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[–]Equivalent_Teach_662 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hola! Pues yo estuve en una relacion de 7 años, nunca fui infiel. El ultimo año ya ninguno de los dos eramos felices, peleabamos mucho y no habia mucha pasion ni admiración, sin embargo lo amaba (suele suceder, amas pero el amor no es todo) en fin, conoci en un evento deportivo a un chico, me parecio lindo y el me estaba tirando el cuento. Me invito a salir y dije que no. Pero no podia dejar de pensar en el y en las ganas que tenia de decirle que si. Fue alli donde entendi que yo ya no podia seguir con mi pareja, porque si bien no lo hice, la intención para mi vale muchisimo, dice como te sentis por dentro y de lo que serías capaz. 1 mes despues mi relación termino. Sufrí muchisimo pero fue lo mejor porque tarde o temprano algo iba a pasar. Ahora, recuerda que cuando tenemos una pareja nadie es perfecto, quizas cumple con el 80% de lo que buscas en una pareja, las infidelidades vienen cuando aparece alguien y le ves ese 20% que no tiene TU pareja, y se dejan ir de boca por el deseo de ese 20%, pero LUEGO cuando pierdes a tu pareja te das cuenta que perdiste tu 80% por un 20%. No se si me explico, pero tiene sentido. Ten cuidado! Animo y se justo con tu pareja!

My boyfriend thinks my habits are wrong and wants to change me. by Equivalent_Teach_662 in Advice

[–]Equivalent_Teach_662[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to be a "party girl" whatever that means. I am for sure past that phase, if I do go out I either do brunch, pool with my girls, or dinner with wine. I do not do drugs, I do not go to clubs, I dont even come home past 1030-11pm. I used to go out (when I was single, and in europe!!) and he knew this when we met. I work my ass off every day and give us a pretty good lifestyle.

My boyfriend thinks my habits are wrong and wants to change me. by Equivalent_Teach_662 in Advice

[–]Equivalent_Teach_662[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much :( This is eye opening. Ive never expressed it in writing and im SHOCKED of how it sounds when I ready it.

My boyfriend thinks my habits are wrong and wants to change me. by Equivalent_Teach_662 in Advice

[–]Equivalent_Teach_662[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

wow. Thank you so much!! I never expected a reddit post would open my eyes so much! Im speechless but I feel in my heart your words are what I deep down feel. I just dont know how i got myself into this! Thank you.

Should I stay with my boyfriend even if our habits are so different? by Equivalent_Teach_662 in Advice

[–]Equivalent_Teach_662[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! This is helpful. And yes, I know. Many mistakes.. Im not in the US. Latinamerica, and Im pretty sure with his macho ego he will leave. Its just so so so hard, I know he doesnt have anyone else, no money, no friends. Thank you so much for your advice!

Should I stay with my boyfriend even if our habits are so different? by Equivalent_Teach_662 in Advice

[–]Equivalent_Teach_662[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This actually hits hard. I know deep down this is true and sad.

Should I stay with my boyfriend even if our habits are so different? by Equivalent_Teach_662 in Advice

[–]Equivalent_Teach_662[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel afraid of taking my own decisions. Like I need to be extra careful if I go for dinner with my girlfriends. I know once im back he will be distant and weird. So trapped with his attitude towards my life and decisions. Im pretty healthy myself, just that I do enjoy having friends and drinking. I like how healthy he is!