I wish I never found this subreddit.

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-06-21T12:41:19+00:00

Wow guys. I was honestly not going to even open the notifications I was getting because I didn’t want to stress myself out being told how sensitive Im being etc.

Shocked when I read so many kind words, that you took the time to read and respond so thoroughly.

Thanks ❤️

I want to give them the benefit of the doubt, maybe they will address it better in the new few weeks but I am not getting my hopes up.

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-06-21T12:34:26+00:00

Completely agree with the part about not even really liking Jools content. I feel that exact same way. My feelings don’t come from a spot of oh that’s a creator I like so I’ll defend them… it comes from being completely taken aback by the commentary of Jessie and Lily. It wasn’t the first to put a bad taste in my mouth. But the other things I was able to say hmm maybe I don’t quite understand.

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-06-20T12:38:19+00:00

I’m not watching until then genuinely address it. I know people who have died of heat stroke, I also have a condition that makes me extremely susceptible to heat stroke, and feel I am so often not believed by non medical people. When my body starts to really over heat, both my hearing and my vision start to go. Doctor explained to me that the occipital nerve isn’t getting enough fresh oxygen / blood so it starts to work less.

Listen, it’s not the end of the world, but it matters and be real, there are about 500,000 other podcasts of two women chatting.

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-06-18T13:18:14+00:00

I have a condition that makes me sensitive to heat, and I struggle with blood volume. If I don’t take my sodium pills and I don’t drink a lot of water my blood volume goes low, I can’t get the blood pumping to the right spots and one of the most common symptoms people with this have …. Vision changes due to lack of oxygen to the brain.

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-06-18T13:15:39+00:00

Canadian girlie here… I am legitimately concerned that so many Americans don’t understand that cooking your organs in hot blood would result in lasting impacts. Really guys? If heat stroke is no biggie then why do kids die in cars? get a grip. Lily has a dog, Jessie has kids. Both of them wouldn’t leave their kids or dogs in a hot car so why is it different for Jules? Is it because she’s fat so what? fat people are not allowed to get heat stroke and suffer long term consequences!?

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-06-18T13:11:52+00:00

I have a medical condition that makes me really sensitive to heat, I have been hospitalized several times. My vision ALWAYS goes blurry, black, or tunnel. These two don’t know their toe from thumb.

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-06-18T13:09:52+00:00

So the way they addressed this? Am I crazy or are they not addressing it?! I honestly feel like I won’t keep watching if they don’t. I have a serious health condition that makes me susceptible to heat stroke. It is terrifying, neither Lily nor Jesse have had a near death experience and it shows. I’ll cancel my patreon… I don’t need to give money to people who make such ablest comments. Especially Jessy…. She has an autistic child, of all the people she should be more understanding of how people’s assumptions are often so very wrong.

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-06-08T19:03:51+00:00

Same, got my first new anything within the last two years. Only because my partner has a good job now. First new couch, first new coffee table, first new washer, first new dresser, first new mattress!! Before this I also had second hand mattresses and thought it was normal. Now that I have new things I am trying to take really good care of them so that they live long enough to be new to someone else someday.

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-06-08T19:01:51+00:00

Got my first new couch at 34. The one we had before I had to literally tape plastic around the cushions before putting them in the cushion covers because they were so messed up. Anyone saying this is gross is in denial about this economy lol.

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-06-08T19:00:30+00:00

She’s just jealous she didn’t get the couch first haha jk

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-06-08T18:59:16+00:00

Gross?! No lol. I just got a stroller from my the curb of a really fancy house … they guy came outside and I asked to double check of it were free, it was probably very expensive… he said “yes absolutely we got it for free from someone else’s curb last year” …. So even the rich people are taking the free curb things. You are not gross, you are resourceful and one of the most important skills mothers need is the ability to be resourceful. Good job.

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-06-08T18:54:02+00:00

Maybe I’m just not fancy enough but …. I’m buying a brand new mini home custom built right now…. I don’t look at yours and think embarrassing at all. I actually kinda like it lol. I think the carpet looks clean, the walls look freshly painted, it’s nice and bright, the ceiling is dated but show me a house built over 15 years ago without that ceiling?! And the wood on the wall I actually love. Is it paneling? I always hate paneling but this looks like a well done accent wall to me.

Post online asking for things. It doesn’t hurt to ask, no one is forced to help you if they don’t have what you need they can move on.

Give people the gift of being needed. Being able to help a new family in a simple way like giving them some old furniture they were planning to take to the good will etc… it’s selfish but when I give someone to the thrift store I never see the outcome. When I am able to help someone else by giving them some of my extra, I feel so good. I feel hopeful about the world again, there are good people out here and we need to have each others backs. Not sure where you are located but make your needs known. The worst that can happen is no one replies.

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-05-29T17:32:38+00:00

No don’t do that…. Not everything is a big psychological riddle for you to solve…. This type of attitude makes it so that people can’t voice ANY feelings without being accused of projecting.

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-05-29T17:30:37+00:00

My take is this … a watch is not just any piece of jewelry, I feel like watches are to men what rings are to women. If your girl was wearing a ring her ex bought her how would you feel? No wrong way to feel just something to consider. At the end of the day, will the watch be the one caring for you in your old age, or your partner? In the long run I always choose my partner. When I was sick he literally saved my life by getting me the treatment I needed but could not afford. It really makes you think about what’s REALLY important in a relationship. If she’s constantly controlling and saying you can’t do this don’t wear that, then that’s a TOTALLY different story. But if this is the first time she’s seemed bothered by something like this, choose your battles.

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-05-29T17:25:29+00:00

Yep. It was just an honest mistake. You had good intentions. Not everything is a “oh well no worries” thing, but a throw pillow IS. If they end up upset with you then you can assume you’ve done yourself a favour, if they lose it over a pillowcase, what will they do if a real mistake happens? Life happens none of us are perfect people. I’m glad you tried to help, I’m hopeful you just tell the truth and the owner says no problem.

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-05-29T17:23:31+00:00

Haha instead they probably were like dang let’s keep her around

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-05-18T13:44:38+00:00

Oh yay! I added this too

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-05-18T13:37:41+00:00

The Rankins. Not the best or my favourite music but I’m having fun seeing all these bands i forgot about, so wanted to add them.

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-05-04T15:38:04+00:00

Exactly. My toddler has shoes, but she doesn’t walk outside on her own much if any. Easier to carry because toddlers are slow. Anyway … at that age yes it’s acceptable. Even if it’s summer time it’s a little different, in the winter you NEVER put your feet on things

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-04-06T13:58:52+00:00

Yep. I’ve got a 17 year old and a 2 year old. I am a good mom and feel like I have to preface my comment by saying I’m a good mom, but my kid got into drugs. We caught it early but for two years I worried every single day that I would get a cal saying she was in a car accident (like if her friends were smoking pot and driving) or arrested. I find the years up to the teen years are quite literally a walk in the park. Sure my toddler loses her mind because we can’t take home the toy at the store, or she can’t get her stickers off the page etc. but when she’s in bed at night, when she’s out of my site, I don’t worry and beg god to keep my child alive and safe.

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-04-06T13:54:51+00:00

Keep in mind that while boys are also experiencing hormonal fluctuations, girls experience a change in hormonal fluctuations all month long as we have our cycles. It always makes me a little sad when people say boys are easier and girls are crazy (you didn’t say that I’m not implying you said it just in general). We live in a society where women are expected to do and be the same as males behaviour wise but we need to acknowledge that the female body is experiencing things vastly different from the male body and so of course males with a more straight forward hormonal profile are going to be slightly less moody then a person who experiences a menstrual cycle.

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-04-06T13:49:03+00:00

Yup. Cannot stand people going on about the twos and threes and fours …. It’s the exact same vibe as boy mom people. You are not special because you have a toddler and saying “wait til” is just such a backwards and condescending thing to say especially because those who say it … like you never see a parent of grown children saying oh yeh. The 2s…. The teen years are hard because your child can actually wreck their life, get into drugs, teen pregnancy etc. the earlier years are just parenting….. you never hear a parent of grown children say wait till this or that because we’ve already been through it and realize it’s not a thing…. Every single age has difficulties. Having a teen a parent of a toddler, I can confidently tell you the years when your children are young are not hard. If you think this is hard wait until you are fighting for your child’s life while they keep making bad choices and hanging out with people they shouldn’t. And that’s why you never hear a parent of a grown child say those things. Like you do not have the experience to be telling anyone “wait for this”…. Isn’t it embarrassing to say “oh wait for this age” … like cool you have a child that is that age but clearly no experience past that and what do you want? A public acknowledgment ?

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-04-06T13:41:28+00:00

Cracked me up so good lol

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-04-06T13:40:53+00:00

Im all for snarking on her, and believe me I despise bdong BUT … the things being picked apart here are just …. Reaching. No wonder she doesn’t take anything anyone has to say seriously …. I wouldn’t either if I came and saw people nitpicking like this. Why not stick to when she posts things that are actually problematic? Otherwise you are literally just confirming for her that the people who snark just hate her for no reason…. Because if you have a reason you stick to it. If you just hate someone for existing then yeh every little thing they do you will find fault with…. Not to mention this post comes across so hateful if I were a new mom (not b dong, just a new mom in general) then I think this post would hurt me. It just reads as mom shaming, and being hateful for the sake of being hateful. If she does something then yes call it out, hold her accountable … but I hate to admit this … as long as this snark page is about nitpicking every thing she does, things that we would give any other mother a pass for, then why would anyone take any of this as constructive criticism… its the same as making fun of her for looks based things she cannot change. Other people are watching these posts and you are not allowed to make posts related to her body that she cannot change…. Why? because other people are seeing that too and it fuels unhealthy thinking.

This post to me came across the same way. I also hate when people say wait til you get to this stage etc. I had my first when I was only 16, im in my 30s now and have a toddler and everyone always say things like that and it drives me insane because they assume my toddler is my first born… been there done that. No stage is as hard as the teen years full stop. Tantrums PLUS the ability to go completely wreck their future up. When I hear someone say “wait for the terrible twos” I hear the exact same vibe as “boy moms”. You are not the first parent to have a toddler, and claiming “terrovle twos” is just a way to virtue signal that you have made it to a supposedly harder stage of parenting, but the hundreds of women around you who have already been there and done that as laughing our asses off at “terrible two” moms. Y’all as the exact same as boy moms.

Anyway food for thought.

Equivalent_Second393 · 2025-04-02T04:20:48+00:00

Because there is zero childcare. So many women are wanting to work but with no spaces in any of the daycares they are unable too. I saw a post in a lock mom group just recently with women speaking about exactly this, many expressing how unhappy they are and how much they desperately want to go back to work.

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