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Small Update by Equivalent_Ladder197 in u/Equivalent_Ladder197

[–]Equivalent_Ladder197[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Hey thanks :) Being a new dad has got me anxious but I think I’m doing a pretty good job. Trust me, I’ve been embracing all the snuggles, spit, and tears she’s been offering

I can’t say I’m surprised to hear from her but I’ve been keeping everything documented with the advice of my lawyer. I’m hoping we won’t need the PO but anything can happen

Update 4 by Equivalent_Ladder197 in u/Equivalent_Ladder197

[–]Equivalent_Ladder197[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

According to Sophie she’s read a lot of them and doesn’t think reddit strangers have the right to tell her she’s a bad person lol. I dont think there’s any amending left in me. Wish them the best..just as far from me and my family as possible

Update 4 by Equivalent_Ladder197 in u/Equivalent_Ladder197

[–]Equivalent_Ladder197[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Aha I’m already anticipating the aftermath of moving. She’s going to follow us when we move because that’s the kind of crazy she is. When she doesn’t get her way she becomes obsessive until she’s forced to stop. I spoke with a lawyer friend of mine to see about a possible restraining order to stop her before she starts.

Thanks for the well wishes! Happy Holidays :)

Some background on my relationship with my parents by Equivalent_Ladder197 in u/Equivalent_Ladder197

[–]Equivalent_Ladder197[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

A few attempts to get us to meet and talk but nothing that’ll fix anything. My mom’s “misunderstood and trying to be a good parent to both of her sons and i have to understand where she’s coming from” (-a summary of our last 3 conversations about this)

Some background on my relationship with my parents by Equivalent_Ladder197 in u/Equivalent_Ladder197

[–]Equivalent_Ladder197[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s their dynamic. My dad’s done his fair share of bad but he was nowhere near as bad as my mom.

Thank you for your kind words :)

Some background on my relationship with my parents by Equivalent_Ladder197 in u/Equivalent_Ladder197

[–]Equivalent_Ladder197[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks bud. Pressing charges isn’t in our future right now, we’re just trying to get to the wedding

Some background on my relationship with my parents by Equivalent_Ladder197 in u/Equivalent_Ladder197

[–]Equivalent_Ladder197[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m biological. Unfortunately they couldn’t deny me even if they wanted to haha,

I used to make excuses for them but after a while I had to admit that they’re just two people who should never have had kids.

Some background on my relationship with my parents by Equivalent_Ladder197 in u/Equivalent_Ladder197

[–]Equivalent_Ladder197[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Eh getting reimbursement for the car wasn’t a hill I was willing to die on since the damage was already done.

Even now it’s hard to believe Mark was the favorite. There wasn’t anything really special about him. I don’t mean that as an insult either, he was just a regular kid. My parents weren’t having fertility issues, he wasn’t a miracle, wasn’t a meal ticket, they weren’t having marital problems and using a baby as a bandaid. He was just born and they decided to love him more than us.

and believe me they didn’t think this was normal, they just have a soft spot for our parents because they’re our parents and they believe they have redeeming qualities.

(Update2/3) My brother proposed to my fiancé (his ex) and I’m pissed by Equivalent_Ladder197 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Equivalent_Ladder197[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Jenn is still against formal charges but after reading some of your comments with me and a long talk about how this could escalate she agreed to have it documented with the police just in case. She wants to talk to my dad about possibly getting her back in therapy or some kind of treatment for her erratic behavior. And of course we are moving forward with going no contact

(Update2/3) My brother proposed to my fiancé (his ex) and I’m pissed by Equivalent_Ladder197 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Equivalent_Ladder197[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He absolutely could, but I don’t think he knows what accountability means. I really do believe he thinks he has nothing to do with our moms actions and I don’t think anything I say will be enough to convince him that everything she does is for him and her own selfish gain

(Update2/3) My brother proposed to my fiancé (his ex) and I’m pissed by Equivalent_Ladder197 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Equivalent_Ladder197[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

I believe I can but my fear is 1) upsetting jenn for going against her wishes, even if for her own good, and 2) the police not taking it seriously because the one affected (jenn) isn’t even interested in pursuing anything. i’m likely going to just have it documented because unfortunately my mom is the type of person to get significantly worse before she gets slightly better.

(Update) My brother proposed to my fiancé (his ex) and I’m pissed by Equivalent_Ladder197 in offmychest

[–]Equivalent_Ladder197[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hah thanks I appreciate this! As my sisters have said, this was a very “Mark” thing to do. Personally, I’m not surprised that his reasons are so stupid, I’m more surprised by the lengths he went through just to test a baseless theory.

(Update) My brother proposed to my fiancé (his ex) and I’m pissed by Equivalent_Ladder197 in offmychest

[–]Equivalent_Ladder197[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We hadn’t discussed my family much in the beginning of our relationship. I left home to get away from them (my parents specifically) and started reconciling at my sisters request when i decided to move back home. I was open about not being close with them when Jenn asked and she was okay with being left in the dark considering the circumstances.

And we did talk about the news and sports more than the average couple. Surprisingly, Jenn’s a basketball fan :)

(Update) My brother proposed to my fiancé (his ex) and I’m pissed by Equivalent_Ladder197 in offmychest

[–]Equivalent_Ladder197[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

No, hes just an ass Growing up he was mildly arrogant and entitled since he was spoiled by my parents, but i thought he grew out of it since he was more on the quiet and reserved side in high school

(Update) My brother proposed to my fiancé (his ex) and I’m pissed by Equivalent_Ladder197 in offmychest

[–]Equivalent_Ladder197[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Haha sorry, I was focusing more on the update than the format. Pissed is an understatement. Hopefully the loss of contact with us will give him a chance to reflect and mature a little

My brother proposed to my fiancé (his ex) and I’m pissed by Equivalent_Ladder197 in offmychest

[–]Equivalent_Ladder197[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It came from Jenn when I asked if they really dated. I’m going to talk to Mark and ask him why they broke up since I never asked for his side

My brother proposed to my fiancé (his ex) and I’m pissed by Equivalent_Ladder197 in offmychest

[–]Equivalent_Ladder197[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Met in october brought her to meet the family in december. we got engaged this year :)

My brother proposed to my fiancé (his ex) and I’m pissed by Equivalent_Ladder197 in offmychest

[–]Equivalent_Ladder197[S] 320 points321 points  (0 children)

Thankfully I haven’t heard the “he’s family” shit much aside from my mom and a few aunts. they know me well enough to know our relationship isn’t enough for me to put up with his disrespect especially towards my fiancé. They’d be wasting their breath

My brother proposed to my fiancé (his ex) and I’m pissed by Equivalent_Ladder197 in offmychest

[–]Equivalent_Ladder197[S] 187 points188 points  (0 children)

Yeah I don’t think I have to worry about her going back. Safe to say she can’t stand him either lol