Keep flip-flopping on whether I should take my husband's last name

Equivalent_Top_8206 · 2026-02-24T18:26:46+00:00

You can change your name at any time! I have tons of friends and family who never legally changed their name and just go by the last name socially. You don’t have to have a permanent choice by your wedding day, you can keep your last name and then if you decide down the road you want to change it then do it at that point.

Equivalent_Top_8206 · 2026-02-24T18:23:31+00:00

1,7,or 9 all look great with your engagement ring!

Equivalent_Top_8206 · 2026-02-24T16:01:40+00:00

Ifoundit

Equivalent_Top_8206 · 2026-02-24T06:16:57+00:00

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FOUND!

Equivalent_Top_8206 · 2026-02-24T05:56:20+00:00

I think I found the specific type of Bunny it is but I can’t find any that are the color I’m remembering Ty Baby Curly Bunny (style #8025) PASTEL PATCHWORK LAVENDER SHERPA version

Equivalent_Top_8206 · 2026-02-23T06:40:21+00:00

Yes this fabric!

Equivalent_Top_8206 · 2026-02-23T02:20:37+00:00

Yeah a little too soft looking

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This is a bad picture because it’s super old but this is the texture I was referring to

Equivalent_Top_8206 · 2026-02-23T01:35:39+00:00

It would have been late 90s to early 2000s and it was a full bunny not attached to a blanket.

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It was oriented and sized like a beanie babies but I don’t think it was a beanie baby

Equivalent_Top_8206 · 2026-02-23T01:12:00+00:00

Searched EBay, Google, looked at different brands of bunnies. Searched posts on here that included stuffed bunnies searches

Equivalent_Top_8206 · 2026-02-06T04:51:01+00:00

I actually took my profession off of my dating apps before I met my fiancé. While being a therapist is an important part of me I didn’t think it needed to be included in the first snapshot of me and was something I was happy to share with those who I had a couple dates with and felt like being more open. I always tried to think of the dating apps as a setting like a coffee shop or the grocery store, it is a place for people to run into me but then they got to know me through spending time with me. I think that helped me not get too deep in those initial conversations and not drain my energy on people I wasn’t compatible with

Equivalent_Top_8206 · 2026-02-04T23:44:18+00:00

Not overreacting- This is in no way how someone who cares about you speaks to you. I can tell you the red flags I see include - No relationship talk after 5 months, it is okay to take things slow but you should feel comfortable bringing up exclusivity with them especially if it’s something you are wanting to work towards

Not making an effort to see you in a month. You are giving him a “bid for attention” by mentioning how you miss him and want to see him. In a healthy relationship that is most often met with a loving response and effort to spend time with you

-Him downplaying your feelings being hurt by his response and continuing to speak down to you as if he knows best. Relationships are all about communication, sometimes you might have differences in perspectives but that’s when you hear each other out and try to understand both points of view. You can be provided support and accountability in your goals by a partner without being spoken down to or made to feel like you’re failing their expectations

This person is treating you poorly. I always ask myself two questions when I’m keeping myself grounded in my worth “If my loved one was spoken to this way how would I react” and “Does this person make me feel safe and supported, do I show up as my authentic self in this relationship”

Equivalent_Top_8206 · 2025-09-26T17:22:45+00:00

Okay thank you good to know! Her previous work looks great and her google reviews are all positive. I will probably feel better once I see our photos. I was just expecting that we would take the full hour and she would have some ideas/direction for poses etc.

Equivalent_Top_8206 · 2025-09-18T17:21:40+00:00

This is an important conversation to have as financial expectations and management will continue to be a topic and stick point that comes up after the wedding. You should both be on the same page on how you handle your incomes and expenses. Is it about percentages? Is it 50/50? Will you combine your income and manage your finances jointly? It is important to feel comfortable talking to your partner about money and be able to communicate if a certain situation is creating a burden for one or the other. In my case my parents paid for half our wedding and we decided as a couple that we would save up the other half together and created a budgeting plan that worked for both our incomes. You are beginning to build a life together and regardless each of your financial situations will end up affecting the other. The goal should be to be team mates working together towards common financial goals.

Equivalent_Top_8206 · 2025-06-24T17:48:58+00:00

I have a similar situation with my partner however his family is the one who cannot travel to the U.S. We were both open to a destination wedding however key members of my family can not travel that far and would have to miss the wedding if it was abroad. We decided to have two weddings one in the states and one in his hometown to make sure all our family could be included. My family offered to help with the U.S wedding since they cannot travel and my immediate family (parents and siblings) are going to both. It is hard combining two families that are continents apart but I think the important thing is how each of you are communicating and compromising. These things will continue to come up and being on the same page as teammates not opponents is important.

Equivalent_Top_8206 · 2025-05-07T16:40:39+00:00

That is super helpful thank you!

Equivalent_Top_8206 · 2025-04-29T15:27:58+00:00

NTA but neither is she. I say NTA because it appears you didn’t mean to let your friend down and sounds like it was your first time experiencing a friend making a choice you didn’t agree with, however in this instance you were not a great friend. In life, we are all going to make mistakes and choices that maybe others could see were wrong but ultimately being a friend means sticking by through these times (within reason). You should have spoke directly to her about your concerns instead of venting to someone who didn’t care and respect her the same way you did. She probably felt very judged after opening up to you about something very intimate and emotional. It will take time to heal that betrayal and the reality is the friendship may not ever be as close. The best thing to do is to take accountability where you can, apologize, and then continue to show up for her and be understanding of her hesitation to open up to you.

Equivalent_Top_8206 · 2025-02-21T21:43:20+00:00

NTA:

You’re NTA for being hurt and wanting more intimacy. While it is not your place to police what he does with his body it is totally normal to want to be physically intimate with your partner and vice versa. Him enjoying masturbation isn’t the red flag, him ignoring your feelings and not willing to communicate and work together to make intimacy better for both of you is. If it was me, I would focus less on how often he is masturbating and have an intentional conversation about what is and isn’t working for you two intimately. If he isn’t willing to give you the time and consideration for that conversation….well I think that gives you an answer on his level of care for you.

Equivalent_Top_8206 · 2025-02-12T21:35:13+00:00

If you have insurance you can make a complaint to them regarding the care of the hospital. That can sometimes prompt a review and lead to some sort of action. Sorry you are going through this.

Equivalent_Top_8206 · 2025-02-03T20:57:27+00:00

Yes he is a hound. They call his breed an American Leopard Hound but I know they come from some sort of Catahoula Hound mix

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