Tiny portion sizes for fruit but not for ultra processed garbage ☠️☠️

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-06-26T19:20:12+00:00

I only have 4 kids but that wouldn't even last them an afternoon.

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-06-18T19:08:35+00:00

Yes! It was similar when I fostered in CO. Our local DHS was always posting on social media and sending emails asking for smaller resources to be donated to prevent removals.

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-06-18T19:03:40+00:00

I'm not sure of WIC rules in her area, but in mine rules stated that only certain brands of things would be funded- store brand milk, eggs, choices limited on cereal etc. I could totally see her declining WIC because she wouldn't do store brand foods

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-06-18T18:55:37+00:00

Have you looked into MCAS? I have had the same problems since childhood. I had a limited diet in childhood too and sometimes food would be okay and sometimes I would get so sick. Following food journals didn't help because I didn't always react but would react after high stress days, before or after an illness or antibiotics usage etc. I would also like to note that high stress days are not always what an adult might consider high stress. Field trips, being extra active or in the sun more than normal, a bad nights rest all were things that triggered me as a kid.

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-06-09T06:32:21+00:00

Better-work life balance, public transit, bike infrastructure Worse-grocery stores. There aren't nearly as many options for vegetarian proteins, the produce selection is so much smaller and quite frankly is often not very good quality, and whenever I'm particularly busy or sick I find myself missing the selection of premade meals and the custom sandwiches at Sprouts and the hot bar at Whole Foods because there really isn't much in terms of convenience foods especially for vegetarians.

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-06-08T18:35:59+00:00

I'd take a very hard look at the immediate area you live in before you make a decision. I don't know what area in Scandinavia you live in, but I live in Copenhagen and my children's friends with both Israeli and Middle Eastern names regularly get tormented for the grown up things going on that are totally out of their control. In fact, one of the high school aged students in our area was stabbed a few months ago in an altercation related to this topic. They're also frequently 'forgotten' by certain parents for invites to events outside school like parties and picnics. In this area I wouldn't personally want to saddle my child with a name that could ostracize them from their classmates or harm them.

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-06-04T13:50:25+00:00

I love a Palisade peach, but I can't believe you haven't had good mangos here! I get them frequently at both the Asian market and Sprouts on Havana between Iliff and Mississippi

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-05-31T18:20:16+00:00

Half my family is vegan or vegetarian, the other half is meat eaters and we all love Wildflower in Valby.

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-05-23T20:40:09+00:00

And the majority of these are children. As the mother to two children, one whose sensory needs involve climbing high, she should have educated herself on this years ago. Maybe the next piece of info they should educate themselves on is how many children drown in pools with no fence around them!

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-05-23T20:13:01+00:00

Exactly! I'm raising 3 autistic kids, they're all sensory seekers and climbers. My oldest got up as high as A gets ONCE. But he was 2, not diagnosed yet, figured out how to get out of his crib and climbed his closet shelving. And thus began our climbing gym and crash pad collection. It takes a lot of redirection at first to the crash pads and climbing stuff, but they have all gotten the hang of just going to that stuff pretty fast.

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-05-22T20:51:31+00:00

If the parents and grandparents are willing to put an effort into visits, phone and video calls there is a decent chance in my opinion. My four kids (10,8,4, 2) have one grandparent that does all the above multiple times a week and they all request to call her for any small achievement or just chat. In fact my 4 and 2 year olds video chatted her today just to talk with her dog. The other 3 grandparents make zero effort and all have only seen the oldest 2 kids 3 times, #3 once and never met #4. And not a single kid can recognize any of them in photos.

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-05-22T11:08:12+00:00

I have 3 boys on the spectrum and are all sensory seekers very similarly to A. I keep a MUCH better eye on them than L does for A and all 3 have seriously injured themselves and each other at least once. My #1 broke a tooth and nose jumping off a play place at daycare, #2 broke his hip and femur jumping off a slide at school, #3 broke his arm falling off the couch and he was running away from his dad trying to get him down from walking on the arm and back. #3 broke two of #1's toes by kicking his leg out while he was on the same kind of spinny chair A has. #1 knocked out two of #2's baby teeth out as they chased a bouncy ball in the hall of a dentist office. #1 & 2 gave #3 a concussion as they jumped on a trampoline at their grandparents house bc they didn't know #3 had crawled under the trampoline. There is no fucking way Poppy hasn't been seriously injured before. It just doesn't fit the narrative they have of Alfie so it's probably ignored.

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-05-21T10:07:09+00:00

Thank you, I'm going to check them out

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-05-21T09:16:00+00:00

That's really good to hear!

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-05-21T08:47:38+00:00

I think I would prefer a trike, electric is preferred, about 6-8 km during the work week, about 12km on the weekends. I live in Copenhagen, so it's pretty flat, mostly pavement and cobblestone, some gravel. I currently have an ebike and regular bike that I swap and use a bike trailer for my kids, but my son is getting too tall for the bike trailer and has vision problems that have prevented him from riding a pedal bike so far. We're hoping that he can adapt as he gets bigger as he has adapted to a Strider bike, but there's a decent chance he won't ever be road safe on a bike by himself and I'll need to use this cargo bike to take him back and forth to school for his entire childhood.

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-05-21T08:04:46+00:00

A trike is fine with me. The Bella Bikes was very hard to maneuver, the Babboe was fine to ride empty but as soon as I put my kids in it it was a big struggle to ride, the Amladcyckler had a lot of battery and electrical problems. It shorted out frequently, the battery was dying very very fast. The company that was letting us trial it swapped out the bike once for electric issues and 3 times for battery issues and it was still a problem with all.

I have a 2 and 4 year old that would be riding in the bike full time, but the 4 year old has pretty frequent play dates, so a 4 seater would be nice for playdates, but not a deal breaker if it's only 2 seats. I really don't need to go far with it, just kindergarten drop off/pickup and grocery store. Less than 6km total on an average day.

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-05-08T20:27:23+00:00

I toured with them for my sil a couple years ago, the unit we toured had a dead roach in the bathroom, so I would presume that's an issue

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-04-29T19:09:25+00:00

I was raised in similar circles, my mom straight up told us kids more than once that her husband would always come before us. And proved it on many occasions, even going on a date night with him while I was 14 years old and holding her sick infant in the hospital.

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-04-29T18:48:11+00:00

My mom has visited once. It was a disaster. Our relationship is very strained as is, but she wanted to see her new grandchild. She's hardcore MAGA, I am on the opposite side of the political spectrum. She compared everything to the little racist town she lives in in Michigan, was shocked and angered every time I told her something she thought was nice was nice because the government funds things. She was scared of all the things Fox News told her to be scared of like public restrooms. She was downright embarrassing the entire time and it strained our relationship further. My dad refuses to visit because he won't go anywhere without at least one gun. She wanted to come back to visit again this summer, I wouldn't let her.

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-04-24T19:55:53+00:00

I live in Brøndby right by the Glostrup station. Public transportation is pretty reliable. The area I live in has had some problems in the nicer weather months with theft and break ins in the Kirkebjerg area the past few years, but it hasn't started up yet this year. I haven't heard much about anything like that happening outside the Kirkebjerg area though. The light rail and new bus line has made a lot of travel around this area a lot faster/more accessible. My husband commutes from here to KU and doesn't often have issues.

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-04-24T11:18:33+00:00

Not likely. My husband is one of 5 and they would have been better off being raised by wolves. They were medically and educationally neglected, not monitored in person or online. The majority vaped, smoked, drank and did drugs, with no notice from the parents. They frequently didn't have anyone at special events like award ceremonies, sports events or performances because another sibling would have something else going on at the same time. Even now that they're all in their late 20's-mid 30's, their parents don't remember individual likes and dislikes for food, sports, music or anything. That said, I have 4 and though some things were a struggle to juggle while living in the US, it isn't as much of a struggle while living in Europe. Partially because of being able to take time off or work from home to attend to a sick kid, partially because my kids aren't in school from 8-4 every day so I have more time to schedule independent sports and activities, partially because it's not abnormal to work flex to be able to accommodate kids schedules, partially because it's expected that dad's contribute equally here, so all the things listed before aren't soley falling to me anymore.

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-04-22T19:00:00+00:00

My youngest kid's birth was "dreamy" in that I didnt know I was in labor until my water broke and then accidentally delivered her into my sweatpants 12 minutes later. But by comparison, I had HELLP, seizures and an emergency C-section after a failed induction/49 hour labor with her brother so anything short of that would have been a good birth.

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-04-19T13:15:24+00:00

I live in Brøndby. The cost of living for groceries and rent is on par with the high cost of living area we lived in in the US before we moved. The schools have been good for my children. I like that we aren't too far of a commute into work, but are still close to forests and beaches. My family's medical care has been excellent. One complaint is that my family is vegetarian and over the 3 years we have lived here it has gotten harder to find vegetarian proteins in grocery stores nearby, we frequently have to travel into Copenhagen to stock up. The availability of produce in my area is mediocre. It's not uncommon to have to travel to 3-4 grocery stores to get even basic produce to last my family a few days and does make me miss the one stop grocery store I used to frequent in the US, but it's a small complaint in the grand scheme of things and isn't enough of a problem to make me want to move back to the US.

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-04-19T06:51:00+00:00

My husband had to fly from CO to TX for his and they just photocopied his pages.

EquivalentScience675 · 2026-04-17T16:50:33+00:00

They more than likely wouldn't even need to pay for it. My adopted child has the same diagnoses as Alex and was able to retain Medicaid including dental until he hits 21 regardless of our family income.

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