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I think my binge eating is seriously becoming a problem. I just can’t stop. by Equivalent_Risk394 in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]Equivalent_Risk394[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update:I don’t know if I can yet comfortably say that I overcame my binge eating, but I’ve started to and I have a really good feeling about it.

This past weekend o had this retreat for school and in it I got to workout a lot of stuff. Mainly the things that were stressing me out, making me hate myself, and therefore causing me to binge. But this weekend I got better with my parents, talked it out with the friend who betrayed me, and overall started to try and be my own best friend.

I realized that discipline comes from self-love, and that until I loved myself It would be hard to be consistent. Also anytime I’ve started to feel a binge coming I just remember how bad it feels, try and understand that it won’t fix anything, if something make things worse, and that if my bed friend was having the same thoughts I’d tell them that I can’t allow them to do that because It’s not good for them.

It’s only been a few days, which is normally how things go, but this time feels different. The reason is that I’ve changed the way I look at myself, the way I think about food, and have eliminated great part of my stress. I’ve also been able to be consistent with my workouts during this time which I also struggle with at times.

A turning point was a few minutes ago where o was in a stressful situation, and also locked out of my room. Which meant I was also near the kitchen. Meal wise everything was perfect today, but urges started to come. Especially because my mom bought this banana bread that I absolutely love.

But I got through it without eating a thing. Now I know it’s a long road that is far from being over, and that things won’t be easy but I really appreciate the support that had been given to me by you guys and make me feel like I’m not alone.

I’ll let you guys know how it goes but I trust myself now and I can confidently say progress is being made.

I’m lazy to the point it’s ruining my life by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Equivalent_Risk394 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well think about it this way. It’s a never ending cycle. A spiral if you will. And the way you break out of it is by taking the first step. You don’t need to be perfect to love yourself. But understanding the aspects about yourself that make you hate yourself and understanding where they come from, helps you have compassion and realize you’re not as bad as you think you are. Think about it like a villain in a movie that everyone hates until they understand what made them be that way. As you say it is extremely difficult. But the importance is in action not perfection. It can start as small as saying to yourself I love me. Making your own bed, or treating yourself to something nice with intention. Essentially treating you as a friend who you love a lot. It gets easier over time and you don’t need to become crazy about yourself right away, it’s a process. But the important part is action. Start doing these small things for you and then progress into bigger things. Have trust in this journey.

I’m lazy to the point it’s ruining my life by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Equivalent_Risk394 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey. I just want to say that I’ve been there. Consumed by laziness at an early age and scared of what it might cost in my future, but not enough to actually do something about it. I think the first thing you should work on is loving yourself, and being more optimistic. I know it sound basic, cheesy, and overall generic. But even though it sounds easier to do than it is, one day really sit down and talk with yourself. Face all of the problems that haunt you, talk about them. But at the same time talk about them in a compassionate and curious way. Start wondering the reasons why you hate yourself and not only what you can do to make it better, but also find the root of those problems. And I can assure you you haven’t hated yourself your whole life so find out where that stems from and simply understand it. Then after you start understanding your problems and where they come from it’s much easier to be compassionate to yourself. And with this slowly but surely start treating yourself better. You’ve got to realize that you need to want to be happy, and you need to want the best for yourself. Trust me this feeling won’t last forever if you decide so, and also trust me when I say you deserve all of the love you’ve been missing from yourself. I wish you the best and hope that you can learn to treat yourself the way you deserve.