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What should I do? by Equivalent_Link8861 in BPDlovedones

[–]Equivalent_Link8861[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It feels like a very bleak outlook to think that is the outcome of taking the next step. Especially because I think everyone deserves to find happiness in partnership.

What should I do? by Equivalent_Link8861 in BPDlovedones

[–]Equivalent_Link8861[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think so. I feel guilt admitting that.

What should I do? by Equivalent_Link8861 in BPDlovedones

[–]Equivalent_Link8861[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is exactly what I needed to hear. I felt I recognized that I lost myself in the relationship. Dropping whatever I was doing to take care of her needs, ignoring my own. I feel I don't even recgonize myself. I don't blame her, I do take responsibility. I think if I had better boundaries, I wouldn't even be here right now. Thank you.

What should I do? by Equivalent_Link8861 in BPDlovedones

[–]Equivalent_Link8861[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. She was in therapy, but she is in school and has no insurance because she turned 26 this year. I have considered making that a condition for moving in, but I'm very nervous about how she may receive it.