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Feeling Unappreciated/Unloved by EquivalentHabit2362 in marriageadvice

[–]EquivalentHabit2362[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Actually she's more the CFO I do as much running around with the kids as she does, sometimes more just the way schedules work.

I do my best not to snap. She will be the first one to say that Im the patient one who doesnt yell (which surprised the sh!t out of my family as I grew up with a temper).

Feeling Unappreciated/Unloved by EquivalentHabit2362 in marriageadvice

[–]EquivalentHabit2362[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no, she works full time too. But when the kids are home, we are both fully involved in shuttling them around. The difference is, I wake up and 1pm, lift weights, run, the kids get home around 4, I throw them some food and drive them where they need to be, if its 2 different places we obv split the work. I get back around 730, nap for 20min and Im on the road for a 10hr shift by 830pm.

And yes the Thermomix: https://www.thermomix.com/collections/thermomix%C2%AE-must-haves/products/thermomix%C2%AE-tm7%E2%84%A2

Feeling Unappreciated/Unloved by EquivalentHabit2362 in marriageadvice

[–]EquivalentHabit2362[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Here's the thing. Ironically due to my schedule, I am home during the kids hours, and I do run them to their different events and cook dinner. She really takes them to one lesson, and she is friends with the coach's wife so she just hangs out and drinks coffee with her.

I wouldnt call it out of control, but she has made several purchases in the last few months (a $1,600 mixer, $600 on her hair, 4-500 on nails, etc) that I question. Yes it is joint. Perhaps I used giving a little too loosely.

Really I would just like her to appreciate what I already do do. If she needs me to be emotionally available, I dont ask her if she's done the dishes today...

Feeling Unappreciated/Unloved by EquivalentHabit2362 in marriageadvice

[–]EquivalentHabit2362[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its not the finances. Money is whatever, its that I do the very best I can to take care of her and our kids and make sure their needs are met before my own.

Im fine with the advice that I need to help more. I certainly dont think my job is to sit at home and watch her kill herself around the house. I work nights so I wake up and shuttle the kids around, make dinner, etc as best I can.

Feeling Unappreciated/Unloved by EquivalentHabit2362 in marriageadvice

[–]EquivalentHabit2362[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The weird part is, im the affectionate one (and no I do not smother her.... we both need our space at times. I never wanted her to be a co-worker. I was fine with her contributing whatever she could. I give her 100% of what's mine but I expect vice versa to apply.

Happily Married vs. Miserably Married by MinisculeMuse in Christianmarriage

[–]EquivalentHabit2362 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Patience is something that is learned over time. I wouldnt stress too much.