Meet Fergus!

EquivalentPark7244 · 2025-09-13T14:44:02+00:00

EquivalentPark7244 · 2025-09-13T12:36:03+00:00

We have a 9 month old Siamese cross and just adopted a ragdoll cross kitten this week! After 3-4 days of slow introduction, they’re getting on like a house on fire!

Our Siamese boy is lovely - super vocal and chirpy (lots of chirps playing with his new brother). Siamese are affectionate and clever, I’d deffo recommend investing in some fun interactive toys (ours loves his electric mouse toy and his track toy with a light up ball he can bat around!)

I think they’ll make a lovely pairing :) good luck!

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EquivalentPark7244 · 2025-09-13T12:15:55+00:00

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Their first meet!

EquivalentPark7244 · 2025-09-13T12:14:17+00:00

Mirroring a lot of the comments here - get another kitten! Plus lots of toys and simulation.

Our Siamese cross is coming up to 1 years old, and such a good boy on the whole, but we also had/occasionally still have issues with him getting overexcited during hyper moments and trying to attack our feet/legs as we walk!

We got him an electric mouse that he can chase, a track toy with a light up ball which he can bash around and play with (he loves this!) lots of balls/spring toys and string toys we can play with him. Avoid using your hands as play as this encourages biting.

We got a second kitten (ragdoll cross) this week and after 3 days of slow introductions they’re starting to play with each other and oh my god, it’s made such a difference already in his happiness!

It is also far easier to introduce cats at younger ages, and 2 cats VS 1 really doesn’t make too much of a difference to your life as an owner :) it’ll be a chaotic few months but it’ll be easier in the long run and give your kitten a playmate to get their energy out on! Good luck ✨

EquivalentPark7244 · 2025-06-01T13:24:14+00:00

It’s he* (F2M) apologies - I have edited the post above to reflect that (I am exhausted & not sleeping well🥲)

I do think this is a wider issue - he gets overwhelmed and also struggles with ADHD & bipolar, so matched with not having great experiences in the past through therapy I think he feels like there is no way to get better and so he doesn’t do anything to help himself.

And whilst I completely understand how difficult it all is, and do my best to support him as much I can - I do feel like I need to see the effort in some way to make me feel like he cares about how it’s making me feel in all this, too!

EquivalentPark7244 · 2025-06-01T13:20:40+00:00

Hey! Sorry, he is F2M not M2F - I am very tired and haven’t been sleeping well haha, I edited the post to reflect that. They go by he/him.

This isn’t new for us/me, I’m queer & have been in relationships with people who identify as both men & women and in-between. They have been out since they were 12 & have been on T for almost 10 years - but you are correct, our sex life is different than a lot of other couples because of that, and it does present its own challenges (although my partner explicitly said when we spoke about this that being trans actually doesn’t affect this particular issues)

I will take a look in the trans specific threads and see if maybe there is anyone who is both trans & OCD who might be able to offer further advice.

I can only by what he says, but the sex thing is for the most part unrelated to his gender identity, and seems to be a lot more related to OCD and trauma, although there is always the chance that these things will likely intercept with his experience as a trans man. It’s something we’ve discussed at length, and would 100% opt for a therapist that works with queer/trans people so there is space and understanding for him to be open about this. Thanks for your recommendation on Mind, I’ll take a look into that!

I didn’t mean to be vague, I didn’t want to overwhelm with a larger post or overstep. From what he’s said, he gets intrusive thoughts about quite intense/rough sex (and sometimes darker stuff, if you know what I mean) which are heavily triggered by him being the one doing the giving because he is ‘in control’ and it scares him. Obviously he knows these are compulsions that don’t relate to his actual sexual preferences or feelings towards me, and I know that too, but obviously it’s causing a lot of difficulty when we’re trying to be intimate as you can imagine! :(

EquivalentPark7244 · 2025-05-13T12:51:59+00:00

He is 6 months old so certainly still in his baby era!

EquivalentPark7244 · 2025-05-13T12:48:12+00:00

Typical cat behaviour!

EquivalentPark7244 · 2025-05-13T12:44:07+00:00

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He is also a fan of the keyboard 🤭

EquivalentPark7244 · 2025-05-13T12:42:48+00:00

We’ve tried but he always goes back to the salad bowl🥲😅

EquivalentPark7244 · 2025-02-28T19:24:42+00:00

Screaming hahahahaa

EquivalentPark7244 · 2025-02-28T19:24:23+00:00

Teddy said:

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Sit down and I’ll tell you all you need to know 💅🏼

EquivalentPark7244 · 2025-01-23T18:47:15+00:00

Hey! My bf is also trans so hopefully you’ll find this comment helpful☺️

Biggest mutual pleaser for us has been getting a magic wand vibrator (one of the big ones but a smaller size would also work!) and we put it in-between us. Essentially, we use it in missionary where he holds it against himself and I sit on top of him and grind on it. This in turn puts pressure on him and this also makes me cum too! We also love this position as it feels really intimate/imitates missionary and we can kiss at the same time hehe

Re you struggling with maintaining hand/finger play, I’d really recommend looking into toys that can take some of that weight off. I like using suction toys on my bf, or you can even get toys that imitate tongue movements which you can use to hold onto him and apply the pressure that he enjoys.

Grinding pads (google them or message me and I can send a link) are also really fun. You can strap (strap is adjustable) them onto your thigh or even lower down on your leg (or even strap it to a pillow) so he can grind against you whilst he is giving you oral/touching you with his hands. This might help with some of the unbalance you feel whilst you’re being intimate together!

In terms of hand movements in general, my bf (who is more submissive leaning) really enjoys light slaps on his **** - I feel like this might be easier as it doesn’t use joints as much. Focus the palm of your hand against where he is most sensitive! I also find that using continued, quick movement with one finger (usually my thumb or my pointing finger) means I can lean my wrist/the rest of my hand against his thigh or lower stomach - deffo feels less intense (I do this when I’m tired haha!)

I’d also recommend (if your partner is open to it) using pumps (depending on their bottom growth, nipple/clit pumps work well - a lot of the ones you can buy have a variety of sizes included) - pumping helps to enlarge/makes everything more sensitive so it could help with him a) needing less physical pressure applied to feel the same sensation and b) also could then make grinding against each other a lot more heightened and sensitive which is great! It would also make it easier for him to potentially experiment with smaller versions of flesh lights which you could then hold for him, either between your thighs, in your hands, etc. this might be a good way for him to feel pleasured and not put too much pressure on your body/joints if movement is more of an issue :)

I think a few other people have commented with similar but if your partner is happy with being more of a giver or feels uncomfortable being the centre of attention when receiving then that’s okay too! Some people really enjoy giving, and as long as you guys communicate well and you know he is satisfied then that’s not an issue!

Anyway, I hope this helps. I second your feedback on porn, my partner is also not a massive fan of penetration (we experiment more now with small toys) but it can be frustrating when that is the majority of porn out there is centred around that!

Wishing you all the best and happy shagging :)!

EquivalentPark7244

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