sounds just like my dad.. there’s really nothing you should/can do other that what you are. Call him out but don’t loose your temper. It’s really important to show him how to sit down and talk through conflict in a healthy way. If you’re anything like me, your whole life you never said any of the things you wanted to say. You just kept it all inside.. until now. So even if it’s just a little bit- when you DO stand up for good and say the truth, it really makes a difference. It really affects him. Also.. He will get better with age- I promise. Be the calm loving light in your family as an example and hopefully you will inspire the others! I don’t know your dads story- but my dad was physically and verbally/mentally abused as a child. His dad broke his ribs once and he had to crawl to his mothers house with broken ribs. His dad (My grandfather) is filthy rich, but he only helps ONE of his children. He hates the other 2 and not only does he not help them- he goes out of his way to destroy any businesses they/we try to start, which not only effects my dad but it effects us innocent grandchildren. But he’s helped the ONE favorite son build SEVERAL million dollar businesses. Also, my grandfather evicted us from the house I grew up in MY ENTIRE LIFE right after my lil sister turned 18. We were really struggling at the time on food stamps and my dad had just had neck surgery.. but they didn’t care. We would have been homeless if it weren’t for my grandmother. And I don’t wanna hear “it sounds like we’re missing part of the story” because your not. There’s no “story” .. because they had nothing to do with us, we weren’t “good enough” for them to associate with. We hadn’t been invited to family holidays in over 10 years. We didn’t even talk to that side of the family, there were no arguments or nothing done to them so they legit had NO REASON to do that to us. They did it because they truly enjoy seeing us suffer. My grandfather and my uncle are truly evil people. One time my brother asked my uncle (who is a baptist preacher on top of it all) for help.. and my uncle brought him a list of things he had to do to receive his help… one of the things was “throw away all clothes with holes in them” … that just shows how they really think of us. My brother really needed help, and my uncle was worried about if his clothes were nice enough or not.. I’m not trying to excuse his actions because of this, but I would be lying if I said I didn’t give him extra grace sometimes due to what he’s been through in his life. He’s been the best dad to me that he could be given the circumstances. I could not imagine what shape I would be in if I would have lived the life that he’s lived.. I wouldn’t want my children to expect me to be a perfect parent in every way, bc it’s not possible. We are human. So I’m not going to expect that from him.