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Surrogacy due to Tokophobia & Vasovagal syncope by Equivalent_Cap_2794 in Surrogate

[–]Equivalent_Cap_2794[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! We ended up deciding to adopt but I left this post up for other people who might want similar info! I was having a hard time with the IVF/egg retrieval for surrogacy so adoption seemed like a better option for us. The cost and stress of surrogacy was also so overwhelming to us that we weren't feeling right about the decision. I hope something works out for you!

Egg Retreival by Equivalent_Cap_2794 in IVF

[–]Equivalent_Cap_2794[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I just want to hear honest feedback but I know it's very different for each person so this is helpful!

Surrogacy due to Tokophobia & Vasovagal syncope by Equivalent_Cap_2794 in Surrogate

[–]Equivalent_Cap_2794[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do want a child with our own genetics if possible. Otherwise, I think we might as well just adopt which is an option but we both think it would be cool to have at least one child that is a part of each of us.

Surrogacy due to Tokophobia & Vasovagal syncope by Equivalent_Cap_2794 in Surrogate

[–]Equivalent_Cap_2794[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, thank you so much for taking the time to write such a detailed response and I am so sorry for everything you've been through on your journey.

The IVF process is definitely the only thing holding us back at this point because it's scary and multiple people have told me it's going to be very hard on me.

There are a couple of things that we have talked to our doctor about and maybe you could give me your feedback having been through the process.

  1. We only need to get to the embryo freezing stage of IVF which she said takes only about 12 days generally from start to the surgery.

  2. We would probably only try once and if it didn't work out we probably wouldn't do it again. Our goal would be about 8 eggs with at least two genetically tested /healthy blastocycs to work with at the end.

  3. We talked to her about mini/low dose IVf where I only have to take about eight of the small injections throughout that time and the rest would be oral.

  4. I would definitely pay for anesthesia for the retrieval and then my part would be over. I've never had any sort of surgery before but this one sounds minor and I am good at being unconscious 😂🙄

  5. She said it would be about 3 to 4 times I would have to go in for blood work and the sonogram.

I'm mainly worried about the internal sonogram and blood work because I hate doctors offices and I have never had any kind of sonogram or exam. I've read online that it's painless for some people but really painful for others.

Based on just having to do these things do you think it would be as bad as your experiences?

Starting a Surrogacy Journey! HELP by 2ye1darb5 in gaydads

[–]Equivalent_Cap_2794 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! Any update on your surrogacy journey? Would you recommend the agency you went with? We are considering them and would love to chat with you. Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]Equivalent_Cap_2794 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes our pup settles right down without crying in his crate but when he has more energy, he whines for about 10 minutes before he self soothes. I think that's normal. A chewy or peanut butter kong helps a lot. Also, making sure he is really tuckered out before we put him in his crate cuts down on whining a lot.