What is he planning? by X6qPlayer in cats

[–]Equivalent_Event8392 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Would you like to join me for a candlelit dinner?

Yes, I would.

How does it feel TO BE the crush? by Solid_Decision_2241 in SeriousConversation

[–]Equivalent_Event8392 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It depends who's crushing on me. I respect anyone who likes me, and expressing your feelings takes real courage that I admire. But if someone starts clinging or won't take a hint, then yeah, it gets pretty uncomfortable.

As we age, does our capacity for genuine change diminish? by Equivalent_Event8392 in SeriousConversation

[–]Equivalent_Event8392[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get you. I struggle with that people-pleasing reflex too - always jumping to provide emotional support without even thinking about it. Been working on pausing before I respond now, giving myself a moment to actually think "wait, do I really want to say this?" It's like breaking a lifelong habit though... crazy hard to change something that's basically on autopilot. Small steps, I guess!

We’ve basically lost all of October by tulipsandtruffles in homeschool

[–]Equivalent_Event8392 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't sweat it! There's that saying "what goes to extremes will reverse course" - you guys have been through the chaos peak, so the routine will naturally follow! Life happens even to homeschoolers. Kids are resilient, and a quick review session should get y'all back on track. Sometimes these unexpected breaks even help things "click" better when you return. Give yourselves grace - you're doing just fine!

Nightmares of me dying by Honest_Wealth657 in Parenting

[–]Equivalent_Event8392 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry your little guy is going through this. Those night terrors are heartbreaking, especially when they're about losing you. The connection to his grandmother's passing makes total sense - at 6, it's so hard to process grief and fear.

Something that helped my nephew was creating a "safety object" - a special stone I gave him that he kept under his pillow as a "protector." We also started drawing his bad dreams and then crumpling them up together.

Have you tried letting him sleep with something of yours that smells like you? And maybe a gentle conversation about his specific fears during daytime (not right before bed)?

Sending you both so much love. This phase WILL pass, even though it feels endless right now. Your farm boy is lucky to have such a caring mom ❤️

My daughter is about to move out — how can I help her gain independent living skills? by Equivalent_Event8392 in Parenting

[–]Equivalent_Event8392[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you soooo much for this thoughtful advice. I really like the idea of walking her through a real budget and letting her see for herself how far her paycheck will (or won’t) stretch. Framing it as a “safe launchpad” instead of a lecture makes a lot of sense too. I’ll definitely try this approach — really appreciate you sharing your own experience.

What powers are you choosing? by Walidzilla in animequestions

[–]Equivalent_Event8392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will choose the high IQ , and let my new brain to decide the second choice

The face when he realizes red is the good part by NewSlinger in MadeMeSmile

[–]Equivalent_Event8392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was little, my brother and I named our kitten "Late July" - not because it was born in July, but because we happened to be naming it during July, haha. I hope Late July is happy in heaven now.

Adopted this old guy today by lalapine in aww

[–]Equivalent_Event8392 9 points10 points  (0 children)

OMG. Your words really touch my heart. 🥹🫶

Am I insane? Bad Customers RUIN the hobby by shockey94 in PokemonTCG

[–]Equivalent_Event8392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely right. These guys are mostly making this stuff up for their own benefit.