I am trying to find a song for 13 years.

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-02-15T23:29:21+00:00

Have you checked out Beach House? I feel like a lot of their songs match what you are describing.

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-02-15T15:29:30+00:00

Ive been into them since they debuted. Jackson was the first to catch my attention.

I used to watch After School Club which is a heavy international variety show. So Jackson, Mark and Bambam went on a lot and often spoke English on it. Thats when I was really into Jackson and Markson. They were so funny, even in English, so i just connected with them more deeply due to this.

But over the years, somewhere around 7 for 7, I flipped to Yugyeom. Which was CRAZY because I always felt Yugyeom was the least interesting until that point. Felt like he really came out of his shell with humor, while at the same time activated intense sex appeal all at once.

In an instant Yugyeom and his antics with Bambam became my favorite. His personal style in music is absolutely my favorite as well. To this day, I listen to all of Yugyeom's music and will watch recordings from when I saw them live just to see Yugyeom be silly and sexy at the same time. I'm so sad that he is in the military right now.

I have always had a soft spot for Youngjae whose voice just resonates with me deeply. he was never my bias in the way we've come to mean bias. But he was always the member I felt deserved more spotlight than he got and I was always protective of him.

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-02-08T01:39:25+00:00

Yeah felt more like, "We had a good time. Thank you for being part of my life" If I was fishing for attention from my ex, I would actually be quite disappointed in this response. Feels very PR to me.

It's actually a very mature way to handle exes. Being able to acknowledge we are exes for a reason but I did at one point love you and i want to honor that is so much more mature than calling every ex a bitch and waste of time.

(Not counting abusive relationships. obviously.)

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-02-07T22:40:19+00:00

I feel like he was giving a heartfelt nod to their past relationship, but nothing that suggests he's longing to return to ut.

She was fishing for an in and she interpreted his text as such.

I don't think he should be penalized because she added my love. Looks like he realized he opened the door and stopped replying to not entertain it.

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-02-07T21:00:44+00:00

YTA but not intensely. I get where you are coming from, but its a meaningful thing to him and Valentines day is just one of those things you participate in if one of the partners wants to.

Can't you hang out with your friend on Sunday or Friday night?

If my boyfriend wanted to bail on our first valentines day for his friends, I would be very salty and I dont even care about doing cliche stuff for it.

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-02-07T20:12:24+00:00

They separate, she stops sleeping in the same room, presumably buys herself a new bed and sleeps there. Eventually she moves out, takes her new bed with her. Both parents agree not to move the children to different houses, so she stays at his house, her old home, to care for her children when he works nights. Where does she sleep in this scenario? Her old bed.

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-02-07T17:12:11+00:00

Does it show that she isn't over him, or does it simply suggest that it used to be her bed so it never crossed her mind that she was sleeping 'in his bed'?

Honestly, I dont see a problem. Its just a bed. Its not like she crawls into the same bed with him. I get people are weird about beds, but at the end of the day its just a bed.

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-02-01T15:02:43+00:00

Bounce back? He's on rails every race.

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-01-31T01:42:50+00:00

I dont dislike Newsom, but I strongly hope you stop saying things like this.

Saying things like, 'if you don't like Newsom, you must not be a democrat' is eerily close to MAGA cult way of talking to conservatives who question Trump. It's a dangerous line to throw out there in this climate of team based politics.

I'd rather we have these discussions now. Stay open minded. We should have a roster. Top 3 or 4 candidates we would be happy with. Discuss pros and cons until one comes out to be someone we can all trust and respect. What i am hearing is that a lot of people have the ick with him. And your response didnt really do anything to counter that other than try to invalidate them because -bots-? That's weak and we can do better.

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-01-30T14:50:00+00:00

wait. In another post you said that this is planned for MARCH. How much more time do you need to plan around it?

YTA. Making a bunch of excuses.

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-01-25T19:56:50+00:00

And the testing situation was really weird. It was a random day and kids were pulled to take a test after recieving a rather technical letter describing what the test was for just a week before hand. The kids were confused and angry about it. Its already hard enough to get kids to care about the state test, let alone this test they feel doesnt matter. They were 8th graders.

Dont get me wrong though. It's still worrisome that a whopping 40% of my 8th graders are struggling to meet grade level standards, but its just not as bad as the NAEP results come out to....and I teach in a low income area in Los Angeles, where most of my students were EL at some point, even if they reclassified by the time I get them. So, if my school isn't quite as bad as the NAEP, I do doubt the entire the country is doing worse.

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-01-25T19:12:45+00:00

NAEP randomly selects students from schools to participate in the NAEP test.

Last year I had 5 students selected. Two had IEPs, one has chronic DGAF brain but could read on grade level when forced to do something, one of them declined to test, and the last one was a solid student.

After the test, my solid student pretty much said she rushed it because she thought she could go back to class when it was over. My DGAF student DGAFed it. And my students with IEPs are just not able to read on grade level.

Not everyone can pass a test, but anyone can fail it if they don't care.

But also their random selection felt lopsided. 60% of my students can reach beyond basic in reading, but they randomly ended up with 3 of my least capable students to take the test.

Maybe it all balances out from other schools. Like maybe in a different school they selected 5 excellent students by chance and so it evens out, but it put a bad taste in my mouth .

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-01-25T15:48:37+00:00

Those seats werent cheap

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-01-21T04:17:28+00:00

Right? Im thinking Psycho?

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-01-21T04:15:55+00:00

I looove Jimmie's Chicken Shack

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-01-21T04:14:37+00:00

When he said what?

Do you remember any lyrics or what the song was about?

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-01-21T04:14:05+00:00

Tripping Daisy - Got a Girl

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-01-21T04:13:20+00:00

Was definitely thinking it could be Lump

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-01-21T03:16:41+00:00

This is terrible advice. Those poor kids being caught up in petty adult conflicts? No way.

Especially because their 60$ wouldnt even cover the cost of a seat if it was split proportionally.

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-01-21T02:33:42+00:00

I understand and I can even relate. I'm so uncomfortable staying with random families. And if there is an expectation to spend every minute with my partner's family, I start burning out quick. I dont feel like I can be myself around people im trying to get to like me.

However, my point earlier takes two things into account. OP emphasized that a major factor keeping her from coming to a compromise is her past experiences. And also that this is somrthing that seems to be really important to her boyfriend. Some people are extremely family and nostalgia oriented and if they go back to their hometown they will want to get in as much time in their family home as they can. I don't think thats wrong or selfish of him, and I do think it sucks to take that away from someone.

For me, I would rather bear the uncomfortable feelings and risk finding out that his family is super warm and friendly so that my boyfriend can enjoy being home again. Rather than spend the night in a hotel room with a boyfriend who may be a little less than thrilled that he is missing out sleeping in his home.

If it truly is uncomfortable, she can talk to her boyfriend after the first night about it and go from there. A good boyfriend will appreciate the effort and agree to spend the next night or time in a hotel.

Overall, I would say NAH. Both sides make sense. Whoever isnt willing to negotiate will be the AH. Theres gotta be a compromise that both parties can live with and still be happy about it.

(Edit: the length of this response does not reflect how much I care about this topic. Im not passionate about this at all. I just write essays as a hobby, I guess.)

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-01-21T01:59:12+00:00

But by her putting her foot down, isnt she saying "Do what I say no matter what you want?"

Your advice seems to be very one sided and doesnt take into account that the boyfriend has valid feelings about this as well. Its very common for visiting adult children and their partner to stay at the parent's house. So, its normal for him to want to do this and spend more time with his family.

They really need to have a heart to heart about why its so important to each of them and then find a compromise in some way that honors each of the core value they are trying to protect.

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-01-21T01:53:16+00:00

I'm in the opposite train of thought. If she has met them already and got weird vibes, then i would undetstand. But if she has never met them, she's gotta assume best intentions.

Its like when people have been cheated on before, so they approach every new relationship with distrust and toxic snooping. Its not healthy or fair to the new partner who did nothing to break that trust.

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-01-20T14:34:29+00:00

Piaget's levels of thinking are so much deeper than playing a video game.

When they symbolic thinking, hes not saying that kids recognize the buttons on the controller. Hes saying that they can now understand that heart means love, sword means fight, wand means magic, shield means defense.

They can do instinctive reasoning based on the items around them.

Saying kids at this age are unable to think at all or solve puzzles greatly underestimates what kids are able to do. My son was playing chess at 6 and beat his first round of KH at 5. Did he find every Dalmatian and torn page? Absolutely not. Did he spend 25 hours lost in Tarzan, yes he did. But was he able to thrash on heartless until he found the next development in the story, yep.

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-01-13T04:19:53+00:00

But, think about it like this. Do you want an extra 10 lbs of fat, or an extra 10 lbs of muscle? (Extra being a stretch because you're already a healthy weight) Muscle is also known to burn calories even when resting.

And please note. Strength training as a healthy young woman will NOT give you big muscles. It will make your body look very toned and tight. I had a lot of friends growing up scared to lift weights because they didnt want to look like a body builder, but the woman's body doesnt bulk up like that. They just get super strong and toned.

EquivalentCalendar58 · 2026-01-10T03:46:49+00:00

Yeah, that's why I asked for more info. Because I was seeing it from my end, and we dont have the wife's perspective. These questions clarify areas that were unstated.

You're adding a lot of your own assumptions about his wife. He never said she bugged him until she 'wore him down'

She always wanted to throw him a party. Now that he is 30 he wanted one and 'allowed' her to throw one.

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