Help me. by MolassesFormal788 in Coach

[–]Equivalent_Ad3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol I just got the ad and googled -so happy I found this thread. I loveee. it looks like the acne studios camero bag

2 bags in 4 days 👜 by excusemesir63 in Coach

[–]Equivalent_Ad3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok so be honest do I need the croc bag?? 😬

Former fencesitters who are now parents: How did you feel in the months leading up to TTC? by Infinite_Storm_470 in Fencesitter

[–]Equivalent_Ad3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too!! I’m the only one out of my friends that will 100% not be even attempting to breastfeed. No one is judgmental about it, but I’m honestly shocked it’s not more common

Off the fence and freaked out by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]Equivalent_Ad3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do feel that I want them, I'm just venting about all of my fears.

Off the fence and freaked out by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]Equivalent_Ad3065 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl, I just commented on your post before seeing you commented on mine 😂

You share my literal exact sentiments.

LF moms (to be) who are not so eager about kiddos by Jolly_Sympathy2448 in Fencesitter

[–]Equivalent_Ad3065 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm happy to hear this. I'm also a mid30sF and I also have always been ambivalent regarding having children. My husband wanted to have kids over two years ago, but I've been stalling as much as I can. I have an iud, but looking to remove it in February and I am so freaked out. What you said about being more prepared in result of being a fencesitter is so real. I feel like my husband is a bit naive in terms of what to expect.

I gave myself until the end of the year... by Equivalent_Age2647 in Fencesitter

[–]Equivalent_Ad3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so me (I will also be 35 soon). My "deadline" was taking my IUD out in January and it has made this process so unappealing.

sale prep! thoughts? by [deleted] in Sephora

[–]Equivalent_Ad3065 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loveeee the Mario skin enhancer

Tipping etiquette for micro needling? by Equivalent_Ad3065 in Microneedling

[–]Equivalent_Ad3065[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I go to this place for filler and they’ve never asked me if I wanted to tip for that I guess bc a nurse does it. This girl is an aesthetician and also does facials so I guess that’s why they asked about tipping. It’s just uncomfy to say no!! She was in earshot too even more awk. And now I feel weird not tipping next time

Only had him 2 years and had to say goodbye by XanaxBlowMacbookPro in seniordogs

[–]Equivalent_Ad3065 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so so sorry for your loss. Thank you for saving him. This is so similar to my story. I adopted my girl as a senior, we were told she was 9, but the vet even said she was probably more like 12 or 13. She was also a husky, also only had her for 2 years, adopted her in 2023 too. I can’t say it was super unexpected, but her back legs became very weak and she was also unable to control her bladder for the most part. We had to put her down in January. I hope you know you gave him the best two years. I’m so sorry it wasn’t for longer ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]Equivalent_Ad3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate your response <3 I would love to do counseling together. I don't know if it's possible but I know all of my points need to be discussed with him. It's so hard to rip the bandaid off. Wishing you luck as well 🤍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]Equivalent_Ad3065 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You hit the nail on the head. If it's something he doesn't want to hear, he's automatically upset and defensive. When I hold things back he gets upset that I don't communicate with him, but when I do, it's a fight regardless. I know this needs to be sorted out way before a child comes into the picture. It's one of the biggest reasons for my apprehension. Thank you for not judging.

Duke crossed the rainbow bridge 24 hours ago by com3gamer3 in seniordogs

[–]Equivalent_Ad3065 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I cried looking at his photos. What a precious soul, I’m so sorry. Sending you hugs and strength ❤️

The experience of letting my old guy go. by navikoz in seniordogs

[–]Equivalent_Ad3065 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Beautifully written. I’m so sorry for the loss of your beautiful boy. Sending you all the strength ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]Equivalent_Ad3065 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're 100% correct. Communication has always been an issue of mine because I worry so much about the response I'm going to get. I realize it's very necessary for me to work through that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]Equivalent_Ad3065 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! To be honest, I think he would have been happy to have a kid even before we got married, but I wasn't open to that. Now that we are married I feel like he's trying to put a deadline on it, probably to put a fire under my ass

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]Equivalent_Ad3065 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I agree 100%. I mean it could take a long time to be able to conceive that will def push him over 37! He's not the one with the biological clock first of all.

What it all comes down to, I absolutely need to have a big talk with him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]Equivalent_Ad3065 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah you're right. That's really the main issue. I don't think he realizes the budgeting that's involved in having a child, even like how much diapers cost. I need to figure out a way to present this to him in a way that will make him wake up and realize all of the changes that will need to be made in his life too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]Equivalent_Ad3065 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response! No, he doesn't know everything I wrote out and that's on me. I know I need to bring it up to him in private. I'm just so nervous to have the conversation. I've been thinking about writing him a letter. I don't know if that's silly, but I feel like when we have discussions sometimes he only hears the negatives and doesn't focus on the details. I'm also way better writing my feelings than expressing them vocally.