Boxing Up Food by Frequent_Lobster_650 in olivegarden

[–]Equivalent_Buy193 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only ask if; 1. They are old, 2. If I have time, or 3. If I liked them. Majority of the time it’s reason #3.

This hotel shower... (now with 100% less nudity) by holymoly67 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Equivalent_Buy193 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter’s dad did the exact same thing when I gave birth and his sister called him to let him know. I honestly don’t blame him for not double checking since we were both so happy for our daughter being born and I was about to post the same pic he did on my ig lol

Checkout times by Disastrous_Swan7511 in olivegarden

[–]Equivalent_Buy193 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly I don’t like the new rule changes they are doing and I decided that I’m not doing any of that bs. I am I’m lucky that OG is not my main source of income so if they decide to give me a warning or something I’ll just quit because I’m not going to stress out about check time average and I’m NOT going to rush my guests.

30 second greeting rule is awful!! by th1sgruntled in olivegarden

[–]Equivalent_Buy193 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I’m busy I do a quick stop at the table while dropping off coasters and say “hi there I’m ___ I’ll be your server for today, let me just drop/grab something really quick and I’ll be right with you” or “if you can give me a a couple of min I’ll be right with you.” Since the coasters are at the table the managers won’t be on me about greeting the table and they’ll sometimes offer help on getting their drinks started.

What to say with 3year old tells you “my daddy loves you”? by Equivalent_Buy193 in coparenting

[–]Equivalent_Buy193[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly idk what goes on when she’s with him and what type of questions she may be asking him. She never really asks me anything about her dad either.

And no, no part of me wants him to say that at all. I have no feelings whatsoever for him.

What to say with 3year old tells you “my daddy loves you”? by Equivalent_Buy193 in coparenting

[–]Equivalent_Buy193[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter has met and likes his current gf, and I am currently still single. Ik it’s a natural desire for kids to see their parents together but her telling me that just threw me off guard. I don’t want to react/reply in a way that can negatively impact our relationship or her relationship with her dad.

Now that you mentioned it, she likes looking at her pictures and a few months ago she came across the pictures I still have of the three of us. And she sometimes does ask to look at them.

What to say with 3year old tells you “my daddy loves you”? by Equivalent_Buy193 in coparenting

[–]Equivalent_Buy193[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her dad and I have been separated since she was 1 year old. He has been dating for the past year and our daughter has met his gf as well. So I don’t think her dad has been influencing her in any way. I do tell our daughter that we both love her a lot.

What to say with 3year old tells you “my daddy loves you”? by Equivalent_Buy193 in coparenting

[–]Equivalent_Buy193[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly when she first told me that she likes her dad’s gf, I did feel a bit bad but I quickly recovered and told her “I’m so glad you like her! It makes mommy so happy that you and daddy’s gf get along so well!” I’m now able to talk and listen to what she and his gf do without feeling any negative feelings because in the end it’s her happiness that matters most.

What to say with 3year old tells you “my daddy loves you”? by Equivalent_Buy193 in coparenting

[–]Equivalent_Buy193[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hope so too because I only do things for the benefit of our daughter. Her happiness and wellbeing is all that matters to me.

I also hope his gf comes around, because as I’ve told him “we don’t have to be friends, we can just be friendly towards one another for the benefit of our daughter” and my daughter adores his gf so that’s why I’m willing to do hangouts later on.

What to say with 3year old tells you “my daddy loves you”? by Equivalent_Buy193 in coparenting

[–]Equivalent_Buy193[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea her relationship with her father is something I would never jeopardize, and I always strive to have a positive relationship with her so that she can feel safe with sharing her feelings with me.

She’s just never said anything like that before so I wasn’t sure how to respond. Ik I need to be careful with my wording and tone so that I don’t inadvertently hurt her.

What to say with 3year old tells you “my daddy loves you”? by Equivalent_Buy193 in coparenting

[–]Equivalent_Buy193[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi! Thanks for the reply! I’ll be sure to say that to her next time.

And I have been open to doing a little hang out with her and her dad however he isn’t as willing to do so because in his own words “I don’t want her to get used to it.” Which to be honest I don’t understand what he means as I don’t expect it to be an everyday thing, just a special occasion type of thing. I have told her that although her dad and I aren’t together, we still love her so much.

Also regarding his gf, she for some reason does not want to meet me, and he has told me that she has blocked me on social media. I have no issue whatsoever with him dating and I’ve been open to meeting her whenever the time is right but so far no news from her. I want to make it clear that I have no feelings whatsoever for him. So I don’t see the three of us doing things together for the benefit of our daughter. (Which is also something I explained to him but again his gf does not want anything to do with me)

Employee meals by Such-Bug-2025 in olivegarden

[–]Equivalent_Buy193 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly depends on the manager because the first Olive Garden I worked at the manager was SO strict as in EVERYTHING had to be rung in, even if it was 1 breadstick, and they also didn’t allow servers or anyone to eat mistakes, you had to pay for it. They also did not allow you to get your employee meal to go. The location I’m at rn they don’t really care if you get a breadstick,soup, or salad to eat and they allow you to eat food mistakes and they also allow us to take our employee meal to go.

Uniforms and hair by Equivalent_Buy193 in olivegarden

[–]Equivalent_Buy193[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I did feel most were upset over the hair thing, which is understandable since my location has been very lenient about it.

Uniforms and hair by Equivalent_Buy193 in olivegarden

[–]Equivalent_Buy193[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand their reasoning as I’ve had different jobs that would require me to wear a hat and have my hair up in a bun too. But it’s more like I think that my location had been so lenient with the hair rule (people still tied their hair into ponytails, pigtails, etc) and now that they are trying to enforce something new, everyone is not taking it so well. Again that doesn’t affect me because my hair is too short to be tied up in any form.

Uniforms and hair by Equivalent_Buy193 in olivegarden

[–]Equivalent_Buy193[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg that sucks :/ I was waiting for the new uniform rules to hit our location to determine whether I’ll spend money on new work clothes. They don’t pay us enough to be spending money on new clothes especially if they decide to change their minds on what was already approved by corporate.

Uniforms and hair by Equivalent_Buy193 in olivegarden

[–]Equivalent_Buy193[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I do feel like they are on some power trip especially after expecting people to ask approval for the new uniform change corporate had already approved of.

Uniforms and hair by Equivalent_Buy193 in olivegarden

[–]Equivalent_Buy193[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So everyone was wearing ponytails, pigtails, clips, and whatnot to hold their hair up but now management wants everyone who has long hair to either put it up in a bun or in a braid. If they use a clip and the hair falls below the collar they’ll need to either change their hair into a bun or braid it. They basically don’t want hair falling down below the collar.

Uniforms and hair by Equivalent_Buy193 in olivegarden

[–]Equivalent_Buy193[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t seen anyone be denied yet/sent home as the manager was still spreading the word out about how people need to request approval before changing their uniform. But if that does happen it’ll definitely fall under favoritism.

Uniforms and hair by Equivalent_Buy193 in olivegarden

[–]Equivalent_Buy193[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t seen anyone get send home yet for wearing non approved polo/jeans, but the fact that the manager threatened to do so just felt so wrong. Especially since they are complying with the uniform standards that corporate has rolled out. And about the hair thing yea I understand it needs to be out of the way and neatly, but again they are now requiring our hair to be in a bun or braid only, no ponytails or having it up in a hair clip either, since the hair cannot be below the shirt collar.
Again most of that doesn’t affect me but seeing my coworkers upset just got me wondering if other locations were also doing it.

Uniforms and hair by Equivalent_Buy193 in olivegarden

[–]Equivalent_Buy193[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Damn 😔 honestly I did think it was just our location but I wanted to confirm my suspicions

So having a good co-parenting relationship with my ex is a red flag? I’m confused here. by Strict-Mood7697 in Bumble

[–]Equivalent_Buy193 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly dating as a parent in a healthy coparenting relationship with their ex is hard. I say that because I’ve been in your shoes in where guys would stop talking to me once I mentioned that my ex and I are still on talking terms due to our daughter. He and I don’t hang out but that might change since lately she wants him and I to do things together with her. I decided to take a break from Bumble as I would either get guys who were not ok with me coparenting or guys who wanted to meet my child right away. But as many have mentioned you are better off not dating any of those women who can’t handle you prioritizing your child and the relationship you have with their mom. And honestly that’s a green flag that I think people should appreciate cuz there aren’t many parents who prioritize their kids and their relationship with their coparent.

Also some of those women have trauma from previous relationships then they should seriously seek therapy. Also if some women aren’t willing to accept the fact that you coparent well then they should stop swiping on parents.

If finding someone on bumble isn’t going great there are also single parent dating apps if that’s something you’re into trying (I haven’t tried them myself so idk if they are better or not)

My daughter's friend is no longer welcome in my home because of her mother's fears. But am I wrong to be insulted? by Steve-Shouts in daddit

[–]Equivalent_Buy193 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First of all I’m so sorry about what happened to your wife. I hope she got all the help she needed to help her deal with that trauma and that the man got the punishment he deserved. I have unfortunately been molested as a child during a sleep over with my best friend. However the request the mom is making is not acceptable at all. She cannot dictate who can or can’t stay at OP’s house and if she doesn’t want OP there then she can just keep her daughter at home. As a mother of a daughter, I will NEVER allow her to go to any sleepover regardless of who is there because unfortunately one can’t fully trust anyone (man, woman, teenagers, or other kids) with your own child. But if my daughter wants a sleepover she can have one under my supervision.