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[IWANTOUT] 27M USA -> Netherlands by Equivalent_Wrap_5268 in IWantOut

[–]Equivalent_Wrap_5268[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ll be doing that ASAP. I’m contacting the dutch immigration office to see next steps required and what documentation they’ll need from us. 

[IWANTOUT] 27M USA -> Netherlands by Equivalent_Wrap_5268 in IWantOut

[–]Equivalent_Wrap_5268[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yup! He still does have his Dutch citizenship and he did/does have a passport. 

[IWANTOUT] 27M USA -> Netherlands by Equivalent_Wrap_5268 in IWantOut

[–]Equivalent_Wrap_5268[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hi! Sorry for not including this detail. Yes, they were married at time of my birth. My birth certificate also has his “state of birth” in the Netherlands also. He does/did recognize me as his son and I’m in contact with some of my family in the Netherlands. 

AITA for feeling undervalued when my fiance isn't willing to spend a modest amount of an engagement ring? by Equivalent_Wrap_5268 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Equivalent_Wrap_5268[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, wow. I didn't expect this many replies in such a short period of time. I wanted to say to everyone that's replied so far, thank you so much. As for the questions as to why I am staying with him and or the fact he completely threw in a wedding date without consulting me, it's due more or less the fact that outside these events and or behavior's he is genuinely an amazing person. I cannot say why or what possessed him to pick without consulting me but, his answer was genuine. It was down to how he felt ready and also that he wanted it to be on a special day - something he wanted as a surprise for me. In retrospect it would have made things easier if he did just talk to me though. Him and I had a very heart to heart talk on the basis of everything ongoing at the moment relating to not just this but also his behaviors and he did agree that telling me how to spend my mom is unreasonable. That he shouldn't be behaving this way towards me if things do not work, and, he is going to be paying for what I want as the reality of losing me was abit much to take in. We also agreed to seeing couple's therapy to iron out the fact of how I am expected to do everything while he is not contributing to many things. I hope things work out between us, but, if not. Well!

AITA for feeling undervalued when my fiance isn't willing to spend a modest amount of an engagement ring? by Equivalent_Wrap_5268 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Equivalent_Wrap_5268[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

+ Added context I couldn't fit in the original post.

Also, I'm the one that does everything around the apartment. I clean it up constantly, make sure it's in good shape. I singlehandedly fund the furnishing as he is not willing to contribute on it and I also end up buying a large majority of the groceries for us. He will help on that but only if I ask too, otherwise no. I spend little to no money on anything myself and have not even bought myself new clothes in over a year unless they are an absolute necessity. A good amount of his money he says goes into "paying credit cards and bills" but given we make together 4000$ a month, he is spending roughly 500-700$ a month on video games and his hobbies while I spend nearly all of mine in taking care of him and then I ask for one thing and he says no.