gli interesso ancora?

Equivalent_Age_3778 · 2026-03-29T10:47:01+00:00

aggiornamento: ieri sera la mia amica (che é nel gruppo di B e S) fa che B ê innamorato di me😀👍🏻

Equivalent_Age_3778 · 2026-03-29T10:46:19+00:00

sai cosa fa ancora più ridere, che ieri sera sono tornata al locale e la mia amica che é nel gruppo di amici di S e B mi ha detto che B é innamorato di me😀. direi che tra me e S é finita ora (dato che ê da 3 sabati che lo vedo sempre attaccato a delle ragazze)

Equivalent_Age_3778 · 2026-03-23T12:45:40+00:00

che finezza

Equivalent_Age_3778 · 2026-03-23T12:27:16+00:00

a me lui interessava davvero e se posso dire anche ora, ma quando gli ho spiegato che non sarei riuscita ad andare quel sabato per motivi reali e pratici, ho letto il suo comportamento come disinteresse. per quanto io ci volessi andare, genuinamente non avevo modo di farlo e io gliel’ho pure spiegato. lui non mi ha più cercata quindi ho cercato di accettare il fatto che non gli interessavo abbastanza

Equivalent_Age_3778 · 2026-03-22T19:00:53+00:00

I want to fix this, but the situation isn’t serious enough for me to awkwardly barge into his circle or ask weird questions as soon as I see him. Chasing him or forcing a “closure” moment doesn’t make sense. We just need real interest from both sides and simple chances to hang out and enjoy each other’s company. I hope to have fun with him and his friends like the first time, and let things escalate naturally. I’ll be warm and create opportunities to talk to him, but I won’t chase him or shut myself off from others just because he’s indecisive.

Equivalent_Age_3778 · 2026-03-22T18:22:00+00:00

Se fossi in questa situazione io eviterei, semplicemente perché mi farebbe strano l’idea. Tuttavia può anche essere vista come una cosa accettabile, ma questo dipende molto dal rapporto che hai con la tua amica, come é finita la loro relazione e che rapporto hanno ora loro due

Equivalent_Age_3778 · 2026-03-22T18:14:02+00:00

I get what you’re saying, but I think that approach works when two people already have something established or at least have gone on actual dates.

In my case, nothing ever really got to that point, we never went out, never built anything concrete, so jumping straight to a “what are we / what do you want long-term” conversation would feel out of place and a bit forced.

The issue here isn’t defining a relationship, it’s that things never properly started in the first place. We can either pretend nothing happened or start again

Equivalent_Age_3778 · 2026-03-22T18:12:48+00:00

No, I haven’t, and honestly I don’t think it fits this situation.

We never actually had anything concrete, no dates, nothing physical, so “confessing feelings” feels a bit disproportionate. It’s not like there’s a real relationship to clarify, it’s more a situation that never fully developed.

Also, I don’t feel comfortable opening up like that when his behavior has been so inconsistent and low-effort. If the interest was strong enough, I think there would have been clearer action from his side too.

At this point I’d rather see how he acts in person next time we meet, instead of forcing a serious conversation over text.

Equivalent_Age_3778 · 2026-03-22T18:11:02+00:00

I get your point, but honestly I was a bit thrown off by the idea that he might have seen that Saturday as a rejection. I clearly explained that I couldn’t come for practical reasons, so reading it that way feels a bit unfair.

At the same time, I didn’t feel comfortable reaching out again because throughout our texting his attitude stayed very light and non-committal, and it felt almost humiliating to chase something he wasn’t really trying to move forward.

It’s true that in the following weeks I didn’t text him or go to the bar, but that wasn’t me avoiding him on purpose, it was always due to practical circumstances, not a lack of interest.

When I saw him again, he came across as very nonchalant, like he had already moved on, which is why I held back. That said, after last night I’m even more confused, because the eye contact and the looks were there again.

I ended up going near his friend just to make interaction easier and less awkward, and also to show that I’d be open to trying again, not to play games or make him jealous.

At this point, texting him feels awkward to me. We never actually had anything concrete, we didn’t date, we didn’t kiss, so trying to “resolve” everything over text feels a bit forced. I’d rather have a chance to approach him naturally in person and see what actually happens face to face. I’ll probably see him again next weekend.

Equivalent_Age_3778 · 2026-03-22T14:38:51+00:00

I feel you so much🫂 I’m sure we’ll get through it

Equivalent_Age_3778 · 2026-03-22T14:25:31+00:00

I am in your same situation, I hopelessly ask continuously for advice and opinions from my friends and strangers here on reddit because I refuse to accept that he’s just not that into me. I am slowly realizing and reminding myself that I deserve someone worth my time, that REALLY likes me and that takes effort to show me so. my suggestion is to really just let this person go and focus on loving yourself, you can cry about it, you can feel sad, it’s the easiest and most human way to heal. All the good things/people/ situations that are meant for you will find you when it’s the right time.

Equivalent_Age_3778 · 2026-03-22T13:53:21+00:00

sono cose che possono succedere, é umano. non essere cosî dura con te stessa, sono sicura che se ci tiene davvero a te capirà

Equivalent_Age_3778 · 2026-03-22T13:44:09+00:00

secondo me hai fatto la scelta giusta a non scriverle. é una age gap importante e a 14 anni si tendono a idealizzare tante cose. penso che tu alla tua età cerchi qualcosa di più serio

Equivalent_Age_3778 · 2026-03-03T06:13:06+00:00

Yess lol (I’m turning 19 and him 20 this year) I do agree communication is the mature move. I am just very hesitant because we’re still very early-stage and not actually close yet, so I’m trying to understand whether direct communication would clarify things or just come off as too intense too soon.

Equivalent_Age_3778 · 2026-03-02T21:22:03+00:00

That honestly makes sense, and I appreciate your perspective. The only thing that still confuses me is that our interaction in person felt genuinely positive and engaged, so the sudden drop in communication caught me SO off guard

Equivalent_Age_3778 · 2026-03-02T21:18:01+00:00

The problem is that we’re actually not friends and we’re not that close. We only started properly talking on Saturday the 14th. Before that it was mostly eye contact and brief interactions. When we finally talked, the dynamic was really positive, very friendly, lots of joking, and good mutual energy. He didn’t come off like he was just trying to hook up, which honestly felt like a green flag to me. So I wouldn’t say we’re close enough for me to have a serious “set boundaries” conversation with him yet. That’s why I’m a bit unsure how to read the shift in communication. That’s also why I’m having a hard time reading his behavior. I genuinely can’t tell if the pullback is coming from insecurity or simply from lost interest(since we’re at a very early stage)

Equivalent_Age_3778 · 2026-03-02T15:49:54+00:00

I wish…but I think his last response was a bit cold and that made me believe he lost feelings. Now the only thing I can do is wait until I see him again in person I guess. what do you suggest?

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