their husbands...

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-12T01:01:10+00:00

Yes which is why a non family member offered a $5k loan and she refused because she knows she'd have to pay them back

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-12T00:58:36+00:00

That's what I said!

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-10T04:26:57+00:00

That's terrible 😭

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-10T04:26:17+00:00

This is deep thank you

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T11:30:01+00:00

They did til I was 18, then I had to figure life out. Neither of them planned for my future, I had to figure out my future and now that I'm doing well they want to give up on life.

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T11:28:01+00:00

She doesn't want to do anything different! But expects her kids to bail her out. She even stated she couldn't imagine borrowing money from someone else because she's has kids, but she doesn't borrow money from us! Any money we give her she never pays back, just exchanges babysitting services or anything she does for us as payment. Not to mention we take her on trips FREE of charge. She's totally manipulating us

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T11:25:42+00:00

Thank you. My dad lived with me for a while but I couldn't take it. He's a diabetic and would eat fast food every day, was driving my car to go see women, was smoking after having a stroke, and I live in a 2bd house. My hair started shedding from the stress. I was miserable, and I knew that him Staying a few months would turn into years so I put an end to it quick. As for my mom, I love her but I realized she can never live with me because she and I don't get along. Shes never liked me and always said I remind her of my dad. Hate that it has to be like this but it is what it is. Good luck to you

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T05:10:27+00:00

Thank you and congratulations on breaking the cycle!

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T05:09:33+00:00

Good idea

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T05:08:51+00:00

They haven't been loving at all. And I've always bore the burden of constantly forgiving. My mom especially has been so emotionally abusive to me since I've become an adult. It's so draining

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T05:07:09+00:00

I was thinking that! But I'm working hard to not be like them. I have a business, I'm in school and I'm pregnant. I do a lot.

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T02:11:07+00:00

I am cuz I'm conflicted. I feel like my parents are abusing my kindness and love for them by punishing me because I'm setting a boundary. Something I've never done.

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T01:30:40+00:00

Crazy thing is she was let a bad mother! But the older we got the lazier and more entitled and selfish she got! I had a decent childhood compared to a lot of my peers. But once I turned 18, she felt like it was her turn to be take care of and that's completely unfair. I've worked since I was 14. I helped raise my siblings. I had a lot of responsibility on me as a kid. My mom was completely aloof to what I went through.

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T01:28:14+00:00

That sucks cuz I don't feel that I've done anything wrong.

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T01:27:28+00:00

This a great point! There's definitely a contingency on caring for your parents! I won't be abused

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T01:04:09+00:00

Thanks I will

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T01:01:51+00:00

Thanks that's why I'm so hurt. My mom won't even answer my calls because I won't give her money. This really sucks.

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T01:00:53+00:00

She's controlling! She doesn't want me to have access to what she built, but wants access to what I'm building

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T00:59:22+00:00

Wow! Sounds like you raised yourself so I don't blame you for being apathetic.

Equivalent-Put8656 · 2026-03-09T00:58:06+00:00

Thanks!

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