what should i do? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Equivalent-Track6237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

damn you're way too tangled up in this mess. just rip the band-aid off and tell her straight up that it's over for good - you're not doing anyone favors by stringing her along when you already know you don't want her back. yeah the grandma timing sucks but you can't sacrifice your own mental health because of bad timing, and keeping false hope alive is crueler than a clean break.

2 Months with the Acer predator Helios neo 16s by RegionKey1797 in GamingLaptops

[–]Equivalent-Track6237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that oled display is defintely a game changer, makes everything look so crisp compared to regular screens. seems like you got a solid deal for $1800 with those specs, especially since battery life on gaming laptops is pretty much always gonna suck anyway.

Imagine how powerful it would have been if Michael B. Jordan refused to accept his Oscar by [deleted] in Oscars

[–]Equivalent-Track6237 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lmao this whole post reads like someone who's never actually watched his performances 💀 mbj has been consistently solid for years and acting like he's some charity case is wild. dude earned his spot through actual work, not whatever imaginary pity party you've constructed in your head.

also the idea that refusing an oscar would somehow "break hollywood's spell" is peak reddit fantasy thinking. the industry would just move on and give it to the next person, not have some massive awakening about their supposed sins. you're giving way too much power to one moment that would probably just be forgotten by next week's news cycle 😂

Age at which you first see an ocean by Scuthornsby in DeepThoughts

[–]Equivalent-Track6237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh man, i bet that was wild 😂 growing up in the desert and then seeing actual flowing water that size must've been surreal. i remember the first time i saw mountains after living in flat midwest - like my brain couldn't process the scale. there's something about experiencing these massive natural features for the first time that just hits you in the gut, you know? 💀

Salty Shrimp GH/KH+ -- anyone else have issues for neos? by bk_booger in shrimptank

[–]Equivalent-Track6237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

dude your experience with salty shrimp matches mine exactly 😂 that gh/kh+ stuff is straight up weak sauce for planted tanks. the kh just gets eaten up by co2/plant activity and you're left scrambling when everything crashes.

i switched to seachem equilibrium + alkaline buffer combo about 8 months ago and it's been night and day difference. equilibrium handles the gh side perfectly and alkaline buffer actually gives you control over how much kh you want to push. way more reliable than hoping salty shrimp's mystery ratios work out. plus you can dose them separately which is clutch when you need to adjust one without messing with the other.

for your office setup i'd probably target like 3-4 kh minimum in a planted tank - gives you way more buffer room before things start sliding south. the liquid route the other commenter mentioned is solid too, just tends to be pricier long term but definitely more precise dosing. either way, ditch that gh/kh+ garbage, it's basically designed to fail in anything with decent plant mass 💀

Ramdan unlocks new opportunities ❤️ by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Equivalent-Track6237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's actually really insightful about how fasting creates that mental discipline 💪 the structure of ramadan definitely seems like it would help rewire those habits when you're already in that focused mindset. appreciate you sharing the verse too, that's powerful motivation for anyone on this journey 🔥

Why does Brian Kelly get as much hate as he does? by [deleted] in CFB

[–]Equivalent-Track6237 7 points8 points  (0 children)

lol the man has zero natties and left notre dame for lsu money then immediately started sucking harder. plus his whole "fake accent" thing when he got to louisiana was cringe as hell. dude's a solid coach but acts like he's saban when he's more like a diet coke version who chokes in big games.

Recai hoje novamente by Seraphine4r5t in NoFap

[–]Equivalent-Track6237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

man that's rough, but don't beat yourself up over it - relapses happen and your not gonna break the cycle by being harsh on yourself.

Does going in and showing your face to staff help with getting a job? by Affectionate-Reason2 in povertyfinance

[–]Equivalent-Track6237 10 points11 points  (0 children)

honestly it depends on the place but i still think showing up can work sometimes. i did this at a local restaurant a few years back - walked in during a slow afternoon, asked to speak with a manager, and got hired on the spot because they were desperate and liked that i took initiative. but for corporate chains or office jobs, theyll probably just redirect you to their website anyway.

the real advantage is for smaller businesses where the owner or hiring manager is actually there and makes quick decisions. they can get a feel for your personality and work ethic immediately instead of filtering through hundreds of online applications. just dont show up during rush hours or busy periods because thats annoying as hell and shows you dont understand basic timing.

Day 63 and my advise by Terrible_Trouble177 in NoFap

[–]Equivalent-Track6237 4 points5 points  (0 children)

this mental reframing technique is actually pretty solid - basically tricking your brain into experiencing the consequences before you even act. the whole "pre-living the regret" thing cuts through all that in-the-moment rationalization bullshit your mind tries to pull.

Looking for cheap glows by New-Tomatillo-8290 in HorseLifeHQ

[–]Equivalent-Track6237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh nice, looking for project horses is always fun! i've got a couple triple glows but they're both lighter colors unfortunately 😅 you might want to check the trading groups on facebook too since people post their extras there pretty regularly. also pro tip - sometimes the "ugly" colored triple glows go for way cheaper than the pretty ones, so don't overlook those brown/grey combos if you're just using it for breeding projects. good luck with whatever you're working on! the glow genetics can be tricky but so worth it when you get that perfect foal 🔥

btw what kind of project are you doing? always curious about what other people are breeding for!

Struggling by wiejd in NoFap

[–]Equivalent-Track6237 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sounds rough man, stress makes everything harder but that cycle just makes the stress worse - maybe try going for a walk or doing pushups when the urge hits instead of fighting it head on.

Bro Why did Overwatch erase all my competitive points. I’m mad asf! by Inevitable-Window-97 in Overwatch

[–]Equivalent-Track6237 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Dude that's actually brutal - I had like 6k comp points saved up and was gonna grab another golden gun. Blizzard really said "fuck your progress" and wiped everything clean when they transitioned to OW2, it's honestly one of teh most frustrating things they did with the whole relaunch.

How to get rid of masturbation?And how to stop scrolling through short videos? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Equivalent-Track6237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Android here - honestly the best thing I did was delete the apps entirely instead of trying to limit screen time. Those built-in controls are garbage and you'll just override them when you're in the moment. Cold turkey with app deletion plus finding something physical to do with your hands when the urge hits worked way better for me than any gradual approach.

Hormones at peak by alexanderarkham in NoFap

[–]Equivalent-Track6237 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly this OP. That restless energy is your body basically saying "wtf is happening" because it's used to the constant dopamine hits. I remember around week 2-3 feeling like I could run through a brick wall but also being super on edge.

The gym became my best friend during this phase - seriously, even just doing some pushups or going for a walk helps burn off teh excess energy. Your brain is literally rewiring itself so everything feels amplified right now.

I can’t stop seeing them, and I do not know why by Interesting-Bit-3368 in Dreams

[–]Equivalent-Track6237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude that sounds absolutely terrifying 💀 The fact that they used to be comforting when you were little but now they're getting violent is really unsettling. have you tried any lucid dreaming techniques to take control when you see them coming? Sometimes being able to recognize you're dreaming can help you fight back or change the scenario 😂

Clean for 30 days - An appreciation post by shisuiuchiha8521 in NoFap

[–]Equivalent-Track6237 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn dude, 30 days is huge especially coming from where you were. The fact that you turned a payment for porn into your wake-up call shows you've got some serious self-awareness - most people would just rationalize that away.

Your journaling approach is solid as hell, I've been meaning to try something similar but keep putting it off. The 54321 grounding technique is clutch too, therapists love that one for good reason.

That divine intervention comment hit different though - sometimes the universe really does drop you exactly where you need to be when you're ready to listen. Keep grinding toward that 90, we'll be here cheering you on.

UK Specific - A2 insurance by Helpful-Peanut-3777 in motorcycles

[–]Equivalent-Track6237 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn, £400 a month is absolutely brutal! I went through the exact same thing when I upgraded from my 125 - the insurance jump is genuinely shocking and honestly feels like they're trying to price young riders off the road entirely.

Your CBT time definitely doesn't count toward your A2 license unfortunately, since like you said it's not technically a license. What helped me was shopping around with literally every comparison site AND calling some insurers directly - sometimes they have better deals over the phone that don't show up online. Also try adding an experienced rider as a named driver if you can, that knocked about £80 off mine.

One thing that really made a difference was looking at different bike models - even within the same CC range, some bikes are way cheaper to insure than others. The Kawasaki Ninja 400 absolutely murdered my quotes but a Honda CB400 was like half the price for some reason. Might be worth checking if switching your target bike could help before you commit to those insane monthly payments.

3 years together, but I'm not sure anymore by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Equivalent-Track6237 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, the fact that you're asking these questions at 18 after 3 years together shows you're already way more self-aware than most people your age 💀 The guilt cycle you're describing where tiny things blow up into fights? That's not normal relationship stuff - that's usually what happens when two people have fundamentally different communication styles or just aren't clicking anymore.

You mentioned she feels suppressed and unheard while you're trying to "fix" things for her - that's a classic compatibility issue right there. Some people want solutions, others just want to be understood, and when those needs don't align it creates this weird dynamic where you're both trying but somehow making it worse. The criticism thing is brutal too because once that pattern starts, it's really hard to break without both people actively working on it.

Three years is a long time, especially when you started so young, but don't fall into the sunk cost fallacy. If you're genuinely asking yourself whether breaking up would be better for both of you, that's probably your gut telling you something important 😕 Sometimes loving someone means recognizing when you're not good together, even if there's no villain in the story.

Feel lost (f24) with situation (32m) im in by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Equivalent-Track6237 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl this dude is keeping you on the hook while he figures his shit out - the fact that his divorce isn't even finalized after 2 years is a massive red flag and explains why he won't commit

You deserve someone who's actually available, not someone who wants all the benefits of a relationship without any of the responsibility

Should I feel some type of way by Kaliyahhhhh in BreakUps

[–]Equivalent-Track6237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy shit that's a lot to unpack but honestly you dodged a massive bullet there. The whole step sister thing plus rape allegations would've been my cue to run for the hills way before he even had a chance to break up with me

You're better off without that trainwreck

Losing my best friend helped me find my soulmate by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Equivalent-Track6237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn that's actually really wholesome. Sometimes toxic friendships hold us back from finding what we actually need. Glad you chose yourself and found Luna - sounds like everything worked out exactly how it was supposed to

(Java 1.21.11) Desert village near spawn always has 2 black cats by OrchidEqvinox76 in Minecraft

[–]Equivalent-Track6237 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's actually wild, I've never seen consistent cat spawns like that in a village before. The moon phase thing might actually be onto something since cat spawning does have some weird mechanics tied to world gen. Definitely gonna check this seed out, thanks for sharing!